🆘 I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP: Is this the right way to combat my erectile dysfunction?

PLEASE HELP ME!

I am only 23 and have the following 3 terrible problems:

1. I already have severe erectile dysfunction at my young age,
2. I have lost all interest in having sex! I am still a virgin (haven't even kissed yet). The thought of having sex does not turn me on anymore, but instead
3. I have developed some fucked up fetishes.

It all depresses me extremely 😞. I desperately want my problems to go away and finally be normal again.

Please help me by giving me your honest opinion on what you think about my approach to solve my problems and what potential cause do you think is most likely.

The Situation

I never have morning erections and never have spontaneous erections! Even during masturbation I usually only have medium hard erections (maybe 50% - 70%). I have had this problem for a few years now. It is now so bad that I often think my penis is irreversibly damaged. Until recently, I had given up hope of ever being able to have sex! 😞


But a few days ago on my birthday a miracle happened! God gave me the greatest gift I could ever have imagined🙏! Out of nowhere I got a very strong erection! Literally nothing in the world could have made me happier! When I realized it, I immediately ran in front of a mirror to check it out.

Unfortunately, the erection was not caused by thoughts about sex but by some fucked up fetish thoughts combined with masturbation and it only lasted a few minutes, but when it was there, it was pretty hard. Having never seen a vagina in real life I can't really judge it, but I'm actually pretty sure it would have been hard enough for sex. It felt like 99% or maybe even 100% hard I don’t know for sure.

I have moments like that only very rarely but that moment gave me an extreme amount of hope that I will be able to have sex someday and get back to normal because it was the evidence that my body is still capable of getting firm erections.

Possible reasons for my Problems


I have read a lot on the internet and have 2 main guesses as to what could be the reason for my problems:

1. I am highly addicted to porn.

You can really get "porn-induced erectile dysfunction" from too much porn!
My other two problems could also be caused by porn!

🆘 I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP: Is this the right way to combat my erectile dysfunction?

2. Antidepressant

I took an antidepressant medication called Escitalopram when I was 17 for about 1 year because I had constant panic attacks.

What no one told me back then and what was not on the package insert back then (but it is now) is that this medication can cause terrible sexual dysfunction like erectile dysfunction and also complete loss of libido (!!!) permanently even after you stop taking it!!! It is called PSSD (Post-SSRI sexual dysfunction).
When I read about it on the internet at the time, I stopped taking it in consultation with my doctor (which means I slowly phased it out).

If any of you are taking this medication: it is important that you slowly phase it out and not just stop taking it! And get informed first and talk to your doctor! Feel free to pm me.


Now I am very worried that my erectile dysfunction is not from too much porn but from the medication. I am also worried that it has also affected my libido. I don't have a complete loss but a decrease of libido compared to my younger years. Also I am often sexually aroused only for a short time and from one moment to the next my sex drive is suddenly completely gone!

Other more unlikely reasons

3. Prone masturbation

Also conceivable would be that I have developed erectile dysfunction due to a certain way of masturbating that I often did. It is called: "prone masturbation". I have used this technique since I was a teenager because I used to have a phimosis (too tight foreskin).

🆘 I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP: Is this the right way to combat my erectile dysfunction?

4. Any other physical causes

physical causes such as venous leakage, for example, are very unlikely my age but possible.

My solution strategy

To rule out that my problems exist because of too much porn or because of prone masturbation I have decided to neither masturbate nor watch porn for half a year. According to the Internet, porn damage is reversible by such a "brain - reboot" and in many cases damages due to "prone masturbation" are as well. If my problems are not significantly better in half a year, I will go to a doctor. Beside, I am currently trying out an app to get rid of erectile dysfunction. I do special exercises every day and have optimized my nutrition. What do you think about my approach?

Especially if you have any experience with antidepressants or porn addiction or ED or anything similar to my problems please contact me (if you prefer, feel free to pm me or to comment anonymously) but I am glad about every opinion

🆘 I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP: Is this the right way to combat my erectile dysfunction?
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  • Well I dont have experience on that area. Only I can say that we are energy, so if you are watching porn you are loosing your energy and drain it (like open a spout and let water run away). So you need to do a energy cleanning to remove all the energy that you catch while you look porn because it infect to you. Also you can find information about biodecoding to know what could start it, because can have several causes. Good luck!

    • @anis09 For many, what you said about the energy may sound like hocus pocus, but you are definitely right. I really feel completely drained of energy! Porn is devil! I truly swear I will never watch anything like that again! If it doesn’t help, I will see a doctor and i will also try biodecoding. Thank you for your help!

    • Well I think that you have to do all together to being better. Like I have a tumor, I went to the doctor to have a surgery and also, I wanted to find what cause that ir appeared. Knowing it made that I work on myself to dont come back to the same issue. Biodecoding is not something like magic it study causes of a health problem so dont worry isn't hocus pocus😂😂 Another things that drain energy is having casual sex, even when isn't your case when you feel ready to have it know the other person, if she vibe in the same way with you or she is the type of person you want to be: go ahead. If she isn't I recomend you go apart.

    • @anis09 Sry my English is not good. "Like I have a tumor, I went to the doctor to have a surgery and" Does it mean, you still have a tumor, or is it healed? In both cases I wish you very much health!

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  • Personally, I don't think stopping for half a year will make a difference because you said this started around 17 and your 23 years old that's 6 whole years you've had this problem. I do however still think it's a good idea anyway since you are addicted to porn.

    • @zollo Thanks for your opinion! What gives me hope is that there are times (very rarely but they do exist) when I do get strong erections. So there seems to be hope for me 🙏. I think, I will give it a try because the internet is full of stories of porn addicts who were able to cure their erectile dysfunction through noFap/noPorn.

  • You should really consider seeing a urologist. Porn is definitely a factor in my opinion, because I’ve heard of many people’s, specially men’s, libido and sexual performance being affected by a porn addiction. Swearing it off is frankly the best course of action so it isn’t a factor that determines your assessment of the situation. It’s best to hope that it’s caused by your porn addiction because if the medication is the reason, then it’s a lot more complicated. Best of luck! ✨

    • @princesssnowflake Yes I definitely swear it off! I really put a lot of hope in this. if it is the medication that would be terrible. Tbh, if it’s the meds, there is no hope. But either way I will be thankful cause it could be even worse. I "only" have ED and Libido decline which is very horrible but at least I have some and I can also have orgasms. A very good friend of mine has a complete loss of Libido! He has a different history than me (he had a very bad psychosis) but he also took the exact same meds that I used but also some others. Thank you for your help!

  • Slowly get off the antidepressents, limit porn to a few days a week, hold off on masturbation for a few days so that you really bust when you let loose, and lose weight. All of those will help

    • @dizzydesii I have not taken the meds for 5 years and I am not fat at all. actually I try to gain some weight cause I feel to skins. But I put a lot of hope in your other 2 ideas and will try them (even a bit more radical). Thanks for you tips!

  • Actually, I think you need to face your fetishes, and do it with a neutral mind set. Examine your fetishes, outline what they are, and ponder to yourself why they are there. What additional emotions rise to the surface with the fetish?

    Does your fetish feel like you are punishing yourself for a bad habit? Does it remind you of a good memory? Does the think happening in the fetish make you feel like you are being respected, and than in regular life you are normally not being respected?
    It’s better to lie down in a relaxed position and just let the thoughts flow, being as relaxed as possible. You are going on a journey with yourself, as people’s bodies often create an issue in an attempt to communicate something to their mind.
    Do not beat yourself up over your erectile dysfunction and do not beat yourself up over your fetish. They will only get stronger in response to being beat up and you will only fight harder with yourself. Try to understand instead, but do not make too hard of an effort to reach a conclusion and let the thoughts flow. It’s good to close your eyes if that makes you relaxed and maybe have a nice cool breeze hit you too.

    Be sensitive to your feeling and reactions in your body, catching flickers of painful emotions or thoughts battling each other, but do not be too obsessed with keeping tabs on them to the point where you are not experiencing the experience.

  • Have a chat with your doctor. It could be psychological or it could be something physical like blood flow problems.

    • @purplepoppy Ok thanks for your opinion! I will give noFap one last try and if I fail I will do what you suggest.

    • Nofap is nonsense. If you leave the car in a garage a month don't be surprised if the engine won't start

    • The engine of my car is overheated. It needs time to cool down. What takes a few hours for a car, takes a few months for the brain. Usually I agree to: use it or lose it. For normal people noFap makes no sense. But with a porn addict that’s a different story. I overused my dick. I completely blew up my dopamine receptors. They need time to desensitize...

  • You should see a doctor. We won't be able to help you.

    • @menina Ok thanks for your opinion! I think I will give noFap one last chance and if I fail or it doesn’t work, I will do as you say.

    • You're welcome. Yeah, I think you should give it a try and maybe you'll get used to it. And then this won't be a problem anymore.

  • I would go see the doctor so you can get checked out. Anything could be causing it. I would just hope that it's not the one medication you used to take years ago.

    • Yes that scares the shit out of me. What gives me hope is that there are times (very rarely but they do exist) when I do get strong erections. So there seems to be hope for me. Thanks for your opinion! I think I will give noFap one last chance and if it doesn’t help, I will do as you say.

  • I feel at this point you should go to a doctor. They' re better indicated to know what you should do.

  • Just to make sure nothing is physically wrong, I would say to see a doctor. As for the other stuff, as a 26 yo virgin who watches porn, it kind of grows an immunity with sex. I literally have to think about someone that I love very deeply to feel much of anything...

  • I see absolutely nothing here about going to a fucking dr.

    Could be something so easily fixed 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @smashingdoozy Ok, thanks a lot for your opinion. To be honest I am avoiding seeing a doctor, also because I still live with my parents and I hesitate to tell them that i am going to an andrologist. But I could just make up a lie. Anyway, you are right, I need to see a doctor. That’s also what a very good friend tells me. I think I will give noFap one last chance but if I fail I will go to a doctor and maybe even tell my parents.

    • No. You go to a dr immediately. Stop with the nofap nonsense it doesn't help with that. You could have had something wrong years ago and could potentially be verging on irreversible damage. Go. Seek. Medical. Help!

    • @smashingdoozy i did fall off the wagon today (3times and yesterday 5 times 🤦‍♂️) but i am so happy because I had one 93% erection today. There is still hope for me 🙏. I promise I will go to the doctor very soon. But the internet is full of stories of porn addicts who have successfully fought their erectile dysfunction with noFap/noPorn, that’s why I want to give it one serious try.

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  • You are really worked about this so I would go to the doctor if I were you. Strangers on the internet (most who wouldn't be doctors) are not going to be too much help. Take all the information you have written here and go to the doctor. A professional will be able to help a lot more and get you a solution faster too

    • @proteus912 Thanks for the help. I think I'll give noFap one last chance. If i fail, I will do as you say.

  • Like others have said, I'd go to a doctor!

    • @redpanda_ Ok thanks for your opinion. I guess I will give noFap one last try but if I fail, I will go and see a doctor.

  • This is why you can’t get laid!!! Nothing to do with bad boys

    Sorry I’m not usually mean but you’re annoying enough I had to say it

    • I’m sorry. I actually do feel really bad for being mean to you.

    • @gwenhwyfar Weird it has deleted my comment. But you already read it. Never mind.. I'm also sorry for being mean to you and insulting you.

  • Yeah not a man but the doctor can help

    • @justneedtokno Ok thanks for your opinion! I guess I will give noFap one last chance but if I fail, I will do as you said.

    • I mean honestly it could be diet it could be anything you never know I have never dealt with anyone that has it. Nor I’ve only been to relationship so I wouldn’t even know to begin with.

    • Don’t be a shame or afraid

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  • sex change... become a girl, prob solved

    • If the subject wasn't so serious for me, I could laugh about it.

  • Get professional help

    • @in_trance Thanks for your opinion. I'm talking to a good friend about it. He recommends the same to me. I'm giving myself one last chance with trying consistent noFap before I go to a doctor.

    • Good luck

    • Thanks!

  • Sorry this won’t be of much help. I am just very curious, what exactly are those fetishes?

    • I would tell you what the fetishes are, but a good friend of mine knows my name on GaG and I don't want him to know about my fetishes. I talk with him about the rest but not about the fetishes. It might be a bit paranoid since he is not on GaG, but I don't want to risk anything. But besides myself they don't harm anyone. They don't harm me physically either but they really harm me very much on other levels. That’s why it is a good idea to stop fantasizing about them and doing half a year noFap. I read a lot about it and it is definitely worth trying it since I am very confident that they are not really part of my personality. They are just porn-induced. If you believe it or not, porn-induced fetishes do exist!

    • Aw man, I understand.

  • You're very honest.
    I think the best would be to get some medical and psychological advise.
    Are they really weird fetishes?

    • Thanks for your opinion. I just hope that my problems are not from the medications. The medication was completely unnecessary in my case, I could have been cured without it. They did not even help me at all. I had my panic attacks just as much while taking them. The panic attacks back then were bad. But it obviously would be a billion times worse for me if the medication chemically castrated me. But I still am very grateful since my biggest problem "only" is ED. Others have lost their complete libido! I can still have orgasms and I have some Libido. I would tell you what the fetishes are, but a good friend of mine knows my name on GaG and I don't want him to know about my fetishes. I talk with him about the rest but not about the fetishes. It might be a bit paranoid since he is not on GaG, but I don't want to risk anything. But to answer your question: Yes the fetishes are really fucked up. But besides myself they don't harm anyone. They don't harm me physically either but they really harm me very much on other levels. That’s why it is a good idea to stop fantasizing about them and doing half a year noFap

    • I guess I will give noFap one last chance but if I fail, I will do as you said.

  • I’m a girl. I literally have no idea. You should see a doctor.

    • Ok thanks for your opinion! I guess I will give myself one last chance with trying consistent noFap before I go to a doctor.