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Sexual Health I told him I will never give him a blowjob ever. Am I too harsh on him?
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So I offered my boyfriend a bj after I went down on him he became more aggressive and he started facef**king me I couldn't handle it and tried to free myself but ended vomiting a little on him. He tried to apologise but I didn't accept it. I told him that I will not give him a bj ever he thinks I'm too harsh on him , what do you think? Should I forgive him? Or let him learn his lesson?
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20 27I think you're able and have the right to withhold anything sexual act you want from anyone. Especially since he was so violent with you. I dabble in BDSM and I would never violate my girls trust
What was the safe word again?
Haha men are supposed to be dominant and it makes head way better. It sounds like he may have took it a little far
damn lol harsh. Part of being in a relationship is learning limits. He learned one of yours. It's not like you told him not to do that. You're overreacting
I wad thinking the same thing... but what do I know lol
He should have asked if he could instead of hurting her.
@WhaChaChaKing I'm sure he didn't realize he was hurting her. It's a natural reaction to pull away. It's part of the gag reflex.
If she struggled then he should've stopped, no matter how fun it was for him.
@WhaChaChaKing once again, he didn't realize it was hurting her. Let's just agree To disagree lol
How do you even know that? Lol okay.
@WhaChaChaKing why would he do it just to hurt her? Their in a relationship.
I'm not saying he did it to hurt her but maybe in that moment he only cared about his pleasure and not that he was hurting her.
To many men Blow Job is as important as breathing , but we take the air for granted, same way your boyfriend took your mouth for granted, its he who was harsh, not you, as for the lesson, depravity for a while would be great teacher for him
WTF, that sorta stuff you talk about before hand.
You shouldn't date men is my initial reaction if you won't accept an apology after being rougher than you wanted during a blow job. If he feels bad and it's an honest apology, then let it be in the past. If you get off to "teaching him a lesson" then perhaps you shouldn't date anyone. Not trying to be an asshole but I've been putting up with enough crap from women that my patience is basically gone. Hope you guys work things out
Ever vomited from a blow job? ? No!!! It's literally chocking in your own vomit. I don't think you are in a position to tell me I should quite on dating men, I simply asked if I'm a harsh or not, if you think I'm harsh just say so
You are too harsh. Shit happens, but if anger is your preferred reaction then enjoy
A little try again another time if you feel you can trust him hopefully he learned his lesson
Yeah he deserves it for a while.
Do what you think is best...
Nope! He doesn't deserve one.
Honestly I would have bit down if he refused to stop. Definitely dump his ass as well.
I'd dump you. Be lucky he still has you around
Yeah I should be grateful he didn't chock me to death... yeah you are right
Now you're just being over dramatic
I'm not being dramatic here. all I was thinking about while giving him that damned head was that I can actually die giving a blowjob and let's just say that us not the most honorable way to die.
Lol.
He needs to learn his lesson. At least wait for some time until he's understood his mistake.
I'm planning to do just that.
Good luck!
sounds like ur inexperienced, and feeling embarassed. u'll get over it.
So that is my bad because I'm not experienced!!! What make you think I'm inexperienced in the first place?
"So I offered my boyfriend a bj after I went down on him he became more aggressive and he started facef**king me I couldn't handle it and tried to free myself but ended vomiting a little on him."
Ever tried facefucking and not vomited? ? Please give me some TIPS from your experience?
no thanks.
Okay then sit aside and don't make sily assumptions 😞
dont ask silly questions.
You mean your ex right?
Well look at the comments, some think I'm too harsh on him.
"I tried to free myself " if that's not a red flag well go luck to you.
He needs to not face fuck you unless thats what you want. So I understand you cutting him off for that. Just dont cut him off forever, sex needs open communication so just tell him you didn't like it rough. If you cut him off all together you may put a rift in your relationship. He needs to learn his lesson though. So cut him off but not forever
you're too harsh.
I'd do the same...
and I would probably stick to that part "not giving him a bj" for a long time.
I think this relationship has a grim future. Head for the exit now.
Why? Don't you think there is any hope for us?
I do not. He showed a dark side you can't fix.
probably a little too harsh
I'm not planning to cut him off for ever.
then tell him that
Better to give me instead of him, he is novice