Girls, I plan to have anal sex for the first time with my boyfriend. What do you recommend?

I'm very excited but I don't want to ruin myself at the same time. Is it true that the hole gets bigger and more visible after a few tries?
Girls, I plan to have anal sex for the first time with my boyfriend. What do you recommend?
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We did it last night, girls. It wasn't particularly exciting and I didn't feel much but he was able to get in balls deep after spending couple of minutes opening me down there and he was able to fuck me at his normal speed. I hope it gets better for me as he was looking really happy afterwards..! 😘 We did use plenty of lube by the way and I'm still feeling a bit open down there. Not a bad feeling though :)
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  • your butthole will shrink back tight after having anal sex. Some women that do it a lot do get an "used" look coz the muscle there gets used to having it stretched and forced open.

    I dont like anal at all, but do it to please my man.

    Personally, you should give yourself an enema or use the shower hose to wash your insides out COMPLETELY like 4-5 hrs before you have sex. You need that time for all the water to exit your intestines so you are totally empty. I do this so the man does not get "excrement" on his dick and take it out on me... several times I have been abused by guys for "letting" it happen. Also, going from your butt to your mouth and/or vaj is a bad thing coz of all the germs.. you can get an infection from the feces, even if you are Clean back there.

    He needs to use lots and lots of lube, take his time stretching you by using his finger or a small anal toy to loosen you up. If he gives you 2-3 O's before you do it, it will relax you a lot more... Also, dont overthink this as you will only clench up a lot.

    What hurts me so much is him pushing/forcing it in and not using enough lube. Most guys I have been with, like fisting their dicks super hard, and then pushing til the head goes in. If they would go slow and take it a little at a time, it would not hurt me so much. But they all push super hard and fast. Once it is in, it's not super bad, but most guys I have done it with, Enjoy pulling all the way out, waiting for my hole to shut, then pushing hard to go back in.

    Remember, the butthole is an Exit, not an Entrance. You need lots of lube to the point is almost too much and i find using a lube syringe (I have a Shibari one that holds like 3 spoonfuls) up the butt and filling the lining with lube helps a lot.

    It is something most women do for their men.

    I dont get Orgasms from anal, but every man that has done it says he likes how tight I am there, loves seeing my hips in front of him, holding my hips tight, and LOVES seeing my hole being forced open as his head goes in.. plus they admit me almost screaming and holding my breath as it goes in, is a major turn on for them.

    I have had a lot of guys cum almost as soon as they push in coz of how tight it is back there.

    Just my 2 cents worth...

    be prepared and ready and relaxed before you do it.

    • Good advice especially the part about cleaning yourself out a few hours before doing anal. I do have orgasms when doing anal if he or I rubs my clit at the same time.

    • "Some women that do it a lot do get an "used" look coz the muscle there gets used to having it stretched and forced open." By "a lot" you mean every day, twice a week?

    • I am glad for you that it worked out... Is he wanting to do it every night?

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  • I posted this a few months ago to someone else, sorry for the recycled post, but I think its quite relevant... yes, enemas are a good thing, along with I too can orgasm from anal if my clit and/or nips are played with. Good luck in your journey.

    If *YOU* really want to do this, you can try working yourself up with some plugs of varying sizes to learn about how your body reacts. Also, 'pre-lube' some silicone with a syringe (lube shooter). If you know you are going to play that night, maybe leave a toy in for the day to keep things 'relaxed.' Some stretching is key, as is learning about your muscles. Bearing down, like your trying to go poo, can also help with 'accepting.' The anus will generally return to normal as long as you don't 'blow it out', by going real big, real fast. I had an old book by Tristian Tamorino (https://puckerup.com/smart/ ) that was my guide.

    This is some of what works for me, and I think I can take it like a porn-star. I've also pegged several guys, but that's a different story."

    • "This is some of what works for me, and I think I can take it like a porn-star. " I managed to take it like a porn star yesterday too - my boyfriend says so :)

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  • I wouldn't recommend it. Butt men really enjoy it because of obvious reasons. However, it's usually very painful for us women. I tried it a couple times and it certainly was painful for me.
    If your man is a butt man do sex positions like reverse cowgirl or doggystyle (when he's going in your vagina, not your butt). That way he can still enjoy your rear while you can still enjoy the sex (and believe me, anal is not enjoyable for the vast majority of women)

    • Thank you.

    • My boyfriend says it's more tight and deep.

  • Practise opening your sphincter. Otherwise just lot of lube and take it slow at first

    • How can I open it?

  • I have only done it once and all I can recommend is LUBE, LOTS OF LUBE.

    • Did you like it?

    • Not in the slightest I am afraid. Hurt like a son of a bitch. Was the first and last time.

    • Did you use lube?

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  • Tell him to stimulate your anus with a long, ticklish rim job first. You should both lube up lot. Let him go in slowly and thrust back-and-forth gently.

    • We did it and he was able to fuck me at his normal speed.

    • What position is best for anal?

  • Use lots of lube the more the better, obviously go to the toilet first to clear out. Warm up with fingers/butt plug etc first then take your time, unless he is huge then you should be okay

  • I would say, slow and steady, a lot of lube and maybe a position where you have control over speed and depth

  • I highly recommend it but use a lot of lube inside you and on his dick!

    • You mean I need to put the lube inside via a syringe or what?

  • Use some fine lubricant before having anal. It will cause less pain.

    • Do you think I might end up with a bigger hole - I mean with a visible (O) at the back? I don't want to ruin my ass.

    • I had suggested you to use lubricant as your intention was/is to have anal first time. If you do it regularly, you will surely have have (O) in your ass. To avoid it, anal sex should be done occasionally.

    • That's totally not true! Your butthole goes back to its normal size once his dick has been out for a minute or two.

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  • Vigorous sex can indeed damage your sphincter muscles. He should be gentle and you should use lots of lube.

  • You Have to douche girl, if not there might be a mess. Also go as slow as humanly possible and use a lot of lube

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