I (Male) am into bondage, and have been for a while. My girlfriend doesn't know about my fetish yet... What would be the best way for me to tell her?

So, I have been into bondage for a long time. I have had no previous relationships, but things are going really well with us.
I am wondering what would be the best way to tell her?
Guys, if you have asked your SO, how?
And Ladies, what do you think would be the best way for your man to see if you're into bondage?
Thank you all in advance, and I am open to any suggestions.
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Superb Opinion

  • If you tell her and she accepts it or is into it too, it will be the best sex ever. If she is not into it and it’s really important to you, then you’ll know it’s probably not the best relationship for you.
    i told my girlfriend I wanted to try light bdsm. My ex called me a freak and said no, my current girlfriend said she was open to anything and it sounded fun... so I’d ask her casually!

Most Helpful Girl

  • I would say make a joke about it at first and see her reaction to it. Or you can play a game to find out. I call the game 20 questions. (It’s more then 20 questions) In the game we ask each other really deep questions we’re too afraid to ask each other and the other person answers honestly. A lot of them are sexual too so we can learn each other’s fetishes.
    I was also waiting til marriage with my ex, but it was good to learn each other’s fetishes had we ended up getting married.

    • I think that's a great idea! My only issue is she is kind of sheltered... Do you think it could cause issues if it looked like I knew all about it?

    • Nah, just be yourself. You can help her be less sheltered that way.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Ask her if she subscribes to the notion that everyone has fetishes and fantasies.. I believe the natural course of the conversation will lead to you both opening up, or her shutting you down.. I think she will want to know though.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Better sooner rather than lster. I told mine after a couple of dates when it seemed like we would soon be having sex.

    If your girlfriend isn't interested then she's probably not the woman for you.

  • If you can’t control your bondage then seek professional help

    • What do you mean by "professional help"?

    • Psychology

  • First off, as a dom or sub?
    It's important since a dom asking to tie up a sub can trigger some alarm, especially if the relationship is new and a strong trust hasn't had time to develop.

    • Well, I think I'm a switch. Probably leaning a bit more towards sub, but I would be happy with both.

  • Tell her right after you tie her up.

    • How could I tie her up in the first place?

  • Joke about it sometime when you see something together that reminds you of it.

  • ask her to tie you up

  • Try some sexy cosplay outfits… then start from there! 👍

  • Show her some bondage porn and she will ask you.

    • Well what kind? I don't want to show her super hardcore stuff... We both believe waiting until marriage for sex, so no nudity is ideal... Do you know where I could find good clips? Or do you know of any?

    • I haven't watched fifty shades of Grey for a long time so I don't remember if there was nudity, but you might want to try that.