If your mind and heart isn't into it, then you will not enjoy yourself into climax no matter how well your partner is. Don't think and f*** at the same time, tends to ruin the mood for women. Men will enjoy it no matter what unless he's getting butt-raped in prison.
Here are some ideas: Try foreplay before penetration. Do more oral sex, especially him giving you oral. If done properly, a woman can experience one hell of an orgasm from having her muffin munched on. Finally, DON'T STOP! Keep going. No reason to have only five minutes of sex when you can do it all night long, all through tomorrow and well into the following day
yeah, I think the mind and the mind was realllllyy not there. those are great tips though! should I feel ashamed to tell my guy that I need more foreplay before sex though?
Tell him to add in more foreplay. He'll get the message. If not, then dump him and go with me...heheh
hahaha oh okay, I'll keep that in mind.
actually you may be thinking I'm several things other than having sex with him,like you don't live the moment with him,you should be place in the right atmosphere ,he might be not offering it for you..or,your partner is really excited when he's doing it with you,that he can't handle his-self ,and ejaculate before your time,
few tips: almost all guys their first ejaculation don't take to much time,try to reach his second one,i'm it'll serve you better,
and let him stimulate your g-spot!(by his own fingers) just to make sure if the problem is from you or him,
he was pretty good about it a few times! he tried to wait for me and he did a great job. do you mean to try fingering and intercourse at the same time? he's definitely fingered me a lot and that's GREAT, but it doesn't happen like that during sex! it's so sad, maybe it's the position. idk. I'm not seeing him anymore, but maybe I'll be a little more open with the next guy?
i red the other comment,and I saw the u're using condoms, I used to note use it ,it's more pleasurable for her and me...but when I was using the I used to choose the tingling one"pleasure max" "warming" it has boubles ...and its not from the position,everything works:p.. anw,try another guy and see what can happen :p,you won't loose anything,:p
hmm ha ha OK that's good advice. I will eventually! I just don't want to get with that many guys before marriage. idk, maybe that's crazy
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I don't think one time is enough to say you're destined for a life without orgasms! Girls get off on different things. Some with oral, some with anal, some with just fingering. Some can even get off with nipple stimulation! Have you tried expiramenting a bit with these things?
Nope... haha. Fingering, yes, but nothing else.
Have you ever tried masturbating? I know some girls don't like it, but honestly it's the best way to find out if you actually CAN orgasm!
ohh yeah, my then boyfriend fingered me all the time and that's great, but the sex never worked out sadly.
My girlfriend has this problem, she never really felt the orgasm but she thinks she did. However, penetration usually isn't the best way to make a girl orgasm, touch is. You could've been too tense and nervous since it was your first time. I still have "V" stamped on my arm but I know quite a bit mind you. Or your partner could've been bad.
So does that mean intercourse doesn't really work for women? Yeah, I was definitely way beyond nervous every time. We stopped after a month. I think we were just too young and I was too worried about the consequences. Condoms didn't feel safe enough. I think I'm just one of those people who has to wait for sex. I wish I wasn't because I'd like to experiment more, but it just makes me way too nervous. It was his first time too, so yeah, he could have been bad too. We had no idea what we were doing
See, my girlfriend and I are virgins and I went down on her a lot and she went down on me once, but I was nervous and tense too since it was my first BJ, so that really made me nervous, and it felt amazing but I wasn't feeling the zing of cumming, so I think it's just being tense and nervous.
Yeah, it also kind of hurt too? So I think the pain overtook the pleasure for sure.
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