My first boyfriend and last boyfriend when I was 16 I had the same exact “problem” well I was attracted to him at least at first like I thought he was cute n stuff anyways the first time he kissed me was horrible we had no good sexual chemistry. I didn’t like the way he used to make out. He would just stick his tongue down my throat and be sloppy (which is fine but not for every fucking kiss) we had sex once it was uncomfortable cringey horrible way to lose my v card and he pressured me a lot into a bunch of things. The only thing that was uncomfortable were blow jobs and that’s cause I was in-control of those. I wasn’t inlove with him. I loved him as a friend and wanted the best for him. We broke up and I wasn’t heart broken what so ever when we kissed there were no sparks if anything it was the opposite. My advice to you is if you feel how I felt. Don’t waste your time and just wait for a guy who makes you feel all those things. :)
*wasn’t ^
But I’m telling you I felt NOTHING when I was with him. I cared for him and wanted the best for him. I stayed with him thinking this is the right thing to do. I want to marry the guy who was my first everything. Then I turned 17 realized he was an asshole sucked at kissing wasted a year and a half of my life. Got pressured to lose my virginity and a bunch of horrible things. I regret it. I wish I went with my gut feeling which was “I don’t like him there was no spark” the very first time I kissed him and not have had him manipulate me into being in a relationship with him
thank you for sharing this i appreciate it and you'll find better
Tbh you don't have to be Physically attracted to your partner, to be able to love them and feel something when you hug/kiss and hold hands with him.
The only guy I loved and felt sparks with when having physical relationships with, was not physically attractive in my eyes.
There was this other guys I found very physically attractive, but when we had a physical relationship, it felt awkward. I realised the reason was because I was not in love with him, nor did I have any feelings for him.
Tbh I don't think you have feelings for the guy you are with. So it's best you tell him the truth, and leave, instead of leading him on.
i was in your position a month ago. he’s a great guy and he’s never done anything wrong. very sweet smart my parents love him friends love him. and i wasn’t physically atttavtived. i say leave him. it’s a really big part of relationships. i left him and i feel much better now. i was right in your shoes.
i think that's the best way to deal with it thank you
you got this. happiness first my sis.
There are important biological things about physical attraction, especially if one has plans to start a family. pheromone can inform a woman about mating compatibility (I forget the details, but I read that it had something to do with complementary immune systems.)
Biology isn't nice or fair, but, like gravity, we ignore it at our own peril.
Did he ask you out? I’d give it a couple more weeks to try and get to know him, and maybe your attraction will grow. If it doesn’t then it’s probably best to end the relationship.
yeah we're officially together
Well if his personality seems kickass then try and hang on for a bit and maybe it’ll grow. I understand though that physical attraction still plays a part, so best of luck to whatever you decide!
than you :)
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Physical attraction for women tends to not be very physical, in my opinion. If you don't view him as physically attractive, it's likely you don't view him as attractive, at all. In other words, I think you simply don't see value in him. If you did, you would become physically attracted to him. At least, enough women have told me this is how it works, for them.
It's January 1st 2018 and a good time for you to say goodby to the past and get hunting for a new boyfriend who you are more physically attracted too.
I can super relate to this. I'm 100% attracted to my girlfriends personality and I really like her but sometimes her body doesn't do much for me.
I felt really stuck for a while and for a while masturbation felt better than sex with her.
It's a little bit better now but you need to do some soul-searching and to find out what you really want, like If you're attracted to his personality and if you're not maybe you should think about ending things
Physical attraction is actually more important in relationship than most people think. It shouldn't be the main reason for being with someone but you should be attracted to them. You should break up with him.
Why are you with him then?
To miss out on the best part of dating seems a waste of time to me...
I don't understand... Why are you with him in the first place? I mean, when you consider him as a boyfriend you were still finding him not attractive, right?, if so why you made the choice to be with him?
Grow up is all I say. Stop following your unrealistic; animalistic desires. Prepare your mind with your religeous teachings, in order to gain clear wisdom lady.
If you have no attraction to this guy, why are you with him to start with. You need to end it in the nicest way possible, after all it's not his fault, or yours, that you don't have feelings for him.
Not the one for you! If he was, you would feel electric. Find someone who gives you that vibe.
Well... If you are insecure, just take some time.
What attracted you to him?
he studies with me in college and i just liked him at first
Need to throw that fish back and hook a new one that makes you tingle...
Let him go.
So you're only attracted to their body, and not their personality so if their a dick then yay. (Notarguing)
This didn’t make sense she mentioned nothing about his body. Why couldn’t you just help her out and give her an opinion that woulda been helpful instead of somehow bringing up sex into the convo lmao
You're thinking sexual.
I'm talking about body size.
OK. May be your sensory nerves are weak why worry. It will be a problem if he is unable to seduse you. And butterflies? Take a caterpillar and swallow it it will go in and make a butterfly. Lol they are just stories. You just need some more time and love in relation. And don't try to swallow any caterpillars for butterflies.
Break up with him. No one can give you shit for being with someone you are not attracted to.
Sometimes physical attraction grow over time as you spen more time with each other.
Break up it has no sence.
Break up with him
Maybe it's a good idea to end it now before someone gets hurt.
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