I noticed my boyfriend is looking up escorts online. WTF? Do guys look just to look? Could he actually be hiring prostitutes?

My boyfriend is up to some suspicious shit online. He's been spending $100's on live webcam p*rn and now he's looking up escorts. Why look if it's not for sex?
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  • I have looked escorts out of curiosity. I work in law enforcement but had never heard of escort services in the area. I was shocked at how many there were. LOL!!

    Now with what you said the other day about the webcam shows. And how I felt about that situation. With your boyfriend obviously I have no idea if he has hired one or not. But with other things you have said. I feel where there's smoke, there's fire. I would not be the least bit surprised if he is at least considering hiring an escort. It's more than a curiosity.

    You need to have a long chat with this guy and find out where his head is at. Then make a decision if he is willing to change for the sake of your relationship.

    Obviously you are not happy about the situation. And I don't blame you. This is not a healthy situation. You need to start making some serious decisions as to where you want to go with the relationship. Do you want to put in the time and effort to get this straightened out? Is it worth the time and effort? Or should you just walk?

    You have a lot of thinking to do.

    Good luck.

    • I'm beginning to think I should just save myself the trouble of wondering "what if" and just walk away

    • I know that's what I would do. :-(

  • Honestly, I've never had sex with anyone who wasn't or didn't eventually become a girlfriend, but I do occasionally look up escorts in my area. For me it's material to fantasize over.

    The fact that he's spending money on webcam p*rn is a much more troublesome indicator, I think, and the two combined suggest to me that the escort thing could be a real problem. There's plenty of free p*rn everywhere, including webcam videos. So many that it's impossible to ever watch them all. You know the boundaries of your relationship better than we do, but were I you I'd tell him this is not okay, that it's hurting you emotionally, and you want him to stop. If he can't agree to that, I'd walk away.

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  • Just ask him if he's paying for sex.

    • If he is, he's not going to admit it

    • If he's paid for p*rn i wouldn't be surprised if he paid to enjoy an escort since he searched it. If he lies to you, that his problem for being a liar and being deceitful

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  • He is, or already has, hired women for sex. He started by paying to interact via the web, now he is looking for the real deal. You need to confront him immediately and you may have to end it with him. If he has been with another woman, get tested.
    He is clearly not dedicated to you. His loss when you leave him and find a good man.

  • I've read some of the other posts you had, now seeing this. I don't think its very cute he's with you and looking at escorts. Has he done anything? Who knows for sure.

    This is a slippery slope though. I'm under the impression he's looking for sexual kicks and it might progress further and further. You might try doing some very kinky things with him to get his attention back on you and not the other things

    • It's like every day I find something new and super shady all of a sudden. Maybe he's been like this for a long time and I never noticed or maybe he's lost his freaking mind. It's disgusting & disrespectful

    • I agree not cool at all. Hopefully it's just a new thing though. That seems like a better off situation

  • Damn, this coupled with the webcam thing... it's not looking too good.

    Let me ask you: let's just assume for a second that he hasn't cheated (or cheated YET)... would this behavior be acceptable for you if that was the case? I'm guessing that the answer will be a resounding "no"?

    • Of course it's a big HELL NO. His behavior is NOT ok. I'm disgusted with him.

    • I hear ya. And frankly, I don't blame you. I'd have a serious discussion with him, tell him how you feel, ask him what he's been up to, and then take a little bit of time to decide how you want to proceed. It kinda sounds like he's on super thin ice even if he hasn't hired an escort yet, and I'm wondering if you'll ever be able to fully trust him again? I guess those are that a I'd encourage you to consider as you think about things. Good luck!!! :-)

  • Just leave him. Plain and simple. Is he really that good looking or rich for you to continue staying with him?

  • Well I think you should confront him about it. He may be cheating so yeah definitely confront him

  • don't always asume the worst, he could be sorting something out for a friend on his birthday, you never know.
    best thing is to talk with him, don't get mad unless you find something out. you need to communicate!

  • if he's looking he's definitely considering it