Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I'm sexually attracted to my cousin. What do I do?
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Should I keep ignoring the feeling or embrace it?
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We don't share the same bloodline! It wouldn't be incest. He's still my cousin though.
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8 45I'll preface this by saying I am a middle-aged man and I've had an unbelievably strong crush on one female cousin on one side of my family since before I was a teenager. So in some cases it's not just a passing thing. I'm not just sexually attracted to her. I truly love her as a person also and not just cuz she's my cousin.
If you're worried about it from a biblical sense, nowhere in the Bible does God condemn it. He does condemn some types of relationships, but cousins isn't one of. Look it up.
If you are worried about it from a scientific standpoint, you're still ok. Studies show there's only about a 5% chance of any type of negative consequences of any offspring and that will only occur if that continued within the same bloodline for five or more generations.
In America cousin marriages are legal in slightly more more than half of the country (26 states I believe).
The only reason it was ever illegal was due to smaller communities and the fact there wasn't really an easy or fast way to travel to other communities. This is where the multiple generations risk came into play and adverse effects from procreating. Physical and mental deformities occured.
Truly it's an archaic law and more than half of America has educated themselves and agree.
Now as far as family getting pissed or grossed out will be different from family to family. I would just provide them with the proof that it's not incest.
Then there's the possibility of the relationship ending and the tension it could cause. That's something every individual needs to weigh out for themselves.
I hope this helps
P. S. I know some of you will immediately spew your venom in a knee jerk response, but do yourselves a favor and actually do some research before you make yourself look even more ignorant.
Go for it. 💞
Wtf I was also in same situation...
And how did you handle it?
Wtf it's hot memories... Sorry I can't share here openly. Oh god.
You had sex with her okk
Babes stop please. 🙈
Because I'm not against incest as I've done it many times myself
I had a third cuisine I was attracted to. Had we been a closer distance to each other in our teenage years we probably would have ended up messing around. But we really never would have wanted a relationship. We were so much different. Always. You might just want to hold off a bit. Just to see what your friendship looks like as adults.
He's already an adult
Yeah I read through the other comments. And I think you would be totally fine in all reasonableness. The thing is that you are still so young. I would suggest cultivating more time alone with him. Poring your sexual energy in to finding out all that you can about him. His likes his dislikes his weird quarks. Allow that desire for him to turn in to curiosity about him. Maybe even allow yourself to be physical in the sense of cuddling and pouting your arms around each other as your walking. Or what not. See how he reacts.
If you can't control your hormones, than approach him and ask how he feels about it.
I can control my behavior, but I can't control my thoughts and fantasies though.
That’s not bad.
I think you have to go slow with him. Maybe say something like hey, I wonder what it would be like to give a blowjob... Do you like blowjobs? ... Maybe I could try it on you? That's how my cousin got me to get the hint. We only did oral on each other though. Good luck. Feel free to message me.
I had the same feeling when i was 14 years old to my cousin
What all guys are told to do with 99.9% of women. Keep it in your pants.
One way to find out if he has the same feelings... ask him how he feels about you and proceed from there... good luck
Don't embrace it...
Control yourself
Teen hormones lead them astray sometimes. Date other guys. I bet you’ll find it was just a crush.
DON'T!
If he's your first cousin I would avoid it and just try to meet someone that isn't related to you.
We're not biologically related
I lived something like that
Not judging you. Attraction is attraction.
You missed the fact he's her cousin, right? Most people with high morals / ethics would say no. Where's your morals & ethics, in the gutter?
@GingerCatLover I’m not judging their attraction, but I’m also not encouraging them to proceed in any way. You can’t help who you’re attracted to though..
Say what?
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I'm more interested in how he's your cousin, but dont share a bloodline?
I have explained in the comments below.
Oh. Not gonna look. Not my opinions to respond too
If he or she is a third cousin than it’s cool go for it
Since he's not blood related, as long as you can keep it a secret from others, you can enjoy
You missed the fact he's her cousin, right? Most people with high morals / ethics would say no. Where's your morals & ethics, in the gutter?
As for being not blood-related the fact it's a "secret" as if something to be ashamed of again puts it in gutter trash level.
I don't have such strict morals, for me, if they are not blood related, they are not relatives and they can enjoy.
Anyway, I don't see a person who is not related to me by blood as cousin/relative.
Plus, sex is a personal matter, so it is understandable that people might want to keep it a secret from their family
Well, you are wrong. People don't have to be blood related to be family.
Okay. Whatever works for you. If he feels the same about you, you can enjoy