I THINK THAT BOYFRIEND IS USING ME FOR MY PUSSY?

Anonymous

Why I think that:
He doesn’t talk about the future
He doesn’t cuddle after sex and is disconnected
He doesn’t eat my pussy
He’s always making it about sex
He is independent
He does MIA for a week after we fuck
He doesn’t want to build intimacy outside sex
My gut

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I’ve had him on sex bans and since a few months we’ve been fucking once a month and he is still here and acts normal.

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Curmudgeon Guru
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Some thoughts:
"He doesn’t talk about the future
(...)
He is independent
He does MIA for a week after we fuck"

It seems to me like he is too busy actually *making* a future for himself. Have you asked him about joining him? if not, why not?

"He doesn’t cuddle after sex and is disconnected"

Does he actually stay there and sleep with you?
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- Asker
  +1 y
  That’s a deal breaker too then. Being too busy and not telling me about it means he IS using me for his pleasure? He doesn’t sleep with me after sex. He just lays there disconnected
- Curmudgeon
  +1 y
  Is he good to you? If yes, be happy with that. And have you bothered to *ask* him about his future plans? News flash: Men DO NOT have "E. S. P.", and it won't hurt to ask him about it, unless you ask in such a way that he perceives that you are not supporting him, or worse, belittling him. Does he just lay there disconnected because he is exhausted? (you might take pride in that, you are an amazing sexual partner if so). Or does he feel sticky afterwards? You can always cozy up to him and be reassuring if so.
- Asker
  +1 y
  He’s good to me when I demand and scream and shout. He buys me food and is always the one reaching out first. He gets sleepy after sex and when I somehow force my cuddles on him, he does not reject them but it doesn’t feel genuine and loving.
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- Curmudgeon
  +1 y
  "He buys me food and is always the one reaching out first." Well, there you go. Leave well enough alone. And if he is working or studying hard (or especially both) outside your relationship, that's a big plus in his favor.
- Asker
  +1 y
  He is really career driven, but at the expense of nurturing our commitment.

Most Helpful Girls

MamuCandy Xper 5
+1 y

Do you bring up about the future?
Do you telm him that you want to cuddle after sex?
Do you tell him what you want him to do with your body/pussy?
Have you ever asked him if he can emagine you in his future?

Try to communicate more. So that there won't be missunderstandings.

But if you are always the one giving 100% in the relationship, then that is a problem.

By the way, what/who us MIA?
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jennifer_bloom Master
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He’s not your boyfriend - he is pretending to date you to get sex
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Most Helpful Guy

SjE78 Guru
+1 y
yeah it sounds like it, if he's not interested then you should dump him and find someone who is...
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What Girls & Guys Said

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Hangry22 Guru
+1 y
You're right. Break up with him
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TallAnon Master
+1 y
He takes whatever he can get and ignores you otherwise, you're just convenient.
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In_Trance Master
+1 y
So keep your clothes on and see how long he sticks around
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- Asker
  +1 y
  Read the update mate
- In_Trance
  +1 y
  Then why would you even bother asking in the first place
- Asker
  +1 y
  Because I still want to know what’s going on there
Protein_mate Xper 7
+1 y
I think it's obvious bro, he clearly isn't that invested into you
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- Asker
  +1 y
  The reason I’m still with him is because he cries when I’m about to end it and when I complain about something, he tries. For example I said that he should eat my pussy or I’m done and now he does. Or when I complained about the lack of dates, he took me out. Why?
- Asker
  +1 y
  And I’m not a bro.
- Protein_mate
  +1 y
  Sorry sis. I think your should end it asap. He's manipulating
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- Asker
  +1 y
  But what about the points I listed? The fact that he tries?
- Skankhunt
  +1 y
  Actually, you give him an ultimatum. Lick my pussy or I'm done with you. And your boyfriend cries if you say you will end the relationship. I think the both of you are manipulating and using each other. If you want this relationship to succeed, you should communicatie with each other, otherwise it's better to end the relationship. A real relationship isn't superficial, unless your partner has some sort of issues (trust issue, abandonment issue, attachment issue etc). You two should work on your relationship.
- Asker
  +1 y
  @Skankhunt He’s got most of the issues you listed. And he eats my pussy when I ask, but only then.
gandolph3 Yoda
+1 y
you are just a fuck buddy or friends with benefits to him, decide what you want and take action
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Board_Tennis77 Xper 5
+1 y
Be carefull
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Anonymous
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His MIA, do you talk at all even?

You're a fwbs
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- Asker
  +1 y
  We’ve been together for 1.2 years and we do talk, but nothing deep. He has claimed me as his girl and always fights for what we have when I’m about to end things?
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  Yeah, because you're there and nobody else will be. I question how much he care about YOU as a person. If it were 1 or 2 of those things you listed, you could maybe justify or see other possibilities, but not with all these combined. Have you ever tried to have a serious talk with him about all these things? Like not just sex, but that there's no talk about the future etc? If so, what does he say? To me, this sounds like a total fwbs (for him) 100%. And yes he gets upset when you want to end it because you're regular sex that's always there for him. I see no signs of him actually caring about YOU. Not from what you say here at least.
- Asker
  +1 y
  When I bring up the fact that what we have is “casual”, he takes immediate notice and does something like take me out for dinner (no sex after). I know that he cares about me because of that look in his eyes when he looks at me. Because I’ve been paranoid about him treating it so casual, I put him on sex bans and he has not been bothered by it or even complained?
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- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  Maybe it's just him and the way he is then? Some guys are like that. Don't like cuddling, being intimate etc. Talk to him about it, not just that you need it, by why is he like that? Is there a reason, or just the way he is. And why doesn't he go down on you? Does he not like it? Believe it or not, some guys feel emasculated by it. Seems silly, but true. Why does he go MIA for a week? That's a big one I'd definitely discuss with him. And he needs to make the effort to change some of this permanently, not just once and a while when you complain. If it continues, there will come a day when you'll simply say "enough is enough", but by that time, it'll be too late for him to do anything about it because you'll have had enough 100%. Because you'll be totally unhappy. More and more as time goes on if this doesn't change.
- Asker
  +1 y
  He’s really independent and a man of few words so it’s possible that it’s who he is. And he’s not experienced with women and I’m his first proper girlfriend. Maybe that’s why? And yes you’re smart!! He is a macho type of guy and it makes sense that he probably feels emasculated by it. He goes MIA after we have sex. I don’t text him and he always reaches out first. Sometimes he complains that I don’t text him until he does. I’m starting to think it’s just who he is, but even then I’m not interested I think. I’m understanding that my future with him will always be a struggle and he’s probably just not a relationship type of person then.