I think my dad is gay should I ask him?

My mom and him broke up recently.
I found receipt for adult bookstore In his wallet I found them online and it says people go there for sex mostly gay or married man
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  • No. Definitely not. He will tell you IF he ever decides to. For the love of god... that would be a terrible thing to do.

    I don't think I've ever said this to anyone on here. "Pretend that this did not happen. You saw nothing".

    Seriously. It would be HUGELY socially inappropriate for anyone to call someone out for being gay before they want to come out. Your dad would experience what would literally ACTUALLY be the most embarrassed he has ever been in his life. Then, as you start to see that saying something was a huge mistake you'll inevitably feel awful. Because it would be an awful thing to do.

    Your dad might be gay. He might tell you someday. He might go to his grave without saying anything.

    But let him tell you if/when he wants to.

    Don't hint, don't say something.

    This is about the ONLY case where you DO want to keep things "secret". Or "covered up".

    I"m always tellin everybody to have "an open and honest conversation" about (Whatever) where you "put all your cards on the table" in hopes the other person will do the same. I'm all about NOT covering things up. Not keeping things secret. But... right now this IS a secret your father has a right to keep private until he decides different.

    I'm sure this must be pretty crazy for you to deal with as well. That's... a lot for you to process. But the best thing you can do for your dad is to literally pretend you never saw what you saw. Say nothing. 🙂



    I reeeeealy hope you take my advice on this.

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  • Well that doesn't mean that he's gay. I'm as straight and straight can be and I have gone into them before. There's a lot of women that go there and there's a lot of gay guys and regular guys and straight women people who go to church doctors lawyers it's just like any other place in life if there is something inside there that you want you're going to go in there and buy it I think you should ask him if you are concerned about it I don't think that he would lie to you I would hope not anyway

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  • I don’t suggest you ever ask him. If he haven’t told you yet it means he isn’t ready to do so let him tell you first. When is the right time he will know. As for now pretend you don’t know about it. Seeing you are 13 years old he might think you are too young which you are but we don’t know what he is thinking. So , no don’t!

    • :/ so Don t ask?

    • It’s up to you , I don’t know how close are you with your dad? But if I were you no I wasn’t going to ask…🥺

    • Ok thank u

  • Why? Do you need to know?
    Maybe he is and isn't ready to come out yet. Maybe that's why they got a divorce.

    But it's up to him if he is, to choose when to come out to others.
    Don't take that away from him.

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  • Don’t ask him. Just be there for him. Listen and tell him you love him.

  • no don't ask him, if he wants to tell you about his sexuality he will, anyway a lot of men look at books etc,
    its a man thing, my husband certainly does and he gets as much sex as he wants


  • really sorry to hear, that really sucks.

    It is worth having a conversation but don’t just come out with a straight ‘are you gay’

    he may be Bisexual or curious

    it’s often a good idea to think

    how would you want your parents to ask if they thought you may not be straight?

    Adult bookstores have a lot of various things, so it may not be that and you could be guessing wrong

    it also depends on your relationship with your father.

    • Straight up. Domt really talk with him since the break up.

    • You stopping with your mum or your dad? Irrespective of your dads sexuality, are they giving you support?

    • I live with my mom and step dad. Dad picks me up form school and takes me home. Dad pays for everything.

  • Depends on your relationship with him. For most people it's best to let them open up to you instead of opening their closet door for them and just let him know you're there for him.

  • Sure ask if u want

    • Okay.

  • He's not.
    Wasn't he having sex with your mom for YEARS?
    Then he is NOT gay.
    He may be bisexual.

    If he were gay being with a woman would gross him out.

  • It's possible that he's gay, or just exploring. But it's a deeply personal thing, so don't ask him. If you would like to talk to him about it, then let him know that you are there for him, you love him unconditionally - no matter what, he's your dad. If he is gay, when he's feeling comfortable enough to come out, he will. Let him do it on his time.

  • Are you sure it’s a gay bookstore? Many of those places cater to straight married guys.

    • Online it says gay porn and what haooens in theaters doesn't leave the theaters

    • Wow ok. He night be bi.

  • He probably started going to the adult arcade when your mom stopped having sex with him, gay or not, men have a primal, animalistic sex drive.

    • What does that mean?

    • That means that if your mom stopped having sex with him he started going out and having sex with someone else, be it male or female. Regardless of which it is, or what transpired they are still your parents, love them both equally and don’t question their sex lives.

    • I just wanna know y he goes there thats it.

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  • Would it make a difference to you?

  • I think its best for you stay out of this and stop snooping.

  • Don't ask. Don't assume. Just let him come to you if he ever does. He probably isn't and you're jumping to conclusions. Maybe he bought some adult entertainment or a pocket pussy.

  • Wow. That must truly hurt. A sodomite father. 😭

  • Ask him to be honest with you.

  • Just ask both of your parents why they split up and see what kind of answers you get:
    Then depending on their answers. You could say I thought you were gay or something.
    You are old enough to know what happened.

  • Why not. Would you be ashamed of him if he was?

  • If he is a gay. How can he made you karen ? 🤣😂😁😀

    • F u boi. Gay people can still have kids.

    • Of course no baby. Probably he is a bisexual. And nowadays bored women and find love with a man.

    • Gay people still have penis right? And all u need is a penis and sprem to make a baby.

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  • i wouldn't... maybe he is old school and just likes to get his porn at shops?

  • How would you feel if he was gay?

  • ask he might be, maybe not

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