Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
By now most of us are familiar with the many sexual assault and harassment claims by women across politics and business, Hollywood and even news anchors. The slogan #metoo has been used in an effort to empower other women to speak up about their own traumatic events of improper sexual activities and comments. This mytake is not intended to diminish any of the serious allegations SO MANY women are now speaking out about but to rather get the views of women who have faced these issues as well as those who have not to try and better understand how gender plays a role in how sexual assault is viewed.
It starts when my career started over 20 years ago in the financial services industry. I was just a young, ambitious but naive kid who had done an internship while in college and was fortunate enough to get a job offer following by graduation. I had met most of the employees when I interned but nobody really paid me any attention as I was seated in a tiny cubicle away from most of the office hustle and bustle calling on prospective investment clients and mailing them various research pieces on the stocks, bonds or mutual funds they were interested in. It wasn’t until I was hired, passed all my licensing exams and became one of the 18 suit wearing stock brokers in the office did my #metoo issues begin.
In addition to the 17 other older men brokers, the firm had one female broker and another 10-12 support staff of mostly women working in the branch.
On one of my first days, I had to walk the length of the office and could overhear women’s whispers, whistles and comments such as “ooh, things are looking up around here” and “look at that hot ass”, or “finally some eye candy around here.”
I was fairly shy and didn’t comment back but I do remember actually feeling good about the comments. As the days and weeks went by, the comments continued and a couple of the women even began smacking my ass as I walked by. I always handled it as good natured including me in the “club” kind of razzing.
I had the one female broker asking me to work on joint projects with her and when she was having marital problems, she’d invite me out for cocktails after work to discuss “business”. Through all of it I just went along because I had been a shy guy growing up and frankly the attention was flattering, I wanted to fit in and succeed at my first real job.
Then it got serious. One day we had a high ranking female broker from the New York City Branch visiting and working in our office as she had a summer house in the area. She was a very large African American woman who had done very well for herself despite the fact that this industry is/was run mostly by men, white men. I was impressed by this. After work on Friday we all went out and I easily had too many drinks trying to fit in with the older and more senior firm members who were buying the martinis.
Well, this one visiting New York female broker said “you really shouldn’t drive home, where do you live?” I told her my address and she said it was on her way home and she’d get me home safe. I remember getting to my drive way and she offered to help walk me in. (I was REALLY drunk) once inside, she said “where’s your bedroom? I’m putting you to bed” we get to the bedroom and I flopped down in the bed only to feel her taking off my shoes (this is nice of her I thought) then she undid my pants, pulling them completely off and next my shirt. (I was out of it but there enough to just think ok I don’t want to pass out in my clothes.) THEN she attempted to pull down my boxers so I said no, I’m ok thank you for helping me, I’m good now. But she didn’t stop and although I’m 6’4” and when sober could easily overpower her, I was so dizzy I just didn’t have the strength to stop it and quite frankly never imagined how far it would actually go.
She took down my shorts and began fondling me. At first with her hand then I could feel the warmth of her mouth. And although I said “no” and “you can stop now” she didn’t. Then she said something like “I can’t leave now that’s all hard like that.” Then she quickly stripped down, got on top of me, slid it into her and began riding. I was so drunk I wouldn’t stay hard and this seemed to frustrate her so she tried with her mouth again and it was then that I just pushed her head away and said I just need to sleep. She made some comment and said this’ll be our little secret and I can help you in this business if you let me. She left and I passed out completely.
The next morning I first thought it had to be a dream but as my menory came back I wrote down all I could remember from the nights events. Never knowing if this event would need to be spoken of again. I've since become fairly successful on my own, never saw or spoke to that woman again but the one who regularly smacked my ass in the hallways continued for years even after I’d resigned from that firm, (as irony would have it, the branch manager was fired for sexual harassment and many of the women were paid off to keep quiet). I went on to open my own company, I’d see her in the grocery store where she’d say “turn around so I can smack that hot ass of yours.”
While sexual assault is supposedly not acceptable regardless of the genders, victims or perpetrators, we all know it’s really just not acceptable for men to assault women. So I'd be interested to hear women’s thought on these events.
Thanks for letting me share my #metoo story.
What Girls & Guys Said
14 20This is sad to read, women are sexual assaulting guys too.
Yes. Take the red pill. Women do that all the time. They don;t think anything of it cause they are taught the world revolves around them and there are no consequences.
They even accuse you of doing something cause they think that you should be punished if you don;t satisfy them. They are taught that people are around to satisfy them and anything less is injustice.
Thank you for sharing. Behavior like this (people taking sexual advantage of another when inebriated) is NOT ok.
I posted it here already: A woman wanted to give me a #blowjob for gaining #money from me. I rejected her. And I have heard/read about a foreigner who let her #pussy being #licked while she sent "supportive" (read: #blackmailing on the husband) money to her parents. When he founds out by finding all those #WesternUnion forms in his house, he asked her to stop it. Then she refused him to lick her pussy again until he pays again.
My uncle had similar situation he was still 30 years old when a manager of company used to do perverted things.. She told him if you want to go up in career you have to sleep with me... so he had to leave the job. I just see how there is double standarts if a guy rejects a woman she dosn't care she can force you to have sex with her... and it wouldn't be considered rape? Because by Feminist standarts she is making a favor to a guy. As well in school if a female teacher had sex with kid student its okey... she's a female while a guy is pervert and pedophile... so we live in this double standart society... Where is mens rights?
Personally, I take it as a compliment... but that's me. I'm sorry you had that experience... no one should be made to feel that way.
I don't think it's ever a compliment if someone goes against what you say.
@Kkaos This comment isn't about you.
Irrelevant. It's never a compliment.
@Kkaos Quite relevant, you commented with an opinion.
I wish girls treated me like this.
I admire your courage to share your story here, I actually wouldn't dare to
My respect for you man !!!
And I always say that if a man don't feel comfortable being objectified he should speak loudly about that. and fuck the people who will laugh at this.
tl;dr
#metoo
Not adding any real value, spamming hash tags is not right.
This reminds me of what happened to me little brother at my hen party. We were all drunk and the party was well under way, he came down the stairs to go out to his friends when some of the women (including an aunt and cousins) grabbed him and stripped him off and wanked him off in front of us all, they laughed because though he's short and skinny he's kinda big down there. I feel bad because I was so drunk I egged them on until he ejaculated. He ran out of the house with his jeans in his hands.
did you just say we was gang wanked by his aunt and cousins and you supported it?
@troychapman we are all far too drunk
Holy shit! Family Christmas dinners must be interesting.
Wow. Proud family bonding moment. If sexual assault is fun for the whole family, Yours has serious issues. I’m sorry your brother had to endure that.
thats basically what they did he obviously hated it it notice how she said he ran out of the house with his jeans in his hands he hated it so much he didn't even put his trousers back on first its pretty damn bad if a family does that. its like the equivalent of a girls dad and his brothers grabbing her and fingering her to orgasm its pretty fucked up!
@troychapman yeah, twistedly so. i wonder if the little brother was ever able to heal from that shit.
It wasn't really the family just an aunt cousins and a few of my friends
Still family, albeit not immediate. You don't expect your family to be sexual at all with any of their family.
i think maybe its neither fair or ok for us to judge however
@troychapman somebody needs to explain how wrong that was. The poster clearly doesn’t seem to get it.
I get that it was wrong. But how do you talk about it.
You could start by apologizing to your little brother.
Sorry I stood by in shock as you involuntarily got a handjob in front of 30 women?
i guess thats the problem you seem to think sexual interaction from women is a gift to males even if they dont want it let me make it clear sexual interaction to males is no more valued than sexual interaction towards females its not a divine gift or reward or some kind of blessing it is what it is supposed to be a show of love between 2 people. and your under the assumption that he would just enjoy it because he's a male and they are females nope not the case lol sexual interaction is exactly the same as it is with females sure when a man and a women both want sex its desired a little bit more by the man but generally its to be treated the same way you would treat it towards a woman
nope you can simply just apologize and say you didn't really know what you were doing and you see now it was wrong either way i dont think your a sicko or anything only that you made a mistake its upto you if you want to come clean and right this wrong or not either way i dont think your a bad person or anything for it
YES! Close to how you should start the conversation but more like this... “Sorry I stood by in shock as you involuntarily got sexually assaulted in front of 30 women”
You really just let that happen to your brother, you stupid , filthy b*tch? Congrats, you brother hates you now. He will never forgive you for doing nothing, and he will never forget that you egged them on. This is the kind of guy who will end up being a rapist that rapes and might even kill random women off the streets
@lord_chilled I’d tend to agree with that. At the very least, he is forever changed from that day.
I know plenty of women who think that it’s not possible, and you must have wanted it to get that drunk... you know... imply that you were “asking for it.” Something that they would NEVER have the audacity to say about another woman in the same situation.
It’s disgusting no matter who’s doing it to who. But it’s odd just how many women I know who still can’t see the irony if their beliefs that a male can’t have that happen to them.
Had a woman slap me in the butt, randomly grab and try to tweak my nipples, etc. I didn’t say anything (young and dumb and didn’t want to get fired or rock the boat), but it happens to guys more than a lot of people think... partly because it’s swept under the rug.