I’m pregnant but he dosent want me to keep the baby?

[Anonymous]

Hi. I’m 20 years old and I just recently found out I’m pregnant and it’s with a guy I’ve only been seeing casually for 2 months. When I say casually I mean we are dating but it’s never been exclusive as it’s early. We had sex for the first time the other day and he asked if he could cum in me, I told him he can cum in me. I know this sounds stupid but I had this whole idea I was infertile since I’ve been active since 18 on no contraception and never got pregnant.

Not that that matters, i callled him and he said he’s there for me if I need to talk to him and that he will see me about the situation and we can go for food and talk about it but he said he isn’t ready for a child and neither am I and we’ve got our whole life ahead of us and that it’s a headache and having a child is crazy. And I know it is. I just feel so sad to get rid of a child, is it wrong of me to want to keep the child even though I know I probably can’t give it the 100% best life. He’s not forcing me into getting rid of it but I can tell he wants me too. I really like him as well am I selfish if I am thinking more about what I want?

[Anonymous]

You are not being selfish. What you’re feeling is natural. Babies are a blessing. You can’t help but think about the possibilities. Just know that you don’t have to make an immediate decision, you have time to think carefully about it, and the decision is yours alone. It isn’t his body. He can have an opinion but he can’t decide whether or not you have the baby. If you decide you’re not ready, there’s no shame in that. You have options and you have to do what’s best for you. However, if you decide you are ready for motherhood and want to have the baby, you can certainly do that too. Besides discussing it with him, I would talk to family and friends you trust for insight and to gauge how much help and support you might have. Don’t be afraid to take the path you ultimately feel is best.

[Dachshund_guy]

You can always have it and put it up for adoption if you get closer to your due date and you still think you can't handle being a parent. I will tell you, all parents believe they can't manage with their first kid. You basically choose the parents and can limit your selection to those willing to have an open adoption if you want to be in their life. I have also had relatives that adopted extended family's children. They stayed in their life that way.

He is mostly afraid you are going to lock him in the "should have wore a condom dope" 18 year child support payment plan.

[Dargil]

If you choose to keep it, you should pursue maternity expenses and child support. A second option is adoption. Bring him or her into the world and bless parents with it. A third is infanticide, which is a bad choice for you and the baby.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

It’s not his choice. It’s yours and yours alone.

[LazerBean]

Adopt it out.

[megabamse]

If he don't want it then you can't force him to be involved with it.

[SpokenTruth]

It doesn't matter what he thinks are say, DO NOT MURDER YOU CHILD, you will regret it.

[virgincountryboy]

I am a little bit and I am very shy and nervous to talk about it but I think that you need to keep it I would help

[peterrezeeek]

if u r getting off the baby then ur killing him and u will be killer... so keep the baby it was ur fault and u should take care him..

[PepePatriot]

Women up and raise your damn child.

[MasterKS]

Be practical, raising a child is not easy.

[Anonymous]

His opinion doesn't matter on this. It is 100% your call.