I’m devastated, thoughts?

[Chiikii]

So I had enough. I’d been seeing my friends with benefits for four months and he was a swinger. He was really big on polyamory and I decided I’d give it a try even tho I’d never done anything like it before. I met a lot of really great people and my friends with benefits and I developed feelings for each other which we expressed. Anyway a couple of weeks after he told me he had feelings for me he completely changed and told me he didn’t have feelings anymore. I also noticed that he didn’t text me as much anymore and I was making all the effort. The final straw last Saturday was that he said he was bringing another woman back to his after a kink party that I was going to go to and then he asked for a threesome that initially I agreed with before realising that I couldn’t go through with it. So I phoned him and told him that it was over and told him I didn’t want to hear from him again. Also on our phone call he proceeded to slut shame me, twist my words and make me feel like I was crazy for even having an opinion on how he was treating me. Fast forward to last night I received a text from him at 1am no doubt whilst he was at said party saying quote “Hey. How you doing?”

Which I haven’t answered and I don’t plan on.

Any thoughts?
Why did he do that after I told him to never contact me again?

[OrdinaryDaniel]

People have a hard time changing their habits and addictions. I don't know why he keeps contacting you. But it doesn't matter. Just look forward and don't look back. Find someone that values you and you only.

[Chiikii]

That was the only time but I haven’t heard from him since. But a part of me wants him to feel my loss.

[wankiam]

its done... you have acted correctly in not responding and i just hope you dont respond to him for your own good. you had fun at the time but i hope you learned a lesson too.

[Chiikii]

Yeah i know. But it doesn’t make it hurt any less x

[wankiam]

no ofcourse not but you now know not to give your heart so easily in the future so yes it hurts but all experience, good and bad, is still experience so all i can say is, have no regrets and try to move on taking your new found knowledge with you. oh and here's a virtual hug too...

[Chiikii]

Thank u I appreciate that xx

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Honestly he was probably in the mood and wanted to hook up with you. I wouldn't get anywhere near him if he is that quick to turn on you.

[Chiikii]

I know. Im so hurt and angry x

[Ez-Bri-Z]

I'm sorry 😞

[boggboss]

If he dont care or respect you why do u think he will care what u say in his eyes your a easy fuck so ofc he will contact u again

[Chiikii]

I’m so upset. I wanna hurt him the way his hurt me but you can’t hurt someone who doesn’t care.

[boggboss]

Yeah you can't sorry for falling for him but I'm not sure what else u expected he is not a 1 women man

[Chiikii]

Literally wanna punch him in the face 😂😂

[boggboss]

🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️

[Whtevernever]

He's gaslighting you.

[Chiikii]

I know. I’m literally so depressed and I know his just out there fucking every chick under the sun. I have a drinking problem and I told him things I’ve never told anyone. I trusted him.

[Whtevernever]

Well. If you want to chat I'll listen. I've had similar happen.

[Chiikii]

I actually would thanks. Do you have Insta?

[Whtevernever]

I can make one or we can chat here

[Chiikii]

Yeah that seems great thanks so much x

[Whtevernever]

Okay. Follow me here.

[Whtevernever]

Then I can send you a message. :)

[Chiikii]

Perfect x

[CubaPirate]

Girl up and move. You know you deserve better

[Bklynbadboy12]

Block him he's using you