I’m crying and I don’t know what’s going on?

[Anonymous]

Today my boyfriend wasn’t able to stay hard during sex not even for one round and the last time we had sex was 5 days ago. He keeps on coming up with excuses saying it’s not you it’s me, that he was worried about my parents coming, and that he was very hot and tired and he just looked like he felt so bad. He came up with so many excuses that I think that he’s actually lying to me what do you guys think? I think that maybe he’s not attracted to me or maybe it was because I got my period in the middle of sex but during sex he didn’t even seem excited at all I was the one talking dirty and moaning but he didn’t seem excited at all

[Caliguy88]

A lot of reasons that can happen. Blood pressure issues. What he’s feeling. Recently I’ve found it a little different getting there when I’m with someone new. I can be kinda shy, so with a girl I have been with it’s super easy, but I think too much with new girls. I never thought that would ever be an issue…. And I don’t think I have any issues physically, but it has been slow to get up when I’m nervous. Crazy for me to say in my opinion….. but it’s happened a few times and always with new people.

[Asker]

But we’ve been together for two years

[whosnumber1]

it has very little to do with you. and a lot to do with him. because he is young it's going to be a 100% psychological in his mind. this happens to all men. this won't be the first time in your life a guy will lose his boner. the best thing you can do is not make a big deal about it.

I will bet $100 he watches a shit ton of porn and jerks off to it all the time. I guarantee if he cuts out the porn all his soft boner times will be over

[Asker]

He told me that it’s because he touches himself a lot and I asked him if he watched porn and even admitted to me watching porn in the past but he said that he just touches himself 2-3 times a day to my pictures no pron

[whosnumber1]

I call total bullshit

[whosnumber1]

you know that's compete BS right?

[Asker]

But how do you know it’s bs if you don’t know the guy?

[whosnumber1]

because I'm a guy. listen... there's no way he masturbates 2 to 3 times a day and only thinks of you. he's just embarrassed to tell you he's jerking to porn.

[Asker]

But not all guys are the same. Besides I don’t think he needs to watch porn because all the shows that he watches game of thrones, rome, etc. are full of nudity

[Asker]

I just don’t know why someone would lie about that

[whosnumber1]

because they are embarrassed and they know it's excessive.

[whosnumber1]

I'm not trying to be a jerk. I used to jerk to a lot of porn and it caused me performance issues. I have completely stopped watching porn and I masturbate maybe once a month. I save all my sexual tension for sex with my partner and my problems are completely solved. not only that but I now get raging boners during sex and sex is way more passionate and energetic

[laurieluvsit]

Your emotions could be high simply because of your period.

Also, there is Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD). Use your search engine to find out more and if maybe that is affecting you.

[yucychan]

I feel this is more a "him" problem than a "you" problem.
My guess, he's either having erectile dysfunction or he's gay.

[spartan55]

He's right it's not you. You aren't helping things at all. Find out how much porn he is watching.

[Asker]

He says that he’s not watching any that he’s just masterbating to my pictures too much (2-3 times a day) I don’t think he’s lying because I’ve admitted to watching porn in the past

[spartan55]

He's lying.

[spartan55]

I don't understand how you admitting you've watched porn insures he isn't lying about it.

[Asker]

But how do you know if he’s lying if you don’t know him?

[spartan55]

I don't have to know him to know that he is full of it. He claims he is jerking off to your pictures 2-3 times per day... but he knows you would throw a fit if he said he was whackin it to porn 2-3 times daily. But if he does it to your pictures it's cool, hence why says that. So, if that's the problem then tell him to stop jacking off so much, duh! Have you done that?

[spartan55]

Hmmm, I just scrolled through this thread and what do you know? @whosnumber1 said basically the same thing I did.

[AndyOh]

Perhaps you two are not meant for each other. He could be having problems with ED, but more like he is not interested anymore, or something like that. Maybe let him go and see what happens.
Good luck.

[Asker]

He takes me to work, he’s always there for me, today he even held an umbrella for me in the rain and you’re saying that he’s not into me?

[AndyOh]

Just a thought, and you failed to mention those particular details in the initial ask.

[DonkeyDan]

It really is more likely that is it actually him, its a complex issue maintaining an erection sometimes, especially if there is something in our minds or some added stress etc. Also possible that your period starting in the middle of sex didn't help if he's the kind of guy that has issues with it.

[jshm2]

No wonder. He's literally fucking the very thing causing him stress.

Just blue pill him next time, but cut your drama as well.

[Asker]

I didn’t cry in front of him I just told him that it was okay and I made him some noodles

[Gwenhwyfar]

He could have erectile issues. Or it could be your period coming on in the middle of sex.

[larry69]

If he is not having sex with you then who is he having sex with?
Also just because you got your period he shoukd still be turned on by you.

[nawtee_me]

maybe he is just not into you anymore...

[michael1469]

Stress and high bloodsugar are possible causes.

[Zygum]

He confess his problem, it happened some time, guy do not get much exitment

[jimmy2]

Get him the blue pill

[Asker]

He is 24 lol that ain’t normal

[Anonymous]

When a guy says it’s not you it’s me, it’s true. We don’t have control over our erections. Sometimes it just isn’t the right day. He’s embarrassed and ashamed and now his partner is making it worse for him.

[Anonymous]

Those aren't "excuses". If you feel those things, it's harder for you to enjoy it also right? It's no different for us. There's SO MANY things that effect our erection, many like these things that have NOTHING to do with your physical appearance. This is your low self esteem and insecurities! We like you to have confidence also, it's attractive! Remember that. Insecurities aren't.

[Anonymous]

Many guys can have difficult time getting hard random like how many girls can start their period later than they expected. Give him viagra or kiss and make out with it until he gets hard

[Anonymous]

probably isn't you, it may actually be him... having sex... with other hotter women...

[Asker]

I have a pretty face but my body isn’t all that it needs work so I’m not hot I’m more cute I guess since I’m short

[Asker]

Me and him have known each other for two years

[Asker]

Im slow so i guess cheating?