I’m falling fir a guy I can't have sex with?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been fating this guy for about 4 months now, and it’s safe to say that we r taking things pretty slow. I like him a lot, really really like him, and I’m sure it’s the same for him as well

The only issue am having is that am terrified of having sex.. whenever we get into it i feel extremely nervous and i mess things up, either by pushing him away or he stops cuz I’m shaking so much, or sometimes even crying..

I want to take things to the next level, and we r both eager for this but I don't know why I’m so scared, i know it’s normal cuz its my first time but I don't know how to fix this

[JamesDiaz11]

I think it would be good to plan out when it's going to be. A serious relationship can't usually go to far without sex being a part of it.

I'd suggest you plan a night the both of you get away, bring whatever protection you want to use, and then have a few drinks before it happens (don't get drunk drunk). Tell him before you want to do it, and it's important that he go through with it even if you do get nervous- maybe have him go down on you until climax before the actual sex so your nerves are calmed by the post-orgasm chemicals.

Realistically, it'll just hurt for a moment, then feel uncomfortable for a couple minutes. For most girls, losing their virginity (as long as the other person knows what they're doing) isn't that painful- some even experience zero pain and even orgasm.

[DrBanana]

Ok I can understand nerves if you maybe are not fully experienced hey even use guys get it.


If you are crying and shaking a lot for some reason and the guys a real gentleman about this you and him might have to do some reflection on the matter if it’s something deeper.


Gotta ask yourself if this is a physical pain or perhaps some trauma you might know you have cause the brain is defending itself?


You might have to sit down and examine these things.


But what ever happens I hope it turns out for the best.

[holdem4884]

If you're that upset about it, maybe you should wait?

[badboy-hey]

Hey, Um so.. Do you wanna talk, I mean in general? Maybe if you could follow back

[JPresidente]

Dry drinking a glass of wine or two beforehand.

[Stevefiveo]

Just try and relax and take it slow. Have a talk with him about what you are feeling and ask him what he can do to get over your fears. If you're a virgin, he is not expecting a porn star. Just relax and do what feel good for you. Your pussy will feel amazing even if you just lay there, so he will be satisfied.

[Anonymous]

No one here is going to be able to help with this.