I'm A Virgin Because I'm Waiting For The Right Person

Im A Virgin Because Im Waiting For The Right Person

I'm A Virgin Because I'm Waiting For The Right Person:

If you've stumbled onto this take because you want me to produce some romantic gxrbxge — I wish you luck.

You're gonna find none of it. That's your cue to skip this take!

If you're still here, hey.

So the right person, that's not a person, in fact it's a clickbait — more so than ever, it means a decent person who may rock your world or totally sxck in bed, but doesn't make you want to pxnch a wall later.

1. It doesn't matter if they're good. They should respect me, they should view whatever arrangements we have (or one night stand) with positivity.

That's one thing I cannot get from men. So maybe I'd lose it to a woman. Maybe not.

2. I'd feel safer in losing to a friend. But I'm not attracted to most of my friends, a thing that surprises many since I'm bisexual and all.

I'd also prefer if someone asks me "what are your kinks?" Instead of "how do you know you're bisexual?" And spews something about female sexuality being "flexible" — if that were the case, I'd have already lost my v card. LoL. Not to mention — that opinion is based on porno research, very invalid.

3. Somebody who returns the favour.

I'd love to have one of those givers, the ones that just love to please their partners in bed, because honestly that sounds wonderful.

But as I said, no romantic implications on this take, so that might be a tall order to give, yes? Which is why, if you expect oral, I'd want the favour returned. If that's icky — find the givers, I ain't one.

Not if it's an unfair deal.

4. Somebody adventurous... If you get what I mean.

I don't have high expectations for my first time. As you can see, I'm past my teen so I'm laying thin on the expectations part.

But I'd just love, absolutely love a sub guy that wants to try each and every of my kink. If we don't like it or if either of us gets uncomfortable — that's okay.

I generally dislike people who judge easily.

Also, on the topic of subs, you need to have your limitations, you need to know them.

I'm sure that goes without saying but some guys on NSFW twitter say they would do EVERYTHING the domme wants, like.. that's impossible. And a lack of healthy self esteem.

You can ask more about this opinion session or DM, the latter is much appreciated.

5. Normal sex without BDSM is also fine.

Because due to personal reasons — I wouldn't want to be dominated, ever. One of my limits, Ig.

6. If you brag to your friends about it — there's never gonna be a second time.

I don't share such details of my private life and I'd appreciate it if you don't either.

My ex crush once commented on her long term crush's size — I wasn't even her best friend and I felt insulted. He dodged a bullet, I'd say.

Hence she's my ex crush and not current one.

It's also icky because it means you can't keep a secret, like my dad. That's the association that generally guarantees my loss of interest.

7. Don't smoke in front of me.

Once again, my dad's body odour is freaking nicotine.

So I'd probably destroy the mood by lecturing you on it.

Unless that's hot, for you. Well is it? Do tell.

8. Curiousity killed the cat.

If you're that good, satisfaction might bring it back.

But don't ask questions you're better off without knowing. I made this mistake once, and I didn't like his answers, destroyed the whole attraction thing.

I've done stuff I'm not proud of. And unless it's an amusing story, I wouldn't disclose it.

Unless we're seeing each other, exclusively or otherwise. That's a different case.

Boys who respect my boundaries are instantly attractive. As you'd know, when a person is asked a question and has been given the freedom to say no, they usually consider saying yes.

9. I love when boys blush and girls rebel. Different scenarios — I'm not doing threesome, at least not for my first.

10. When a shy guy retorts back — that's when I'm fully turned on.

I know the guys I've been interested in will never say such things to anybody else — makes me rejoice that I bring that side out.

Verbal foreplay, winky wink.

With that being said, no you don't have to be astute and witty (like me) (jk) — say the first thing that comes up, but I'd tease back more ruthlessly — depending on your reaction.

I've been told I'm wild and I need to tone it down.. but I'd want someone to appreciate that side of me, I can't be guarded and brooding all the time.. Why am I telling you this again? Beats me.

11. I'm okay with toys.

I've never tried them but would love to. Unless it's butt plug or something. But I would love to watch somebody else using one of themselves.. Just saying.

12. If you watch yaoi, you're already my favourite.

13. I'm not to crazy about the traditional BDSM stuff like contract, playroom, whip,.. but I'll keep my mind open.

14. Security reasons... Period it. It's why I'd wanna bang a friend, I don't trust people with my body — I know, it's pretty embarrassing.

15. Please don't ghost me.

The standard "I'll call you" means "see you never again" — and that's okay.

But rather than avoiding me, just say it to my face, if there's anything at all.

People have based assumptions that only romantic partners communicate... That's BS.

If you're a friend, you don't have to call, because I will. Just say no. Don't mince your words.

I love you if it's a yes (emotionally, but non romantically, a concept lost on amatonormative culture).

Not today also works.

16. I don't like to eat with people, unless you're friends with me.

I'm a messy eater, another habit that I genuinely would like to cover.

By friends, I mean close friends who have sex sometimes. That's the ideal. Sometimes, coz my drive ain't that high. I don't think experience will change much. Still.

17. My mom must never catch the air of this. Ever. Remember, she's not dad (cue : liberal).

18. I'd love to lose it to a fictional character — roleplayers and cosplayers, come forward.

19. No glove no love.

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Most Helpful Guys

  • Sounds like you know what you want.

    ”I've been told I'm wild and I need to tone it down..” - No need to tone it down. Just be yourself.

    “Somebody who returns the favour.” - There are plenty of people who enjoy giving pleasure. Just have to find one.

    “I'd feel safer in losing to a friend.” - This is one of my requirements. It’s way less risky than with someone who isn’t a friend. One way is to go on several dates with a person and see if mutual affection and friendship grows before having sex.

    “Sometimes, coz my drive ain't that high.” - This can change. A lot of women find their drive gets higher around their late twenties or thirties. The fact that this can change is why it’s good to find someone who is really into you and to be able to meet in the middle when it comes to desired frequency of sex.

    Anyway, interesting and honest take!

    • Thanks, Marek!

    • Thanks for the comment on my drive. I didn't know that.

    • You’re welcome. A lot of people don’t know many women have peak sex drive around thirty and sometimes again shortly before or after menopause.

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  • Fair play that you know what you want but just be warned, thats a very specific ask and you'll be hard pressed to find someone who ticks all the boxes (unless they are faking it to make it... if you get my meaning). You may very well need to make concessions. You will most probably need to give in on some points and find middle ground.
    Imagine if everyone had a list of requirements this long, there would be hardly any matches at all, if any. No two people will perfectly align in terms of wants and needs from a relationship. As well as that, people change over time. Wants and needs change. If you cling to rigidity, you may find yourself alone because you refuse to change. Thats just my opinion obviously, don't take it as law. I just believe this to be a valid standing on the individuality of people.

    • Of course

    • I'd be lucky to find somebody who even ticks four.

    • Well in that case, you have an amazing chance of finding someone and I really wish you the best of luck and happy times.

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Most Helpful Girls

  • Great Take. I’m really impressed by how in depth you’ve thought about all this.

    • Thanks so much for your kind words!

    • You’re welcome!

  • Girl if you want to wait for the right guy you go right ahead!!

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  • Great my take

  • Do it. Hold out. It’s a beautiful gift to give to yourself by enjoying that moment and having a good memory.

  • i enjoyed reading this. tnx.

  • Interesting take, hopefully you find someone who matches with what you want in sex.

    • Honestly reading this post , I have no clue if I count as a virgin or not. I only had a blowjob once. Am I still a virgin?

    • I wouldn't consider you a virgin.

  • Minus 12, 16, and 18 I've always been in the exact same boat. That's why it never happened until a few weeks ago 🤷‍♂️ it was definitely worth the wait though!

    Also slightly related, giving is probably my biggest kink. Nothing gets me off more than pleasuring my partner 😁

    That's also why I want to become a pro at oral

  • Good stay that way until a great guy

  • Keep this as a scroll and unroll it to potential partners. That would be funny.

    • Maybe I will x

  • Nice take. Thanks for sharing. I'm looking for something a bit different, but I enjoyed reading and listening to your aspirations here nonetheless.

    • Of course

  • Not for much longer, college here i come ;)

  • hah virgin

    • Everyone is a virgin at one point.

    • @zachgoat308 yeah, it says that in the title. Yay, you can read!

  • I agree with most of the things. I disagree with the dead cat, though. All three of our living cats are still alive. In the past, many of our cats died due to dis-ease, so curiosity has nothing to do with it. Curiosity is the wick in the candle of learning.

    • Got it x

  • Very well written. I wish you the best o& luck and do hope you find the man of your dreams.

    • Or woman <3 Thanks for reading x

    • Either or. I enjoyed your My Take.

    • I'm glad

  • You are open minded and a cool girl

  • I already know these lol 😉.

    Plus I must state that you are actually open minded for a first timer

  • That's a great take! Like other people are saying, it's impressive that you've thought about it so in depth. Also I'm happy to reply to what you said in it if you want, just lmk.

    • Sure.

    • Is that a yes you want me to say what I think ab each one?

    • Yes yes

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  • I'm happy for you

  • i am 44 and i kept waiting for the right person , so not sure what should i tell u.

    but i have been a bit reserved and my circumstances and chances were liimited with female interaction so... i am still waiting

    if you have more chances... better to wait for one

  • Good for you cutie girl 💋 keep your self pure 😘 I Am Also technically a virgin to from guys 🙈 i am bisexual and mostly been with girls! this one guy i only touched him because he was humungously way to big and thick for me and I was scared 😳. so i rather stay pure and natural 🙈, more girls should let it grow hairy lmao i swear its an amazing sensation compared to shaved

  • Have you ever had a boyfriend or first love?

    • I have