I’m bored of my boyfriend?

In the bedroom. He literally does the same things every time. He initiates s*x all the time but it goes the same way he touches me we have sex there’s nothing new. I’m finding it hard to c*m with him now because I’m bored and he’s noticed and gotten upset and said his confidence is shot. I’ve stopped even initiating s*x I’m so bored. What do I do?

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  • You end up alone.

    I could sit here and tell you that it's not his job every time to come up with new stuff in the bedroom, I could say that half the time, you should be the one to do that. But it doesn't matter, because there are not infinite new sexual things to do.

    There is in fact, a very limited amount of ways to have sex.

    So if you are the type to get bored of "ways to have sex", you will get bored of every way rather quickly, and no longer enjoy sex at all.

    And then you will blame him for it, even though he, like almost everyone else, never tires of regular sex. So really you are the problem.

    Yet you will blame him regardless, he will resent it, and you will both end up seperating.

    He will find another woman with a normal sex craving, and you will forever be left wanting something new that doesn't exist from person after person who can't give it.

    • I don’t see how I’m the problem? I like to keep things interesting and spicey. Everyone would get bored of the same sex. I’m so bored He can’t even make me cum so how is that my problem? It’s kind of his job as my boyfriend to satisfy me sexually and he’s not..

    • Most people do not get bored of sex, and when a couple does occasionally decide to do things differently, both parties participate in the ideas. You are the problem because you get bored of sex, and because you expect him to fix it. Yes its his job to sexually satisfy you (and it's your job to sexually satisfy him), but satisfying you is impossible, you will just get bored of every new thing, what happens when you run out of positions and sex acts? It's not possible to satisfy you long term if you get bored of all of them. And if you only get temporarily bored of a given sex act/position, then its your job to initiate the things you do want to do at the moment, if you are the only one wanting variety. Men will never be mind readers, no matter how much you want them to be.

    • Well I don’t agree cos I’ve had a boyfriend before that suggested new things every 2 weeks and I never got bored. We were only together for 2 years but my current boyfriend we are together 3.5 years. My boyfriend now is just not good at thinking of new ideas, he’s just more plain and boring. So I don’t think it’s me that’s the problem rather him

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Most Helpful Guy

  • why dont you take control and do what you want to do.
    when he initiates sex, just tell him its my turn to do what I want and then have at it.
    maybe he didn't have a good teacher or his former partner just like one thing.

Most Helpful Girl

  • I have hot sex with my husband when he crossdresses. A boy in panties and tight jeans is so fucking hott

    • Hot! Please message me.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • As a adult couple spice things up don't expect him to just keep u entertained whilst not communicating

  • Talk to him. Let him know what you want to do.

  • Both find ways to spice your sex life

    • Well I’ve told him to spice things up and he never does he can’t think of stuff.

    • Read sex books or about positions

  • So dump him

  • Spice things up, role play, weekend getaway or something like that

    • I’ve told him to spice things up but he never has any ideas

    • Send me a pm, maybe I can help you out

  • You both need to talk and agree on things to try. Don't wait until your in the moment to figure it out.

  • Try sex in new way
    Or try with other guy

  • The most important is to talk about it with him. Tell him it's not working, you're not satisfied and maybe you should try new things or get counseling.

    • I have said this to him but he never really has any good ideas to spice things up , all his ideas are really boring and honestly I’ve stopped iniating anything and he’s noticed and said I don’t want him s*xually. I do but I’m just bored

    • Maybe a change of location? Outdoors somewhere?

    • We’ve done that, it’s more in the bedroom needs to be spiced up but honestly I don’t like any of his ideas.