I’m ashamed of my rape fantasies?

[Anonymous]

I always fantasize about a handsome man taking me by force and I’m trying to fight him off and he keeps proving to me he’s stronger 😛then I want him to tear off my clothing and rape me very hard while I’m crying and screaming and there is nothing I can do then he brings his friends and they all use me like I’m their little slave and I keep trying to escape but they keep holding me down and pinning me down with aggression.. I wish if I wasn’t like that

[centerline]

dont be ashamed of that fantasy, because its probably the most common fantasy girls have... some dont have it, and some others won't readily admit to it, but once one gets to know them and gets to talking intimately with them, its revealed... a lot of girls do admit to it.
I've been with LOTS of girls, and over half of them have admitted to having some form of a rape fantasy... some by a single guy, some by a group of guys, some by other women, and some by an animal... its always fun to hear them describe what they want.

I think that you are probably not so ashamed as you are scared of it happening... you very badly want it to , but you are scared of what might happen if it does...

one of my fantasies is being able to fulfill a fantasy such as that for someone... in a controlled manner and not too rough, but just rough enough to give the girl the bit of excitement and fear that she is wanting from it... but I dont have the ability to orchestrate something like that. I COULD easily be one of the guys in the "group" though...

[vlx-na]

Rape fantasies are one of the most prevalent sexual fantasies for women.
It's not bad in itself. Sexuality is a complex thing and it doesn't mean you're broken or want to actually get raped all the time.
I have certain weird fetish myself, which I'm not sharing unless it's privately. But the point is - you learn to get as much fun out of it without doing risky things.
You can role-play, re-create scenarios you like in a safe environment and so on.
I do understand that it may not give the full "thrill" of it. But well, if someone likes to be spanked - they don't do it until their falls off. Safety and reason must be your first consideration.

[ragequeen]

Rape fantasies actually don`t exist lol. If you imagine someone having sex with you, you are consenting to it or at least enjoying it. Rape is when someone fucks you and you absolutely hate it. It fucks you up mentally afterwards. It just sounds like you want a handsome stranger to fuck you, which everyone does, haha.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Interesting.. so if there's no trauma from it, it's not rape even if there was no consent?

[ragequeen]

Whenever something happens to you against your will, it's a given to experience trauma and it would be abnormal if you didn't. However, sometimes people don't suffer trauma, but rape is a terrible experience and not enjoyable. If you don't consent it's rape. If you don't like that it happens it's rape. If you like it and fantasize about it it's not rape.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

What of you orgasm during it?

[Warmapplecrumble]

@FýrdracaDócincel it's still traumatic

[FýrdracaDócincel]

@Warmapplecrumble BuuuuuuuuUUUUT. What if it's not?

[Warmapplecrumble]

@FýrdracaDócincel it always is

[FýrdracaDócincel]

@warmapplecrumble Don't dodge.

[Warmapplecrumble]

@FýrdracaDócincel there will always be a element of trauma due to the fact it was not consented. There is a element of pregnancy involved.

[vlx-na]

I think "rape fantasies" mostly revolve around imagining yourself being fucked without consent, but it doesn't mean that in that situation a woman would like it. Or maybe she might. The matter of consent, especially for women, can also be constrained by social paradigms. Like, even if a girl wouldn't mind that good-lloking guy just going and fucking her right there - she could be ashamed to "consent" to it because she's not supposed to be "easy". Hence the fantasies of him just taking her against her will. For men it's way easier, most men would be happy if a woman would try to aggressively fuck them, unless she's extremely unattractive.

[ragequeen]

If its a fantasy, surely it means the person wants it to happen? 🤔 That negates the whole idea of rape. Can't people just say they want rough sex from strangers, and that they just want them to get fucked out of nowhere? If they walk around with the idea that they would like that, it's still not rape in my opinion.

[vlx-na]

Well, it is a fantasy, after all. They may fantasize about actually getting raped and watching their own helplessness from distance. And as for recreating it they'd go for just rough sex. I guess the really weird cases, when they have actual psychological problems and afraid to admit to themselves what they want, but would like it when it happens - are rare.

[Warmapplecrumble]

What the hell... Don't tell other guys this

[Marcuslrh]

It is really common and then the fantasies disappear when reality hits is all good thinking about that but then if it happens you would be destroyed physically and emotionally yldo you really think your strong enough to deal with that side of it?

[Asker]

I don’t ever want to be raped in real life, it’s something I would treat it like a role play

[Marcuslrh]

Yeah fair enough but wouldn't knowing its gonna happen take away the excitement of it? Because you know your still basically in control of what's happening? or it would probably be better to just have a safe word in place if you wanted to experience it as close to reality as possible

[Asker]

Yea safe word will do

[Berethor]

Should be more ashamed of whoring fantasies, the part where he brings his friends. :)

[Rob2001]

lol u wild

[abc3643]

Don't be ashamed.
Probably at least half of all women have rape fantasies.
(... and, you know what? Ssshhh... *whispers* Lot's of men have fantasies of being raped too.)

[abc3643]

Just remember: There's a reason why the "50 Shades" books were best sellers.

www.glamour.com/.../6-totally-normal-sex-fantasies
26 Sexual Fantasies That Are Totally Normal
It's totally normal to have sex fantasies. We asked the experts about the most common ones—and for their tips on how to bring them to life.
By Amanda Chatel
July 12, 2020

...
Being Dominated
Fifty Shades of Grey normalized kinks and fetishes more widely than ever before; one study found 65% of people who identify as women crave being dominated. “The act of not being in control or pushed (consensually) against your will is a big part of the Dom/Sub relationship,” says Daniel Saynt, founder of The New Society for Wellness (NSFW), a private members club hosting regular workshops and events for safely exploring open love, kink, and sexuality.

There’s a wide palette of fantasy scenarios to draw from here: You can picture something as subtle as a trusted partner holding you down by the wrists while they kiss you, all the way up to extreme BDSM involving pain, humiliation, or whatever else your kinky heart desires.
“Within our world of safe words and enthusiastic consent lay the methods for enjoying forced fantasies safely,” says Saynt. “Discuss the scene you want with your partner first. Consider a home invasion fantasy where one of you hides while the other comes to find you. Just make sure to keep intoxicants at a minimum, set your limits, and give plenty of time for aftercare.”

[Guffrus]

Well dont be, thats pretty common.

There is a world of difference between real rape and a scene between consenting adults.

[normalice]

Women are told basically from the age of 12 to have sex but never want it. Rape fantasies are inevitable.

[triff]

You shouldn't be ashamed of fantasies but some fantasies need to be left that way you would be better off in a controlled environment If your really intent on taking this to realty Then I would suggest you have a lok at your local BDSM munch where you can be used abused have no control There you can have a safe word where it can stop

[Mikelaughs]

This is quite common.
And there could be many different reasons for having fantasies like this.
Hmu if you want to talk about it

[JPrez]

This is interesting in that so many women have something similar to this they fantasize about or they just like to be dominated. I don’t think it’s harmful as long as it stays in your head. However, there is always role playing and such that you could do with your significant other and that would be a good and healthy way to unleash your desires.

[slatyb]

This is very common. There’s no reason to be ashamed of sexual fantasies. But you don’t have to be like that. Keep your fantasies. Lose the shame.

[jshm2]

Meh, it's only a fantasy, kid. No law against it. Maybe take up writing that as stories, and monetise your fantasies.

[Kaneki05]

A fantasy is a fantasy. As someone who has been sexually abused even i would say it's perfectly fine fantasy. I have my own weird fantasy's too. And there are many people with weird ones. Longs if you can separate it from fantasy over reality it don't matter.

[SarahP080102]

I have the same fantasy, except they kidnap me and rape me for days

[bklynbadboy1]

What do you like about that the most

[Avgbrisbaneguy]

i would fill you with soo much cum, you would end up pregnant after that

[Warmapplecrumble]

What the hell

[Gigglytr0n]

Kink are healthy and all but the reality, like the REAL reality of all of this almost definitely wouldn't play out like you think it would... have you ever considered that?

[Asker]

Yea I know it’s so toxic of me

[Gigglytr0n]

Nah it's not toxic but this needs to be one of those kinks that is only practised with people that you can definitely trust and in safe areas

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Now to clarify do you mean you'd actually like to experience being raped (or at least dominated) or are you more interested in a role play of being raped?

[Asker]

Role play

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Nothing wrong with that in the slightest, only if your behavior would have put you in actual danger should you worry or feel ashamed.

[E_Z_Z]

It's okay we all have some fantasies I don't think it's all that bad
I myself don't mind the most of it, the only part I (my opinion) don't like is the other friends thing
but other than that I believe it's totally ok, rape fantasies are more common than you believe

[lanadelrey25]

I love that too

[Bandit74]

You could consider a career in porn.

[JosyJosy]

It's not really rape if you want it, that is the difference