Okay, let's lighten things up. What elements would you enjoy reading? What are mandatory? Feel free to be specific, detailed.
P. S. No back door. I don't write that.
And I'm open to longer format. I'm experimenting with that. There is more character development, which I love.
My favourite thing is witty dialogue.
Uhm.
I'd say to write and dedicate more attention to how the characters develop their relationship and attraction to each other, than to the actual carnal part.
Witty dialogues, but also normal - human - interactions, have moments that can be both flirty with an erotic undertone but also simply sweet tones.
To be honest, regarding the sex party, the less and less explicit, the better. I'm not a good writer, but I once wrote a novella about a woman and a man falling in love (some elements took from people I know IRL) and the major observation that my wife made is that in around 28000 words of story, the sex is alluded in two sentences and very sbrigatively; whereas some good 8000 or so words are all around them having a conversation while eating eggs.
My filibustering aside, I'd say that (at least to my taste) I'd much prefer to read about their interactions as people and how they react to the world you build around them. Erotic details can be more nuanced than outright thrown in my face.
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I totally agree with you! On my current story, I'm at 13 pages (single-spaced, lol) and they haven't had sex yet. Yes, I love me some character development. And the setting. The setting can be very inspiring to me. It's set in Italy. 😉 I appreciate your humility (I really do), but I highly doubt you are "not a good writer." Plus, your knowledge of multiple languages must surely add to your writing. I do lack in the imagination department, though, I think/maybe. I can envision certain things, but... I am not quick. I get momentary inspirations, and I have much of the technical mechanics down, but sometimes it takes time to flush out what they say. And what they say to each other is the stuff I really love. The words are the seduction.
And, 309 is small, very little.
The inner monologue of the woman. Reading it from the woman’s perspective is so much more erotic for me (a man). I think in part it has to do with the way we’re designed differently. For a man it can be 0-100 in a minute and foreplay feels like restraint more than buildup. My understanding is that for women, it’s the opposite. Erotica from a man’s perspective would be like 3 pages long, lol.
Yeah, I love an inner monologue, too. I like voice-overs in movies, too. Such a sucker for knowing what people are thinking in the moment. It's especially interesting when it appears to contradict or be different from their actions, eh? I'm indecisive about whether to write in 1st or 3rd person. I'm much more interested in writing about men, and what they are thinking, but I realize that if a man is reading, he'd be more interested in what she is thinking. So, I try to balance that, but it's something I have to consciously do. And, it is a lot more challenging to write as the man. I'm not sure if it will sound/feel authentic, coming from me. So, I tend to write third person when it's focused on both characters equally. And a mechanical issue is that I want the scene to play out between both people. And then I also sometimes want to reveal what they are/were thinking. But that can be a lot of detail, and writing, ballooning something seemingly simple into something much more. And then the piece gets longer and longer. I'm still trying to work out best strategies on all this.
I've read tonnes of them but typically I read fantasy so it's werewolfs, vampires, witches, elementals etc. For shorter type stories literotica are good where I've read random genres. I think the main thing I like is the tease/chase there is how many sexual things can happen before the actual sexual act happens like maybe a dance where they're close enough to feel something lol. And they go home to be interrupted and then something else and eventually they have decb
What's decb?
I knew I didn't finish this comment, but the app said it was posted so I just assumed I had. And eventually they have sex, and have been teasing and joking about it for that long that the first time was super great only for it to progress as it goes on during the story to super intense and hot. But it's also fun to read them as characters too like sisters, mother's, friends rather than just the hot sex. More often than not I read novellas rather than one shots, got a witch and vamp one going at the moment and have been following her for years now. It's just interesting how things develop and how characters grow.
Sorry about that
details on reactions/facial expressions… especially during a witty dialogue… but I do know you’re amazing with details when writing so not sure if this counts hahaha
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!You should read this book called FLESH, it's about a zombie apocalypse but it's heavy on the sex scenes. I think they're pretty hot. I like when it describes what a person is thinking and get's very detailed about actions.
Oooooh, hard no on zombie sex. But what did you like about it?
Its not zombie sex lol. It's basically these human survivors who find each other and end up together. I like it because it's got a lot of detail, it gets the adrenaline going, it's just one of those hush hush type books. Even if you just read the first chapter or two it's pretty good in my opinion. It's by Kylie Scott.
Are you watching HBO's "Last of Us"? Played the video game? I've heard there's a zombie erotica sub-genre. I just can't get behind the idea of the diseased having sex. I'm sort of more the truth-is-stranger-than-fiction type. So you're saying it's not about zombies having sex, but the last humans?
I like the idea of character development. It really feels like a lot more pay off and significance if the female is able to get to the main events or the male is able to ein her over into submission to him through the journey of ups and downs with a lot of tensions they may embark on together interconnected over time
Or a specific one (I'm thinking a similar type of vibe to Beastsrs Anime) where the female may be at a lack of experience on the disadvantage vs the male who is rsther experienced in flavour, and the female is playing truth or dare as a friend of hers invites her to this party she knows of. Once they get there things stsrt to escalate more than the first girl (protagonist) is comfortable doing, but the friend she came with always already in her zone with a guy she meets and tells her to enjoy or lighten up a little and essentially ditches her foe this guy after too ling and the head upstairs away. But the the girl eho is shyier during truth or dare has the bottle land on her suddenly and the spot light on her. And she is faced with a rather hansom man who tells her some commands to do in front of everyone. And she does after some coxing from the crowd, ehile the manwho initially commanded her is quite and blocks the rest out with his sight only on the girl while she does. Later they have some more passing interaction and eventually he shows her the ropes after a lot of tension and hesitation on her end but once she does commit she lets him do all kinds of things to her and go way past her limits vut loves it all the way with him. Then the tables stsrt to balance out for bool two. That would be some idea narrative you can incorporate if you wish
That's good feedback, thanks. Right, agreed, I really like a build-up, too. I'm not sure how long readers will follow along with me, before there is something physical happening between them. (It varies per reader, right, but I wonder in general, what's the average, or something.) I've been experimenting with different length pieces. Some are just a page or two. Others, much longer. On that topic of submission... I know that is very popular with a lot of people. It isn't with me. But as someone asked me to write about that, I came up with an idea. I am not into D/s at all. Like, I'm pretty against it. (I'm Switch. And every partner I've had also has been. Though we never called it that, sex wasn't labelled like this, before.) But since he knew I would be more amenable to me exploring me being the Dom, rather than the guy being the Dom and me being the Sub, I started writing about the meeting of two characters, where he wants her to be in charge (playfully), and so she's a reluctant Dom, vocalizing her philosophies on it all, the whole time. She's acting the part, for him, at his request or wish, but not entirely comfortable with it. So she plays with it, torturing him more by not dom'ing him, which sexually frustrates (excites) him. She devises a series of [ridiculous] tests, and if he can pass them, then she gives him what he wants, little by little. I explain her thought process, and there's a ton of build up, and sexual tension. But I'm at 55 pages now (single-spaced), and they have had sex, but the night is just getting going. And the more I wrote, the more I felt like this is not just a short story, like the others I've written. This has major potential for character development, and a relationship between these two. I have ideas about where this relationship is going. But I have absolutely no guesses on who wants to read this, and for how long. What do you think about this concept?
Your second comment wasn't posted when I replied to you. Yeah, I don't write male Dom erotica. That dynamic is played out, in my opinion. I have zero interest in writing the experienced man and innocent girl trope. Plenty of people like that, and write that, but that ain't me or my interest.
I'm interested in the characters' thoughts and feelings as they interact.
When they get to foreplay and sex, I also long for graphic descriptions of the woman's physical sensations. What can she feel and sense physically, as well as emotionally and intellectually.
No one but a female writer could describe that.
Ok, good. Noted.
I wrote some a couple of years ago. I embellished on past relationships and did a play by play of how we met, and then building up to actually having sex. Much of it was "filled in" to make it more erotic and, hopefully, more interesting to the reader. I had a few female readers critique it and two were positive on it and one said that "if it was going to be about sex then just get into the sex part and leave out the other". For me it was more of a way to build on past experiences and share the experience with others if they were interested.
I totally relate. I disagree with those two readers. I like a build up. For sure. Depends how long the stories are, though. I'm experimenting with that.
I agree because to me writing about the dynamic leading up to the sexual experience was most of the fun. Like building the anticipation. (Hummm... I'd better log out before I start getting into details... LOL)
You know my answer already but this time I’ll give you something vague: having sex in public, not like actually getting caught in the act, but where potentially the chance of that happening is always there.
Yep, I like that idea, too. I have a rough draft of another piece with this idea. I guess I should revisit it and maybe rework it. Or write a new one incorporating this. I just heard an audio erotica where a guy goes to a library and discreetly asks for the erotica section, and the librarian takes him there, sort of like up to 'the stacks' where it's somewhat secluded, and they have spontaneous sex. It was great. It was only his voice, not hers as well (it was his story), but he added the sound effects of books falling off shelves. "I'm an intellectual, lol" was funny, too. He went from a friendly but kind of bashful guy, into someone really bold and passionate. Women love that kind of guy.
I sometimes read erotica. and I prefer a complete story. How did the participants meet? What did they find attractive in each other? And I like specific details of what they do to each other.
Here's a simple plot outline that I would like:
Guy on business trip goes to the hotel bar to have a drink, meets a woman also on business and they chat. They have dinner together, flirt, and take the elevator together up to their rooms. They make out in the elevator, then go to her room. They have sex, including cunnilingus, intercourse, and fellatio. They wake up in bed the next morning and do it all again.
Put some high tech elements in it.
lolol Interesting. Like what? And why?
Domination women and submissive men storylines
No back door? You mean anal?
Correct.
Add funny stuff, suspense, scary stuff, and awesome fighting action.
Just when you think the mystery of the story is finally going to be solved... SUDDEN PORN.
Why would there be fighting action in erotica?
Feats of heroism and dangerous situations make people more invested in characters, being more invested in a character is what makes stories good. Erotica by itself doesn't really make a good story, its just something characters in a story who bonded can do. So its better to just write a regular book, and then edit it with rule 34.
Ooo! Sounds exciting! 😃
My personal view is that you should write what you want to write. I don't want to push you in any particular direction. Just let your imagination lead the way! :)
Well that's not helpful! What about structure, character development, timelines, length of the story/piece... stuff like that?
What do you mean, that's not helpful? Lol. I'm giving you free encouragement with no strings attached! 😆
Okay- I'll comment on the length. Try to make it 5 pages or less. Some people write these stories that are like 10 pages or more. Ain't nobody got no time for that! 😂 Honestly, I usually won't read a story that's more than 3 pages. But that's just me.
i mostly like bondage sttories with slow build up
Always one way, or are you open to unexpected, switch?
in the stories , i like reading when it is guy who are dominant in real life , i honestly never try it
You should try it. Females generally like men who take charge. They see him as more passionate.
Maybe have the relationship be taboo for some reason to spice it up? But of course having an interesting interpersonal dynamic between them will make all the difference.
I think describing things in a creative but naughty way will help as well.
"he was called to fix the kitchen sink and then they fucked. the end" :P
And then they had pizza? lol Ding dong! "Candygram." "Landshark? Noooo, candygram!"
Lot of kinky and taboo sex
Very great question. Currently been thinking myself. I guess creativity. Something that I'm like woah I haven't thought of that maybe that'll be fun! Go explicit. A lot of the scenes I read were dean koontz being like they fit perfectly like puzzle pieces. Its annoying and doesn't do it for me. Fit it with the characters relationship. If they met yesterday does it make sense that they are ready for erotica? Change sexy. A traffic cone in the bedroom would be weird but what could these characters do. My fav stuff has been from chuck tingle by changing things up in that way. Just my opinion of course.
Uhm... a traffic cone? lol Can you elaborate on the "puzzle pieces"? Like, conventional sex?
A traffic cone adds spice lol. The puzzle piece scene was missionary. He was just like. Oh the characters fit like puzzle pieces. I believe in several of his books.
Oh, yeah, that's a cop-out ("puzzle pieces.") Boooring. Traffic cones is... bizarre, to say the least. Kinky? Not sure, lol. Maybe he puts it on his head. Or talks through it. Tries to make her laugh. She reissts. But then... caves. It's too stupid to ignore... (Not my kind of writing though. Nope. A bit too goofy. Though I do like some teasing, negging, perhaps...)
What about your experiences?
by the way, why no backdoor 🚪?
Well, of course I'm going to write about my experiences. Some of my writing is from that; others are fantasy. Though I don't like other worldly fantasy stuff. And no backdoor. I just don't. I'm very clean! And I have a very sensitive sense of smell, so that is a no-go.
Cool. So is it romantic?
Hmm. Well, that's a valid q. But I've always found it difficult to define that word, "romance." One might assume I am a very romantic person. Maybe I am? But I also really don't like cliché. I like more specificity. Details and uniqueness are far more interesting to me. I like to really 'get in the weeds' on that (not just in writing, but in getting to know people, researching things, learning about things. I think more depth often or usually equals more interesting.) I guess what I write always has the element of the characters being quite classy, or sophisticated in their communication and manner with each other. But it also is very sexual, and playful. A lot of playful banter and teasing, after the initial 'romantic' meet.
Descriptive lead up to the sex - it’s like foreplay
Right. But describe what, exactly? What details do you want to hear?
Seduction, sexy engaging banter and dialogue, slow burn in regards to teasing and foreplay
Humor, intelligent conversation and a hint of mystery! Outside that, it is your playground! Have fun and please share! :-)
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