I prefer to have sex with escorts/sex workers, or prostitutes because I resent having to pursue and court women, is that wrong of me?

[Anonymous]

the reason why i prefer to pay for sex, is because for as long as i can remember, i have always hated and resented that guys, men, have to approach women and make the first move, court them, be the initiators when starting a relationship, and going to escorts/sex workers, or prostitutes, requires no game, no courtship, no social skills or no seduction.

Sure, the desire for having an actual girlfriend is there, its an unfortuneate instinctive innate desire in all guys, men, just like for all girls, women, in regards to wanting a boyfriend.

But i figure to myself, since for all time, women can literally just sit back and let it all happen to them, since they have always been on the receiving end of sexual attention, its like they don't really have to do any work to get a guy.

Ideally i would prefer having a girlfriend if she was the one to pursue me, ask me out, but deep down inside, i know me being a guy, i can never count on that to happen, so thats why i prefer to get my sexual needs/wants from paying for sex.

[PositiveFlight]

I think it’s a sad state of affairs that we are in as a society in general when it comes to courtship, relationships and even marriage. Unfortunately you are not an exception but more of the rule nowadays when it comes to most men middle age to younger.

I don’t blame one sex over the other. It’s a societal problem in general. 100+ years ago, a man could call on a woman, court her, and marry her. He didn’t have to play mind games with her, and she didn’t have to play mind games back. Their intentions were serious and pure toward each other.

Even for myself, it has been difficult to find women who are serious. I don’t want to play mind games, texting games, to be ghosted, or have to deal with high maintenance fashion or any of the modern crap.

I can’t help but think that a lot of it is due to porn which has taught so many men to dehumanize and sexually objectify women. On the other hand, so many women have been plagued by militant feminism that they hate masculinity and feel like they have to prove something. Reality TV, Hollywood, the LGBTQ movement, and so many other radical movements globally have done such a good job at pitting men and women against each other. It has become an us versus them society. Men don’t want to become a husband or father and women don’t want to be a wife or a mother. Men and women have both become extremely selfish in that they still want a sexual fix but without any responsibility to actually commit or love one another. This is why we see so many unfortunate behaviors such as friends with benefits, only fans, and the things you mentioned in your question.

I feel strongly that despite all of this horrible human behavior that is devoid of love, commitment, and having feelings for the opposite, it is still very much worth trying to find the right person, holding onto her, loving her, and living a good life together in love and fulfilling each other sexually and in every other aspect that involves being selfless toward one another. It’s how we are wired as human beings. Truth be told, men and women are much more to each other than just a sexual fix. True, we are each other‘s counterparts sexually, but we are literally each other’s complementary opposite and everything in life. God designed us that a woman was not without a man and a man is not without a woman. There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting that we need each other. My life would be nothing without good women. Having a woman to love and serve is a tremendous blessing in life and worth it when you can find a woman who is simple, loving, nurturing, and will be your best friend and help mate life. In return, it’s worth being all those things for her and blessing her life as well.

Traditional rolls of taking the responsibility to ask a woman out, asking her to be yours, and asking her to marry you it’s still a good thing. As hard as it is, I love having that responsibility as a man. We will get our hearts crushed many times in the process but eventually the right woman comes along because there is someone out there for everyone. Don’t miss out on that opportunity and chance!

It is so very much worth going against the grain of this horrible selfish society and modern Pop culture!

[moviedude714]

Won't surprise me if there are plenty of other guys in the world that have the mindset like you do

[HelpfulWoman]

again, that it's based on resent is a you problem i suggest therapy for.
But all in all, it's not wrong.

[Asker]

well i know i will hate and resent that guys have to make the first move until the day i die, until my last breath

[CrimsonAngel09]

Don't be surprised when you pick up something that can't be cured.

[Asker]

medical help and healthcare treatment for STI's has improved a lot within the past 10 to 20 years now, but ya, i will hate and resent guys, men, being expected to make the first move and be the initiators, until the day i die, until my last breath.

[EmmaMary]

That of course is entirely your prerogative.

[Asker]

i know i will hate and resent that guys have to make the first move and be the initiators until the day i die, until my last breath

[Sparkie460]

It's your choice, you do you

[gorydetails]

You gotta do what makes you happy.

[red-lipstick-girl]

What if you catch a disease from them? It's not healthy at all and you don't have any feelings.

[Anonymous]

If they are adults and it's consensual nothing wrong w that.