I’m having sex for the first time any advice?

He wants to go down on me as well but it’s our first time. I have my own apartment and I’m nervous about my neighbors and upstairs hearing me

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  • You sounded so tensed. No. This won't do you good.

    1) relax. Learn to breathe. Ask for bath together. Ask him to massage you with coconut oil. Yes, don't rush and ask him to help you relax. Just say "please help me relax."

    2) you'll feel awkward. Not good. It'll get worse after you undress. Again, mind over matter. Breathe. And enjoy the new feelings that mean sexual intensity.

    3) if he's experienced, tell him to lead. This means telling him "let me know what to do step by step". And learn to trust him. Do whatever he says. (but if you feel too taboo, let him know. Its OK to have boundaries.)

    Oral sex can be very arousing. You may feel "very high" and "cannot take it". It's OK. Tell him to slow down and it's OK to moan, naturally.

    4) don't expect too much. He may appear so pleasured and top of the world. But you may "feel nothing" or worse, pain and blood. Yes, very painful like a knife cut.

    But be brave. Breaking a hymen may not be pleasurable. But have the will to get in broken once and for all.

    Pleasure will come after that. Or the next session.

    5) if you had not experienced an orgasm before, start masturbating and experience one now. It will help you know the process, and better still convey to him what you want.

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    Have fun, relax and be down to earth. And please, be safe and safer.

Most Helpful Guy

  • It's a big big step emotionally for someone so be absolutely sure you are ready for that kind of commitment with this man. I say getting married is absolutely the best thing before you have sex, but I know things go differently with people. Just be sure this is going to be a sturdy relationship before you jump in.

Most Helpful Girl

  • That is what music playing in the background is for ……

    • I’m worried it’s too loud

    • Music does not need to be loud. Just there to disguise your moans of passion.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Lots of foreplay. Take your time. Don't worry about other people, everybody has sex or wants to. If it makes you so uncomfortable that you can't relax and enjoy, maybe do a getaway to a nice hotel your first time.

  • Take your time, use lots of lube, try to just relax and enjoy the moment.

  • Follow your heart. Don’t rush it. Things like that are as important as they are simple, and can be forgotten. Just do your best with what feels right and everything should work out fine.

  • The neighbors can deal with it. Use lube.

  • Use lube. Do a lot of foreplay. Enjoy

  • Don't worry about the neighbor's and have fun.

  • Make sure you're ready and 100% certain it's what you want

  • calm and cool, take it easy.

  • İs your boyfriend uncircumcised or circumcised

  • a lot of foreplay

  • Don't expect too much, just relax and try to learn as much as possible.

  • Just relax, enjoy it, lube, don’t worry about the neighbors. They’d probably be like, “Good for her. Goddamn!”

    • Try to use your spit as the lube maybe