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I'm a nineteen year old virgin and I never been on a date. I don't see the point in waiting anymore. I'm not waiting till marriage or a relationship happens because I can see why it's pointless. I just want to get my fear of sex over with.
Why not wait till marriage?
Most women these days end up getting married in their late twenties or later in life. Most men have no interest in continuing to date a woman who's waiting till marriage, and I'm not interested in lowering my dating pool and excluding awesome guys by waiting till marriage. As a woman, I know I will get more and more horny as I get older so I'd be very unhappy and bitter until I wait till marriage. If I wait till marriage, there's also the possibility that I find out that my future husband and I aren't sexually compatible. I feel that it's very important for me to have some experience with sex and know what I want sexually before I get married to the person.
The expectation of a woman waiting till marriage or a relationship is rooted in misogyny
Why is it a very big deal to lose your virginity but your first time driving or your first kiss is not that big of deal? How come barely anyone expects guys to wait till marriage or a relationship? There's way more women voluntarily waiting till marriage than there are guys voluntarily waiting till marriage, so something is obviously wrong here. There's a double standard of prejudice that women should be pure and men should try to sleep with many women as they can. How does that not fit the definition of sexism? As a woman, I don't support or promote any form of misogyny so fuck that.
Why not wait till a relationship or the "right" guy?
I'm not psychic or smart enough to know who will be the "right" guy. How can anyone be that psychic or smart enough to know who the right person is for them and if that person will be with them forever. You never know what the future can hold. It takes a very long time to know another person well enough. Either I or he might realize later on were not meant to be, and as I said earlier, most guys aren't willing to wait that long to know you like that. People change as they get older. And shit can happen in relationships. Divorce and breakups happen a lot these days. It would be very unrealistic of me to expect that the first guy I do it with will be the last guy I do it with.
I heard it's very common for emotions to be tied into sex when you're in love with the person. If the first guy I have sex with is also the first guy I fall in love with, I know I would be very emotionally devastated if he eventually breaks my heart down the road and I would regret losing my virginity to him.
Rape is more common than you think
As much as I try to "prevent" it from happening to me, there are many stories of girls getting raped in the most unexpected times and places. I'm really not interested in potentially losing my virginity to a rapist. I'm a college student and it's more common for girls around my age to get raped. I feel like the longer I wait, I put myself in more risk of having my first time with a rapist.
Who do I want to do it with?
Some guy who I find physically attractive, who doesn't have an STD, who is single, who I'm not in love with or have a crush on, who is okay with kissing and cuddling me, who listens to me and won't do something I'm not comfortable with, who I can trust enough to have sex with, who I don't consider relationship material but as friend and fuck buddy material, who doesn't have a horrible personality or an attitude, who's readily available and lives near me, who wants to be my fuck buddy until May, and who's not having sex with multiple people and is willing to only have sex with me until May. When I go back to school after finals, I want to find a fuck buddy and I do have some guys in mind.
What Girls & Guys Said
21 50Wait... I don't believe the girl in that photo is a virgin !!! LOL
Uh... okay
What made you give this response?
My reaction to your post, which can be summarized succinctly as "meh."
Just do it no point in overthinking
"Some guy who I find physically attractive, who doesn't have an STD, who is single, who I'm not in love with or have a crush on, who is okay with kissing and cuddling me, who listens to me and won't do something I'm not comfortable with, who I can trust enough to have sex with, who I don't consider relationship material but as friend and fuck buddy material, who doesn't have a horrible personality or an attitude, who's readily available and lives near me, who wants to be my fuck buddy until May, and who's not having sex with multiple people and is willing to only have sex with me until May."
Umm... good luck! You'll definitely need it if that's what you want...
Same
Lol it always crack me up when someone who is teenagers feels they have to justify being a virgin, try being 31? People literally believe you should have had sex by the time you where 13.
I agree so hardcore. I'm 19 years old as well and never had sex and it's really making me feel bad because I'm a horny person and I feel ready, and old and fit enough for sex. My requirements are actually quite low by now, I just want to sleep with somebody whom I'm compatible with and whom I like as a human. And I don't even get the big deal about girls who like to have sex, like why you mad at a girl for getting some dick? In my life so far I had a few moments where guys offered me to have sex with them, but if the connection isn't there, we just don't do it. Period.
I still plan on waiting though 🙂
I agree.
Virginity is an old thing when people didn't have contraceptives or paternity tests. lol.
Seriously, I couldn't give a shit if she has had sex before. I prefer it. It means I don't have to teach her a lot of things.
However, I'm more for people having ONE person to fuck. Multiple partners is multiple problems.
You make some very valid points. But you should also know that people who wait are more likely to be satisfied and stay married.
My wife and I never waited for each other, but we have a happy marriage. It's all about working on it, letting go of BS and working together.
Seems like a very long justification. Do what you want!
Good for you. 😊 I rather wait for a good relationship and my boyfriend is just that. Sure we might break up in the future and yes my heart would be broken but still I rather have sex with someone I love and trust.
No rush maybe it’s not the “Right Guy” maybe it’s the right girl.
I dont get modern society smh
I'm 42 and still a virgin, I'm a 42-year-old-virgin, I have never had any kind of relationship, romantic or sexually, been on a date, all even have had a girlfriend, I'm a lose course, but your only 19 and have time on your side
All your reasonings are completely wrong. Saving your virginity is how you can date the best men possible. Losing your virginity is how you get stuck with the bottom of the barrel. The men who won't date you now because you are a virgin are the bottom of the barrel. So you will give up the best quality men for them? Makes no sense.
You want a handsome, successful, awesome guy? Well fyi handsome successful men get to be picky with who they date. When they want to settle down they can just say "hmm id only marry a virgin" and some of the guys like this do set that as a standard. So all these top guys who girls want, WOULD LOOK AT YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE A VIRGIN and turn all the other girls away.
I am speaking from experience, I am on the taller side, athletic, good looking, wealthy asf. I will not date a girl who has ever hooked up or had a friends with benefits and no girl that has had sex with more than 5 men. And if she wants marriage she must be a virgin. Otherwise we would just live together and have kids out of wedlock. I can afford to be this picky because I get lots of girls and I just throw out numbers tbh and block girls all the time. I still meet girls regularly enough who meet my requirements.
Lastly, its not sexist at all. Every additional man a girl has sex with, makes her more likely to cheat or divorce in the future. Just think about it, who is more likely to rob a bank? A man who robbed 5 banks in the past or just a random man who never did? Who is more likely to paint a picture, a painter who has painted many times before, or someone who never tried art before? Who is more likely to cheat, a girl who slept around or a virgin who believed in the importance of waiting?
Successful men are very afraid to get married because we can lose a lot of money in divorce and child support and such. So the wealthiest men often will not touch a girl who hooks up, too dangerous. If I marry a woman and she cheats, I am not staying hell no, but I would also have to give her over a million dollars if I had to split my assets up or pay her thousands of dollars a month. WTF. Hellllll no. I will never marry a non virgin.
Good for you
Yeah basically you just want to fuck and try to find excuses for it.
I can only say I wish I was that guy
Seek and you shall find, Well done.