I'm a virgin, my girlfriend's not. Any tips for a first time?

[Anonymous]

this is the first relationship I've ever been in, so I've never been laid before, but my girlfriend had sexual experience in the past. although we've been together for half a year, we haven't talked about sex yet. since we're planning to live together soon, it'll probably come to it. what should I know in order not to screw up? what is it you wished you'd known before your first time? i'm really nervous about it, so any tips, even the obvious ones, would be appreciated from both girls and guys. thank you

[RearEntryGuy]

My suggestions:

1) talk before entering the bedroom about

A) position, I suggest Cowgirl. You will probably cum fast, hence remind her to have an orgasm before PIV.

B) foreplay. You probably only seen in porn. Likely not very practical except maybe rough sex. So put them aside.

Learn to give her a full body massage, start with non-sensual. (Plenty of educational video for that)

Then after 20 minutes, proceed to sensual ones. This means rubbing her naked butt and thighs, teasing her clitoris, perhaps a bj if you dare, and try fingering her.

Yes talk to her about these.

2) after you undress in the bedroom, keep the lights up, possibly dim.

Girls like to be more romantic. Hence kiss more. Cuddle more.

If you're giving bj, suggest to bathe together and you wash her private parts.

3) the rest are SOP drills. Take it slow, don't think of PIV until 30 minutes later.

Try to hold. Pause if you must.

Sex is more than PIV. Foreplay is fun too.

4) I suggest cowgirl. This is because all you need is to lie back and let her do the job.

And yes, moan when you feel good. She will feel good hearing you cum.

Finally, you may "feel nothing" or "is that all to sex?"

Don't leave her just like that. Try 10 more times. Sex becomes better through time.

Have fun and congratulations!

[AD240pCharlie]

Your experience or lack thereof doesn't necessarily mean anything for how good the sex will be. Plenty of people who have had many partners will end up thinking that because of their experience they already know how to pleasure a man/woman so they won't even bother trying to communicate and listen to what their partner wants. After all, just because you knew how to pleasure your previous 20 partners, that doesn't mean you'll know how to pleasure the next.

[PrettyPriya]

First times are always a bit clumsy. Doesn’t matter virgin or not. First time with a new partner is a time to figure likes/dislikes and learn each other’s rhythm.

My best advice is to not worry! Also, talk to her about it. Let her lead.

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for MHO! ❤️

[SnakeBoop]

the main tip is to speak to your partner about what she likes and what you like.
and also know its okay to stop if things feel out of control/needs changing

[Berethor]

She is not a virgin, while you are, so maybe she should tell you what to do.

[awkward_author]

Don't ignore the clitoris, ask her what she enjoys in bed, and listen to her response.

[yuviii2012]

Follow what goes on and do not force things to happen good if they are not.

[Twalli]

Since you're a virgin and she's not, have missionary sex first. That's the best position for virgin guys. As for before sex, make sure you engage in long foreplay. She needs to be wet when you go in, and the wetter it is, the easier it is to enter.

[Anonymous]

My guess is you had to be the one to pursue her or ask her out