I think of his brother during sex?

[Anonymous]

During sex with my boyfriend, I think of his brother sometimes. I can't help it, because I am attracted to his brother. I would never do anything but its starting to become an every single time thing when my boyfriend and I have sex. How can I stop fantasizing this?

[AustinMan]

Be more fully present in the moment. Focus on what's happening to you physically and just refuse to let the fantasy start.

[lanadelrey25]

Hmm I have a similar problem but not with boyfriends that I don't want to go into detail about, but it inly happens when I masturbate clitorally but not vaginally

[Red_Arrow]

? Hope that someday you will share. Not sure what you mean.

[lanadelrey25]

@Red_Arrow It has to do with trauma and sexual abuse from when I was a child by a family member

[Red_Arrow]

Ouch. Thank you for answering. Hope you can put it well behind you!

[Mikelaughs]

It must be difficult to deal with. Have you ever been to therapy?

[lanadelrey25]

@Mikelaughs I'm in therapy right now

[Mikelaughs]

It it helping?

[lanadelrey25]

@Mikelaughs Sorta, I really think only I can get over this though, with only my mind

[Mikelaughs]

Yes, its definitely up to you only to work on it. We can talk about it if you like, but we should talk about it somewhere else where others can't see

[lanadelrey25]

@Mikelaughs Well I appreciate your kindness but I'd rather not ruin my day thinking about my grandfather <3

[Mikelaughs]

I totally understand. How old are you by the way?

[lanadelrey25]

@Mikelaughs my profile says it

[Mikelaughs]

Cool. Hmu?

[lanadelrey25]

@Mikelaughs No that's okay

[elizamichale1]

Lol i think its not so weird thing coz ut does happen that we think of others while we are at it

[elizamichale1]

Thanks for MHO honey

[On_the_other_hand]

That is messed up. You can control your thoughts if you really wanted to. Get out of the relationship and don't tell your boyfriend why, it will destroy his ego.

[centerline]

fantasies are normal and good... sometimes its good to share them with out partner, and sometimes it isn't...

[Oram52]

What would you suggest if he was always thinking of your sister when having sex? Clearly you don't have any strong attachment to him if you're fantasizing about his brother. So might as well break up and move on.

He wouln't be a good brother if he betrays him and instead starts going out with you. And its not going to be worth the drama coming between two brothers if by some miracle it does happen. So might as well cut your losses & find somebody you're actually into.

[RobieMon]

You should be with his brother

[blondfrog]

Do you people have no morals? That would make her a homewrecker. That's disgusting and the lowest of the low.

[AmeerX]

You should not pay attention to the thought

[AD240pCharlie]

If you allow yourself to have those fantasies, I think you'll be much less likely to act on it in real life. So keep imagining it!

[skunkbeard68]

Its ok to fantasize. Just keep that to yourself and enjoy the ride.

[19vetteman91]

Break up and get with his bro

[BeyondCuriosity]

You can't help what you think about. If you're not acting on it, you haven't crossed any lines.

[ToxicAkrep]

Do it with him, don't let it stay inside with his brother, taste it

[Nice222]

Just keep it to yourself and keep enjoying

[Jmmmfi4]

Well that's horrible

[gandolph3]

do you think of him when you masturbate

[gandolph3]

maybe boy friend would consent to 3way

[gandolph3]

Is the brother married

[Firefox23]

Break up with him! And leave!

[Anonymous]

Damn that would be a major problem for me if my girlfriend thought that way.
Maybe dump him for the brother