I’m asexual why do people assume I should have to be alone forever and not date. Isn’t that unfair, don’t I deserve to be happy too?

[Anonymous]

Im asexual and noticed while searching many on this site believe because of that I shouldn’t be in a relationship because it’s “unfair” to the other person. It already feels like shit having everyone tell me I’ll never find anyone because I’m ace but it’s worse knowing it’s expected for me to sacrifice all romantic love because I was born like this. It makes me want to cry a because one of my biggest dreams since childhood was to grow up, fall in love, get married, and have family (only time I would have sex) and since I’ve come to terms with my sexuality it’s honestly makes me wanna kms since it’s all gone there’s no fucking hope and everyone thinks I should be alone forever

[slatyb]

It’s not unfair if you are honest about it. Then you can meet a man who feels the same way. We frequently see questions on GAG from women dating men who won’t have sexual with them for one reason or another.

[luuciillaaa]

I fully understand how you feel. Trust me. And look, you really don't have to think like that. You are valuable just the way you are ♡︎
To begin with, you don't need anyone to be happy. You have yourself, and that's more than enough, pretty :)
And even if it weren't, don't worry, surely sooner or later you will find another person who understands you and who loves you. Just be honest and be yourself, and the right person will come along. Sex is not everything (in fact there are people for whom sex means nothing).
That pampers you, that cares about you, that makes you laugh, that transmits peace and security to you, that is a loyal person, that you share very similar tastes between each... I don't know, there are more important things than sex. Don't underestimate yourself, I know I don't know you but... I'm sure you're great 🤍

[WhitneySnow]

You need to find someone else who’s ace too. A sexual person is not gonna be happy in a relationship where the other person doesn’t enjoy sex.

[Berethor]

Asexuality is a birth defect, and vast majority of men don't want to be in a sexless relationship. You want to have family so it something, but it's usually not enough.

[Asker]

Wow thank you for letting me know I’ll never be able to be happy like everyone else and I’m destined to be alone! Good to know!! fuck you

[Sandeeppingping]

How can someone be asexual? it's like literally anti the survival of the species it makes no sense to me, I'm genuinely asking

[Asker]

I have no idea but about 1% of the population experiences 0 sexual attraction. I’ve never wanted to have sex with anyone man or woman in my life

[Asker]

But I still experience romantic attraction ie. I want to get married, go on dates, kiss, cuddle, settle down one day just sex isn’t included in that for me

[Sandeeppingping]

Well babe if you met me you'd change your mind real quick😏

[Sandeeppingping]

Damn jokes aside though it'd be kinda hot changing someone's sexuality

[Sandeeppingping]

Seriously though, I think maybe don't state that you're that way and try and date people and see if anything happens, also if your friends talk shit about you being asexual fuck them, if it's online people there is nothing you can do really, assholes will be assholes and I'm sorry for that

[Sandeeppingping]

Ohhh so you're basically me before I got my heart broken and decided to go ape shit on girls, I understand you now I was kinda asexual, I still masturbated but like in relationships it was all romantic, so I'm like a new extinct breed of semi asexuals

[Asker]

this is most likely some of the best advice I’ve gotten in a long time. I tend to just feel so torn up about it sometimes but other people opinions really don’t matter. And maybe if I get likely I’ll either find a low libido or possibly another ace guy 👍🏼

[Asker]

Lucky*

[Sandeeppingping]

Yea don't worry about it, too many guys are romantics by the way like literally my friend is like that, unfortunately for him the girl he was seeing just wanted sexual shit so she got bored and that didn't work out, which is why when you said romantic feelings I understood you more, and look I'm sure you'll find people like that and don't listen to what other people think, you deserve someone much more than a bimbo that just wants sex or even me a guy who sees a girl and just wants to sleep with her although I have a girlfriend, you're less shallow than the rest of us, it's pure love when you really come to think about it

[AsaKyo]

Asexuality isn't real

[Asker]

I’ve never felt sexual attraction in my entire life, I don’t have any normal issues, my mental health is generally very good aside from feelings about my sexuality. What am I then?

[AsaKyo]

You're literally just a female Labels are unnecessary

[Asker]

Labels are important when most men won’t date you because you because you won’t have sex and it greatly effects your dating life

[abitcurious2022]

I honestly don't like the word asexual. You're still attracted to guys and you desire romance. Still heterosexual to me.

[Zolly99999]

Find a asexual guy.. problem solved

[Asker]

I would but I have no idea where to find them💀

[Zolly99999]

I'm sure there is a website or something

[Berethor]

Men tend to be more sexual than women, so she is not very likely to find an asexual guy.