I think the guy I’m with is using me for sex?

Question

I’ve been with this 28 year old for 5 months now. We are official. But every time he sees me he only invites me round his house or books a hotel and then straight away he just wants to have sex. Thats it. within 5 minutes he wants to have sex. He never takes me on dates anymore but when I try to leave him he begs for me back and dosent stop calling. I like him but I’m starting to get the feeling I’m being used. Im 20. I mean for Christmas he bought me a vibrator I mean I like that but Thays all he ever gets me. We speak everyday but some days he goes MIA and I don’t hear from him for so long and he gives me no explanation. Also he asked me to be his girlfriend while I was giving him a blow job and everytime we have sex he says how lucky he is I’m his girlfriend but this feels wrong? When I confront him he promises to change and grow but nothing changes. He sees me on his terms only and barley mine. I want it to work out though? What do I do? Im too nice and I’m scared to stick up for myself.

LoneleeGirll · Accepted Answer

A guy asking you to be his girlfriend whilst you are giving him a bj. I wouldn't take that as him officially asking you to be his girlfriend. Guys out there tells girls they love them while in the middle of having sex, and it was a complete and utter lie. Girl this guys actions are not only telling you, but they are also showing you, it's just sex to him.

Next time you are with him, hold off having sex with him and see how he reacts. If you were truly his girlfriend. He would take you out on dates.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Yeah I mean….. by reading this. He probably is.

Men like this seem so lame. All they want is sex. Every nice thing they do is because they feel he is entitled to sex for doing it and it’s disingenuous. There is no romance. There is no friendship. Just straight sex…..

I don’t get it. I don’t. Women who are like that too seem so lame.

slatyb · Accepted Answer

How can he "use you for sex" ? Aren't you also using him for sex? Why are you having sex if you don't want to have sex?

You can't trade sex for love or commitment. When you accept that and stop trying, then you can't be "used for sex".

Guy13 · Answer

YOu are not in a good place with this guy. Good luck with it.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

No offense, but how dumb are you?

Surely · Answer

As I have heard people say. Your need to grow a pair and speak your mind. Tell him what you expect out of him because otherwise you ain’t gonna get it!  Good luck!