You need to think through what you value and choose. Based on what you say your feelings are, both doesn't seem like an option. (It is an option, but it doesn't seem like that will work for you.) So, if you like the in flesh boyfriend, flaws and all, go with him and nicely tell the sexter guy that it has to end. Be nice to him. Let him down easy. Or, if for some bizarre reason, you like sexter guy, end it with your boyfriend. But in that case make sure you know what you're getting or not getting. The answer may actually be a fourth option: nicely ditch the sexter, ditch the boyfriend too if you're not sexually compatible, and find a boyfriend who fulfills your needs.
Best wishes with this.
I should have added, you're not a terrible person. This doesn't make you a terrible person.
Thank you for giving a respectful and reasonable response. It really helps me think about my decisions.
Thank you for mho!
If he see's those texts you're fucked and not in a good way, what if he sexts you while you are with your boyfriend, you got to be careful.
It's understandable you want to forfil your desires and yes your not physically cheating but he may not see it that way if he catches you.
You should talk to your boyfriend, saying that physical intimacy is important to you, failing that then when you are both in bed go to be naked or in something sexy and use a vibe on yourself and moan.
Maybe sometimes he's having trouble getting an erection which isn't your fault, sometimes it's psychological.
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How is this a question? It's cheating full stop. Your boyfriend deserves much better, either come clean and stop the sexting or break up with him and do both of you a favour.
Either stop or break up with him. Unless he says it's okay don't go behind his back that's cheating basically.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I understand it can be difficult. Some people don’t understand what it’s like to have a naturally high sex drive but not have those needs met or have the release necessary to satisfy your physical appetites. You aren’t a bad person. Not at all.
To whomever gave me the negative feedback… Is it really that bad to sympathize and give empathy? I didn’t condone the behavior but I didn’t condemn her either like everyone else. She already moreless has said that she feels bad about it, so why condemn her and tell her it’s bad? She knows! Sometimes people just need to feel like others understand and have some empathy for them. Not every response needs to be a negative response.
If this is hard wait until you marry…. sex ends. You hitting the bars?
Every liar and every cheater has an excuse for telling lies and cheating, and it's always someone else's fault.
If your boyfriend knows and is okay with it, then enjoy without guilt. But if that is not the case, then you are cheating on him.
You feel bad. Repent. Stop doing it. Stop cheating.
Snap out of it!
You are cheating on him
I think it's fine. You're not actually having sex with him. And it's helping you get your sexual needs met. As long as your not ignoring your boyfriend and giving him as much sex as he wants. I think you should enjoy the sexting.
ask your SO. They'll tell you if it's ok or not
Sure you can sext me too if you like 😆
It’s fine, just break up now
You are not seeing or touching each other, just words on a screen, like reading a porn book, as long as it is just for fun and not for more, go for it
I need but i can't find
It's harmless and makes sex with your boyfriend more exciting.
Mhhhm you are so dirty, I love it!
That’s very selfish and wrong of you. If you want to sext other men then do it single, that’s what you would do if you really loved him. But no, your selfish ways tell you cheating is ok. Karma will find its way to you if you don’t do right by him.
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