I’m a virgin but my girlfriend isn’t? I don’t know if I can handle this. Does anyone have perspective?

[casanova411]

I have had a good bit of experience with women however I never got to level where we knew each other well. So I just didn’t feel right having sex with them. I always thought at least I should wait for someone that I have strong connection with. For not just me for everyone. So as time past I became 22 and I never had sex or a girlfriend. It was more circumstance than anything else. I met my current girlfriend and she never had A boyfriend either and she was my age we had instant connection and we seemed perfect for each other we speak each other’s language like I never seen before we both love each other now. However, she said she lost her virginity three weeks before she met me. Because she gave up on meeting someone special because she was so old. I couldn’t imagine that this would happen. I waited so much for the right person but now I regret it and feel so insecure and uncomfortable about her past. I also don’t want to break up because of this it will be too cruel for her and I will regret it. I was just hoping I could get perspective from someone who experienced this. Or anyone.

[Chaz269]

Well, you're in a pickle. If you can't sort out your prejudice and insecurity, it may lead to resentment. Resentment destroys not just relationships, but lives. On the other hand, you're into her, and she you, so breaking up would hurt both of you. I'd say get professional help. It reads as though it's more your issue than hers, so find someone you can talk to, but be open to couples counseling too, cuz it may move in that direction.
In my opinion, it's not a big deal. She's had 1 partner. Statistically, she probably didn't really even enjoy it much. DON'T ASK! That's none of your business, honestly, and you probably can't handle that anyway. Point is, there are a lot of things you can learn about each other together, things that still NO ONE ELSE knows. And even if you don't get to be her first, you CAN be her best and her last.

[Prakbio]

Break up !!! why? man you waites 22 years to find her and now you are giving up on her.. i guess you will need 22 more years to find other or may not.. so it should not be based on her past or your past leave past focus on future.. thats it

[casanova411]

That’s what she tells me but she has nothing to feel insecure about.

[Prakbio]

still i guess you should be with her.. she was with one guy only she. is not promiscuous.. feelings are more important than anything else and it is your lifes decision so it is totally upto you.

[Prakbio]

let us know what is your final decision?

[casanova411]

she broke up with me after 10 months im so crushed. i was just about to finally have sex and i overcame my insecurity about it but at that instant she broke up.

[Prakbio]

Actually sometimes confronting someone for his mistakes breaks them.. all people do not have same temper.. you should think in other way earlier you were about to leave her now think that you left her or things don't work.. you are 22 you will find many other girls.. you need to overcome one thinking that if you are virgin that doesn't mean that all other are virgin too.. earlier I was like you but this thinking is wrong.. think like that "virginity is not dignity it is lack of opportunity" so if i did not get a girl that does not mean that girl is also that much unlucky... move on man.. look for other girls be confident. don''t go for hooker it will make you feel more worst..

[Jenny4455]

I've always disliked viewing it like this. Having sex for the first time doesn't involve losing anything. It's a gaining of new experiences and if you find someone else having life experiences you don't intimidating then you'll always be intimidated because people will always have different ones to you.
Be brave and learn something new

[Littlegal]

If u think a lot are innocent you need to wake up. Dont project your shit on her. Get laid and u will see what ur missing out on.

[truthbeknown]

Ultimately you need to get over yourself. If you keep waiting, life will pass you by. She just made that decision before you did.

[MrNameless]

So what if your girl friend isn't a virgin and did it because of peer pressure? Of course the average girls her age is gonna be dating other guys and having first experiences with them before they meet you at that age. There's no such thing as soulmates. If you wanna break up with her, then you don't deserve her with your insecurities and holy art thou attitude, and should just look for some religious virgin.

[Logorithim]

You should be glad you've met someone compatible. Many of us lost our virginity with a Girl who wasn't a virgin herself. Don't let that stop you from being with the Girl you want.

[Berethor]

Well it sucks, but it was her poor choice to waste her first time on other guy.

[BigSails]

If you want to wait for a virgin by all means do so
BUT if you have feelings for this girl then don’t let this get in the way of something that could be great
Two people who really care about each other don’t come along very often

[jimyee]

If you're pathetic enough to think it's a big deal then break up with her and let her find someone better.

[BigRob420]

Just stick it to her and get it over with.

[red_knight]

Get over it. If you can't get over a piece traditional thinking you'll end up being a judgmental person over thinking everything

[MarketData]

If your girlfriend is doing her job you won't be a virgin for long.

[deafsnoid]

Virgin ity is way overrated

[Anonymous]

Virginity is a nothing thing. A myth. A farce. Don't wreck a relationship over something so trivial.