I think he’s back with his ex and is using me on the side for sex? why won’t he let me go?

I have been seeing a guy for 1 year now. He used to text me every second of the day. The only red flag was that he broke up with his ex 2 months when we started speaking. I started to notice he would only invite me round for sex and promise dates that would never happen yet still talk to me every single day and help me with things and I was seriously there for him as a person.

I’d help him with everything when he was depressed, buy him gifts yet when I was depressed he was no where to be seen.

It’s my birthday soon and he’s promising to take me on a date. I don’t believe he will. I saw a post his friend posted and his ex is in the photo with him in it at his house. I told him I saw it and he said they aren't together and that he still wants to speak to me.

I just feel like he’s keeping my hanging right now, he’s not allowing me to let go but he’s ignoring me a lot, but when I say to end it he begs and makes me feel sweet and better. Or he turns things round on me and says that he’s 29 and has more responsibilities as me. I understand that but it’s never stopped him replying BEFORR. He’s started to take 10 hours.

My friend driver passed his house and they said they saw the baby mom there. I know I’m answering my own questions that there back together but I can’t let go and I don’t know what to do. Is he just keeping me around here for sex. We do have really good sex but my emotions are so strong for him I’m crying daily because he’s being so half hearted. My friends have gotten sick of it and I’ve lost so many friends because they keep saying he’s manipulating me and using me and I’d stick up for him now it seems they were right.

why won’t he let me go but dosent want me either? Why is he trying to keep me around like this it’s so draining I don’t understand? I build up the strength to leave and he just pulls me back in and promises to change and it dosent change. Would someone keep you around just for sex?
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  • Lots of red flags in that story. This is why I don’t like dating guys soon after a long term relationship, especially if she ended it because often it isn’t completely over with him. He’s keeping you on the line for extra sex and as a backup in case that relationship doesn’t pan out. He’s using you and you’ll never be #1 in his heart. I’ve been in that situation and it sucks. Tell him it’s over and mean it. Stop answering his calls and texts and don’t see him anymore. You deserve someone better who recognizes your worth.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It's not him hanging on, it's you. When you decide to shut him out, he'll be gone. He obviously doesn't care about you.
    You are the key to your issues, not him.

    • But when I do try to shut him out he makes me feel bad and says he’s been busy and that he does care and that he wants to see me etc

    • And then it just draws me back in again.

    • Again, you're the one that gives in to his lies. Get some self respect and dump his ass.

  • hmm yeah sounds like he’s doing what you think he’s doing…probably best to just state that you’re looking for something serious and committed and leave

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  • Bkoz you're not strong enough to take stand for yourself...

    • How do I... I’m only 20 but if I stand up for myself he’s going to tell me that I’m the Villan and that I’m being horrible and that I’m overreacting

    • Do what is good for you He treat you like his whore and you thinking about him. Good girl.

  • Because he gets more sex

  • Does it matter?

  • You said it yourself.

    He is.. using you on the side for sex. Case closed.

  • why do you not let him go should be the question move on red flags waving see them