I'm debating if I should just give/get head in a car or actually lose my virginity?

[zorotheunicorn]

So I don't know what details are needed but we are both 17 and he's coming into the city or so we can meet up and all that. I'm kinda nervous though because he has more experience then me and ig this is a guess I'm embarrassed about that. I've never had sex let alone in a car so i need advice or car sex, oral, losing virginity. I think he knows but should I tell him that I'm a virgin if we do have sex?

[triff]

Virginity to a guy is a conquest Once that conquest is over them normally a break up won't be far away They will be Cheaters and players dieing to be your first Its very strange that he is giving so much respect to you to do it in a car His showing signs of being someone who has a partner already has a partner and can't risk being seen out with someone Its very dangerous too he could be a rapist Murderer and you have no control where he might take you You have a unique gift to give but can only give it once so don't waste it on that type A decent Guy would take you out and not expecting anything Dont give head or anything 1st date your just become a sex doll

[TeeSquare]

Just go with the flow. Dont work yourself up over any of it. If you go into it without expectations it will be more natural and comfortable. If you go expecting your gonna blow him or get head then your going to be nervous. Especially if you go expecting to lose your virginity. Chill out, go with the flow, let it happen naturally.

[PhilEvans]

You should tell him you're a virgin.

With girls more than guys, the first time can be a bit special. I took a virginity unknowingly while staying abroad for business, the next day she was making plans to travel internationally to be with me longer term... not what I'd signed up for! It's unfair on him to not get the choice to NOT be your first.

[summiter]

Don't rush it. Sex in a car can be challenging. Make sure it is the right guy, in the right place and at the right time in your life. Sure I have had car sex but I prefer it outside or on a bed. Make sure you both talk about birth control ahead of time... one less thing to worry about. I would stick to giving him a great handjob or bj. Guys love handjobs in cars! Again don't rush it.. you have your whole life to have sex and loosing your virginity in a car can be awkward. Your thoughts?

[zorotheunicorn]

My thoughts are that i got ghosted so nothing is happening anyway but solid advice

[Berethor]

Only oral is usually a waste of time but he might not want you to bleed in his car. :)

[zorotheunicorn]

He's fine with it I'm pretty sure plus it's my car

[Berethor]

Well if it's your car then he would likely want to take it all the way, so go big or go home girl. :)

[Mikelaughs]

There are quite a few things to consider here. What you are planning, how, when. Also, your feelings about it.
Hmu if you want to talk about it

[Nephilim000]

If you are debating don't do anything. You should only have sex when you really want to. And there will be occassions where you will want it

[zorotheunicorn]

I really want I'm only debating it because ion know if it will fit

[Nephilim000]

Well ok. I don't think a car is the ideal place for a first time. It should be special

[zorotheunicorn]

I would let him come over but that's not allowed

[Nephilim000]

Yeah I somehow figured that. Can't he spring for a room at a nice place or something

[zorotheunicorn]

I mean he lives like a hr away in the suburbs then i live in the city but he's coming here either way that would be expensive. I think i just need to find a really secluded place

[Nephilim000]

You don't think you're worth a nice room in the city?

[zorotheunicorn]

Honestly it's more so that seems like a lot to ask unless we split the pay but I don't know i think I'll just make the car look nice. As long as he just doesn't leave then i don't mind

[Nephilim000]

Well I hope whatever happens it goes well. I still think the first time should be an occasion

[zorotheunicorn]

Yea I don't know ig I'll just see how it goes

[Nephilim000]

Well I'm wishing you the best

[Tea-Spaghetti]

I think you shouldn’t feel rushed into sex

[tofamous]

Don't do that keep your virginity don't If you get pregnant at 17 sweetheart you've Thrown your whole life away. In most guys will tell you anything and everything to get in your pants I hope and pray you don't Don't give Up your fight keep it until you're married you have your whole life in front of you children are very expensive to raise him reason properly you look in had to close at $200000 just to raise your In a mediocre lifestyle And there's no break from it. Kids are wonderful but they' Are exhausting frustrating and there's no brakes ain't life as usual your life will change you ever heard I had children and they raised me Is children will do more of what mom and dad does then what you say you better really think hard about this and my recommendation is you know what into yours you're not gonna want retired down with the child keep her virginity And these pills it's an abortion in a tablet form

[Snowman666]

yes tell him to take it slow and make him eat you out first. Bring a blanket and go under the stars

[Wise4myage]

Save your virginity for the time being and just give him head. Then see how you feel about doing the deed.

[COMMODOREII]

For sure tell him or you both may have issues.

[COMMODOREII]

Good luck and have fun.

[roastbeef]

Wow in a car that stinks. I would wait for that special person not just a hookup in a car.

[zorotheunicorn]

I'm fine with it honestly probably not going to tho but i still need to know how i would give oral in a car

[roastbeef]

hopefully he gives you oral also

[roastbeef]

In passenger seat with the seat all the way back.

[zorotheunicorn]

Okay he's also tall but it's a decent size car imma go figure out how to do that then

[roastbeef]

Maybe you should only go to first base, You are still young. There may be a serious problem if he can't ejaculate.

[Twalli]

He should know you're a virgin

[zorotheunicorn]

Tell him now or when he gets here

[Twalli]

I don't think it matters too much. I told my girlfriend on our second date.

[zorotheunicorn]

Okay makes since

[Twalli]

He needs to know before you plan to have sex.

[zorotheunicorn]

Yea i told him

[DonCachondo]

brb lemme get my car

[1MattyIce]

If you're unsure about it then I would just go give him head

[In_Trance]

do it in the car

[Valnac]

You definitely should tell him you are a virgin, make shure he wears protection.
I suggest you get on top, that way you can control how deep you let him inside you.
Lower yourself down on him till you feel some resistance. Just push a little harder and that should be it.
Use lots of foreplay, make sure you are sexually aroused, and soaking wet.
Relax and have fun!

[zorotheunicorn]

I literally got rejected (ghosted) so it's not even happening but thank you

[ManMale]

You sound immature don't

[Cryptic-Game]

You should be mature enough to know sex is for marriage only. If you were older, you'd understand this. I'm tired of so many people who are even 21 that don't understand this and give in to selfish desires.

[zorotheunicorn]

So I'm mature enough to know sex is for marriage but not mature enough to have it?

[Cryptic-Game]

Having it outside of marriage is selfish and sinful.

[zorotheunicorn]

I'm atheist tho so how is it sinful and selfish how?

[Cryptic-Game]

No such thing as an atheist and even if you were one, it still doesn't mean God doesn't exist and sin could still be true.

[zorotheunicorn]

Very much is such thing and if i don't believe then i would only be sinning in others eyes not mine so what's the problem

[Cryptic-Game]

No. You could be wrong about it not being a sin. Just because you don't think it is a sin, doesn't mean it isn't. You don't know that God doesn't exist.

[zorotheunicorn]

Just because you think it's a sin doesn't mean it is. You don't know if God exists. Like I'm not understanding what's wrong with me having sex. Other people have brought up logical reasons and you just bring up God. If i don't believe in God then what you say to me doesn't mean anything.

[Cryptic-Game]

It will mean something if there happens to be an afterlife and a Hell. Those people who say it is okay, just don't care.

[zorotheunicorn]

Well I'll just be in hell according to you minding my business but either way I don't think it's ur job to decide who goes where

[Cryptic-Game]

No but it is my job to warn people I perceive to be in spiritual danger and I perceive you to be in it by wanting to fornicate.

[zorotheunicorn]

So instead of providing legit reasons u decided that shaming me out of this is a better idea?

[Cryptic-Game]

No. I'm not shaming you. I'm telling you it isn't for your best spiritual interest.

[zorotheunicorn]

If u actually cared u would know not everyone is religious and would have did what most other people did if u had a religious intent behind it whatever but u never gave me a reason not to that actually matters to me

[Cryptic-Game]

People who care tell how they deem sexuality and I deem fornication as Satanic. So I will tell it from that perspective. Imagine if I asked a question about sex and you'd answer it from a secular view.

[zorotheunicorn]

Even if i was religous i would answer ur question directly because i would see that u needed help, i wouldn't tell u that what ur doing is wrong or it's dumb to wait nothing like that because it's ur choice so i would just help if ik how to simple as that. I would have understood u saying hey maybe wait till 18 but no because then you'll be a legal adult but no even this whole time u have yet to tell me a non religious reason to wait. You just told me I'm a sinner and that's that i gave u information and even with that you didn't help so at this point ur just forcing believes on me i dont have

[Cryptic-Game]

I'm not trying to. I'm saying that even if you think sin isn't a thing, it doesn't mean you are right. Okay. You want my answer. My answer is that sexuality is sacred and is best done within marriage. I don't believe in fornicating but I understand you do. I don't think it is healthy and it undermines the unity that people should have. Why do you even want to give a blowjob anyways?

[zorotheunicorn]

Can i just message u privately

[zorotheunicorn]

I don't know how but still

[Cryptic-Game]

Yes you can

[gandolph3]

just do oral first, till you get more comfortable

[Silvius]

Just give him head for a while

[Silvius]

Good luck for tonight