I'm fearful of being intimate with Girls, but not because of rejection. My main fear is violating them in some way. What do you think?

[Anonymous]

I can handle rejection okayish. I get mad more at myself than with the girl.

What I'm afraid of is stepping over their boundaries, even accidentally.

For example, I would be very hesitant to look at a girl I'm in a relationship with while she was undressing, even if she was ok with it or even wanted me to (assuming she was into voyeurism or something). I'd feel like a peeping tom.

Another might be physical contact. I'm hesitant to have any physical contact with a girl, other than a formal handshake. Even when consensual, I would feel guilty or like I was being a pervert.

I don't flirt for precisely these reasons. Therefore, I've pretty much resigned myself to being single. Am I right?

[BloodMoon25]

The best thing to do is recieve some professional help. In the case of these things being consensual, there's nothing wrong with you looking or touching. If you still feel like you're doing something wrong, it's probably your mind playing tricks on you.

My boyfriend was kind of the same. He didn't kiss me for a long time because he was worried that if he did and I hadn't wanted him to, he would end up having unwittingly committed sexual harassment. That isn't harassment. It would have been if he'd kept kissing me after I told him to stop, but one kiss, is not harassment, it's just a simple misjudgment. And I wanted to kiss me anyway.

It's in your own head. Nothing to worry about.