I may be wrong, but, is lack of emotions a potential turn-on?

[ARWINGx1]

After looking around this site, 'specially those regarding Domination & Submission, It made me wonder: If there's one thing that I might struggle with, when in a relationship: I have a hard time understanding emotions. Which in turn, could make me appear coldhearted, selfish, etc.

One example is that if my what-if/would-be girl is feeling upset about something that she's experienced, then there's a good chance that it would slip under my radar. so she would have to communicate with me about that more directly if she'd want me help with that.

But, like I said earlier, at least on this site, I have noticed that there are those that seems to be *very* submissive. ('course, I can't say exactly how common that is. Whether it's in general, or if it was really from those on this site specifically) I even noticed a few that mentioned that said girl gets turned-on from being "mistreated" (to an extent, at least.)

Anyway, what I wanted to ask (for confirmation): The thing that I was worried about, ("unintentionally"/"on the surface" coming off as unemotional/cold/selfish/etc.) is it something that *can* actually be a turn-on for some?
If I'd have to guess: At best, it would've been a double-edged sword: That it could be a turn-on for some, but can get tired of that if it goes on for too long.

[Curmudgeon]

"Anyway, what I wanted to ask (for confirmation): The thing that I was worried about, ("unintentionally"/"on the surface" coming off as unemotional/cold/selfish/etc.) is it something that *can* actually be a turn-on for some?"

It's a fine line: You are NOT desperate or "thirsty", which IS a plus for them.
But if you seem to show no interest at all, then they move on.

[NathanDavis]

nope...

[In_Trance]

Never