I slept with him and we haven't messaged at all in over a week even though the sex was amazing. what shall I do?

[sugarballoonbby]

we have been messaging on & off for a few months, literally just about sex and hooking up, maybe a few convos about other stuff. last week, we spontaneously hooked up at like 2am. we talked for a solid 2 hours about loads of stuff before we started anything sexual, we got along really well & had loads in common & we were laughing. then we slept together and it was probably one of the best sexual experiences I've ever had with someone id only just met properly. we spooned & i also slept round & we slept together 2 more times after. we chatted for a bit in the morning and i left in the afternoon, but since then, we have not contacted eachother at all. i haven't messaged him and he hasn't messaged me. i quite like him and im scared to message him incase i get rejected or something. what should i do? i wanna message him but have no clue what to say. i hate looking vulnerable and needy

[virgin20]

You should just message the guy if he hasn't. He could be thinking the same but just see if he wants to meet again or something

[sugarballoonbby]

i know, the last experience i had with a guy was very abusive so im just scared of reactions & rejection & stuff, its so annoying

[virgin20]

I'm sorry you had to go through that. But if you can't look beyond the past, how are you going to have the future you want? It's daunting but you've been with this guy and done stuff, i am surprised he hasn't said anything but if you want something go for it

[Iron_Man]

That’s what happens when you give it up he was looking for a booty call now he is Fulfilled and moved on

[sugarballoonbby]

i'd say the same but he always stalks my social media so it's hard to know if u get what i mean. im just as bad tho, i haven't messaged him either

[spartan55]

You girls are so clueless about the "appearing needy/desperate" bullshit.

[sugarballoonbby]

well tell me thennnn? you boys are so clueless about the fact that u all give mixed ass signals 24/7

[spartan55]

Wtf are you talking about? I don't see any examples of him being hot and cold in your post. You are just as guilty as him that you haven't communication. You don't some sort of upper hand because you didn't reach out first... come on! by the way, him looking at your social media does not even belong in this discussion, because it means NOTHING.

[spartan55]

*communicated

[sugarballoonbby]

i agree w you, what shall i even message him then? just gives me anxiety i dont know why. thats what the question was asking but u just make a weird statement about how girls are clueless or whatever like? really helpful thanku so much

[spartan55]

You sure are a sensitive one... I said that to illustrate the fact that girls are constantly worried about appearing desperate, and it never even crosses our minds. The who texts first and how long between texts is a bullshit game that guys typically won't bother with. Look, if I had sex with a woman and I thought it we connected, I would be looking for something that indicates she is on the same page. Guys need this reassurance just as much as girls. You initiating contact to let him know you are interested, PLUS letting him know he is a Superstud in the bedroom IS NOT DESPERATE. He might think you aren't feeling it. Girls tend to think we should just know when they like us... we usually need to be told. Also, I would strongly recommend that you call him and ditch the texting. This is a guy you got naked with... isn't he worth it?

[Berethor]

Isn't you vulnerable anyway? vulnerable to being used by a guy that had sex with you?

[sugarballoonbby]

vulnerable from being in an abusive relationship for a year a few months prior to this yeah so there was some sexual abuse in that relationship also. we used eachother in that way considering we just met up to fuck basically but still, i feel like were both just scared to message eachother first. surely if he wanted nothing to do with me, he would delete me & unfollow me on social media, im not sure

[Razzamatazz001]

Did he cum in you? Maybe he's worried you will be pregnant.

[sugarballoonbby]

he did but im on the pill & i came on my period this week lmao

[Razzamatazz001]

That's nice for him, all 3 times he came in you I assume that lucky fucker.. Well I don't know. I definitely would have called you lol.

[sugarballoonbby]

yeah its kinda annoying because i hate to be the one messaging someone first, but i wanna sleep with him again because it was way too good lol. don't usually feel like this just from sex

[Razzamatazz001]

He made you cum a lot I bet.

[sugarballoonbby]

he did yes

[In_Trance]

Next time, just cut to the chase

[Valnac]

Just tell him how much you enjoyed your time with him.

[sir_cookie]

Just seeing him a message

[sir_cookie]

Send*

[Anonymous]

You should just say hi