I’m scared to finger myself?

So I’ve never had sex. At 17 I went to the gyno to open myself up (just to feel what it was like) she used some instrument that they use to widen your vagina before inserting a UDI. But now at 23 I’m too scared to even put my finger up my vagina, like the pressure is much (cause I’m so tight but not painful) and I can’t even use a vibrator and it’s annoying and no I’ve never been fingered before. I had insecurity issues and avoided boys even tho they still wanted me but now I want to change that but still explore my body as well.
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  • If there was anything physically wrong the gyno would have spotted it. The problems psychological not physical. Unfortunately the only cure is self exploration with your fingers to build confidence. It's also worth seeking out a boyfriend who has smaller penis (you won't have trouble finding one)

    • Yes it’s definitely psychological for me just the discomfort

Most Helpful Girl

  • No one is that tight at 23. Besides, you finger your clitoris, not your vagina. Why does this seem like a troll question?

    She doesn't know much about herself at 23 for a girl.
    She doesn't know much about herself at 23 for a girl.
    • Or you are the troll. Such a stupid response. I have never had sex so obviously I am tight. Go back to school. You sound dumb. I have also never been fingered so I’m scared to put a finger in. If you could read you would know this instead of trying to make stupid funny jokes to seem cool.

    • Come on! Stop trolling like the anon 18-24 that you are. You apparently don't know shit about your own body. What a joke.

    • And you do? Dumb idiot. Why do you think I’m asking for help online. Dumbass. If you can read through all the other replies they have obviously been helpful unlike you. And if you check the dictionary definition for troll it says “ making random unsolicited and/or controversial comments on various internet forums with the intent to provoke an emotional knee jerk reaction from unsuspecting readers to engage in a fight or argument“. You stupid idiot you are the troll. Cause I don’t know how asking about my body online is a troll question. You’re probably a whore who’s ashamed of her body that’s why you’re looking for someone else to put your ugly energy on.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Ask that same gynecologist about your situation. If your gynecologist has a good head on her shoulders, she will want you to not be afraid to explore your body. She would help you figure out how to make you comfortable.

    • Thank you

  • Maybe you can find a guy that wants to follow the same trail you do.

    • Can you elaborate?

    • There are plenty of men (and women for that matter) out there who will gladly take your journey with you.

    • I have a guy friend in mind but I don’t want him to know I’m a Virgin. I’m just going to tell him I’ve been celibate for a while. My friend suggested lubrication as well when I wan to have sex so it can slip in easily

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  • Fingering yourself can be fun.

  • Go back to the gym and talk to her. That instrument is called a speculum.

  • Rub your pussy lips and lightly touch your clit and just do it a little at a time think of whatever turns you on buy lubrication that will also help.

    • I think I will buy a lubricant and get a small vibrator as a start

    • Yes that may be a start and see what happens

  • take a small step outside your comfort zone and one day just rub yourself, then the next put the tip of your finger and slowly take more steps

  • Don’t do it then

  • Start slow, get in the mood, she will relax and u can try finger yourself. Use pinky finger first if needed

    • Thank you

  • So what's your question here?

  • Pm me please id love to confirm with you

  • Well girl go get 3 sizes of vibarator get your pussy used to insertion. You are missing out. Finger yourelf you not going to hurt yourself just dont out your hand all the eay in

  • Then it is best not to do it if you are scared to do it.

    • How so? Should I wait on a guy then?

  • Fo yoi rub your clit

  • Vaginal tightness is a variable based solely on the arousal and relaxation of the female.

    • I get aroused but not relaxed cause I’m doing it myself so I always give up

    • Not being relaxed will prevent you from not tensing up.

  • Just run up and down till you are moist then finger yourself