I recently found out she had a friends with benefits.

while we were in out initial stages of dating, she says she didn't intend on meeting me which of course is true because how could she know, but she was still sleeping with this guy for weeks while we were just getting to know each other. I'm considering breaking up with her but I'm not sure if that would be to sudden. even if I don't break up with her right now I feel this will always be in the back of my mind like this will heighten future problems we may encounter.
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i guess I'm asking for advice, I just re-read this and realized I didn't even ask a question but just anybody who has been in this situation or just older people that know more about life anything would be nice really
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i left her, I can't get mad at her for being who she is, but she's not what I'm looking for.
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  • I had friends with benefits. A girl that would have a friend with benefits is immuter and doesn't respect herself nor her body and has high hormone level which keeps her very horny.

    The first girl that I had 'fwb' had a boyfriend but for some reason he wasn't satisfying her enough.

    I guess it would Depend what you want out of her, if you want a serious relationship I suggest you stay away from her. Or you will be one of those boyfriend that get cheated on. my current friends with benefits is a married lady with a son that is the same age as me. She is what some people would describe as a 'hot milf'.

    Basically she is a whore. If she is hot then sleep with her for couple times or use her as some one to release your sexual frustration. (free hooker)

    • thanks that makes a lot of sense that what I was leaning towards

    • Aren't you a free hooker too? Don't you respect yourself? =/

    • hes a guy its a lot different

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  • Yeah I think it's too soon. I have not been in this situation but a friend recently went through it. The way I see it is this. You two are not in a committed relationship nor are you talking commitment so don't blame her for something she does before the commitment. If this is something you don't like then be honest and tell her it bothers you buy keep in mind that when people date, before a commitment is made, people may date others at the same time. If her friends with benefits continued after you both committed to one another then she isn't worth you. If she sees a potential boyfriend in you she will stop if you say it bothers you. Just my thoughts.

  • I've been in a similar situation with my current boyfriend, the best advice I was given is that "you can't get jealous/angry if you're not together", if you weren't exclusive and comitted then you can't blame her for it, you obviously mean more to her than the friends with benefits otherwise she wouldn't be with you. Give the relationship a shot, In the words of Alan Moore "the past can't hurt you anymore, not unless you let it".

    • i understand I'm just not sure if I want to be with that kind of girl

    • take away the fact that she had a fwb, what kind of girl is she then? Sometimes people get into situations that aren't perfect and they may later regret but it doesn't change who she is. Just 'cause she had a friends with benefits doesn't mean she'll be promiscuous or anything. She's still the same person as she was before you found this out.

    • shes the kind of girl to have fwb, and like I said I'm still getting to know her so I'm still finding out what kind of girl she is and she's the kind that dates other guys will f***ing a fwb, actions speak louder then words, she does have good qualities too but I'm not sure those good qualities constitute me maintaining a relationship with her

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