I'm afraid to have sex because I'm really insecure about my vagina. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I've always turned down any opportunity for sex that I've had because I'm simply so unbelievably insecure about my vagina. i have an outie so it doesn't really match beauty standards, and on top of that i just don't find her attractive whatsoever. I'm scared anyone I'll ever be intimate with will be turned off by the way it looks or feels or that they'll even laugh. Is that an actual possibility or just my mind playing games?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Having an “outie” is fairly common. Guys have their preferences of course, just like women have their preferences in penis size.
But listen, most guys don’t care what it looks like as long as it’s clean, doesn’t smell, doesn’t have diseases, and anything of that nature. Not every vulva is going to look like a slit between the legs. That’s simply unrealistic and boring. They come in all different shapes and sizes and that’s the beauty in it.
If you run into someone who will shame or make fun of you for your vulva, tell them to go screw themselves, they are lucky to even see it or be near it.

[ohshee]

Stop stop stop stop quit doing that to yourself you're fine it's just another way for you to have a reason not to have sex that's all it is is because since you think then you must be right but that's not the case I don't even know what it any and now he is LOL but if you have a big Mound if that's what you're talkin about I would not only make love to you slow and deep I would probably taste you for about an hour the before I put my cock in it I would slowly seduce you and tease you our mind is a very powerful thing don't use it that way because then you will start to believe it and once you start to believe it it changes your destiny don't do that to yourself I'm sure you're perfect I'm sure you're hot I'm sure you're sexy just going through it just like that and enjoy it do not allow that moment to take over your mind and ruin it for you I would love to talk to you because I have so many things I would tell you

[genericname85]

well guess what. if you're insecure, just show it to someone to feel less insecure. you won't get rid of insecurity by hiding it forever xD
also which freaking "standards" are you talking about? it's not like a dick where if you're under 3 inches you will probably not find a girl that you'll be able to please with your dick. there's all sorts of preferences for vaginas. some like the innie type, some the outie and it's pretty much 50:50. so you'll find some guys that don't prefer what you have but i don't think oyu'll find a guy that straight up doesn't wanna have sex with you because of this.

[allielynn]

thats crazy, how is there beauty standards for a fucking vagina? I think that maybe if you just try it once, you'll see that it doesn't matter. Everyone is different and there's no possible way you could control how big it is. If there happens to be a guy though who judges you because of it then fuck him! He doesn't deserve your time.

[PrettyPriya]

I think you are overthinking it. Let's put it this way, everyone's anatomy is a bit different. There is nothing that makes yours ugly or any more different from the next girl.

If your future partner has an issue with the aesthetics of it, he isn't worth your time. He should be lucky enough to see your body, let alone judge something like that.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Your more common than you think and guys don't really are, if they do. He is the wrong guy for you, find a new one.

You have nothing to worry about. I suggest the first few times, if he cares about you to have the lights out or dimmed.

[CuriousJC]

I'm not trying to be sexual, but you shouldn't really give a damn what anybody says or thinks about your crotch. If anyone can't accept you and what it looks like between your legs then that person does not deserve to have sex with you. I don't know what you look like or what it look like between your legs, but all women pussies are sacred places that should be only be revealed for boyfriend or girlfriends in loyal and committed relationships.

[Daniela1982]

Didn't you already ask this once? Seems to have the same wording and concerns.

[Berethor]

You can ask him if he okay with outie or not.

[pixie215]

im not being rude but look at nudes of woman on the internet we are all different, no guy who loves you will give a rats ass

[slatyb]

Get over it. It's perfect. They are all perfect. This is not something men care about.

[RawIronhide]

Yeah people won't laugh, guys don't care much, they all look a little different anyway, trust me just learn to give good head you'll be fine.

[boggboss]

You are simply being insecure u are not meant to find your own parts attractive lol that aside plenty of women have the same type of u do u really think men are not attracted to it

[TadCurious]

Having a vulva where the inner labia are longer and visible is perfectly normal and very common. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

[Citizenkirk]

There is nothing wrong with your vagina, and screw beauty standards. Outies are fine

[scuff1986]

sounds like your just talking yourself out of sex, more than actually being afraid of what people will think

[Razp_Sorbet]

Just your mind. Nobody cares. Actually a lot of guys love a vulva like that.

[anon1903]

Unless you poop from there, he doesn't care.

[FunkyMonkee]

There's nothing to worry about! It's HIGHLY unlikely a guy worth having won't make fun of it or think it's disgusting! If any guy you're with doesn't love you for YOU, he's not worth your time!

[FilmGuy93]

That's entirely in your imagination. If you're really that worried, have sex with the lights off until you get more comfortable.

[Koneko911]

I'm taking it you have an outie like I do. But mine is severe on that though. But in all honesty men don't care. A vagina is a vagina to them. It's only immature teenaged boys who can't get pussy who shame vaginas for looking different when it's insanely natural

[VikingWarLord]

I doubt it's that bad, send me a DM I've banged 500+ and never once did I see a vagina that was THAT ugly

[Mr1derful]

Nothing wrong with that at all! Don't sweat something like that for one minute. Most of the girls I've been with had outies and I like them. Honestly I love to lick and suck on them when I'm giving oral and she says it feels amazing. Don't be afraid. Go for it and don't think about it.

[AndrésC64]

It's normal for everyone to have insecurities about their body. I think that's the thing that we all have to remember. We are all different and everyone is insecure. If someone is getting that intimate with your lady parts, then they should just be glad they have the opportunity.