I told my boyfriend I wasn't happy anymore and all he said was I'll try harder and passed out on me. Do I have the right to be upset?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and now I just don't feel the passion anymore. I have to beg for sex and he refuses to kiss/ make out with me. So today I finally got the courage to say something and he barely said anything. It absolutely broke my heart because sometimes he's so interested in me and other times there's not a care in the world. Then on top of that he fell asleep so I just started crying there in the dark because I feel like my relationship is more like a friendship where we just screw each other from time to time. Even when we do have sex he doesn't kiss me or give me any foreplay. I just feel so lost in my relationship and I don't know how to fix it.

[shadowlegend]

2 years it about right for this to start happening. You've got in a routine, he feels like he is officially done chasing and he has you settle. It's good that you told him exactly how you feel, be assertive or the problem never gets dealt with. You have a right to say what you need and what you want, and he probably needs time to contemplate it (guys always need more time than girls). If intimacy is the only problem be a little patient. He now knows how you feel, there's a problem, let it sit with him for a couple of weeks so he can really think about it then readdress it. Ultimately you can't make him change how he treats you and either your needs are being met or they aren't and you're generally happy with the relationship or it's not what you want.

[zombiebabe]

i am really sorry to hear about that but i think you deserve to be happy... if a relationship hurts that much its better to end things here

[FakeName123]

"I feel like my relationship is more like a friendship where we just screw each other from time to time."

Passion just doesn't stay there. It needs to be developed and nurtured for it to keep flourishing. And it seems like you two didn't.

Thus instead of that firey passion didn't turn into a deep glowing ember that can always be sparked - but instead it just went off.

What you can do? You can BOTH work on it, accept that the relationship is almost sexless or end it.

[Asker]

How do I bring it back or how do we bring back the passion. He thinks the human mouth is disgusting. And he says that oral sex tastes bad. So all that's left is sex. And today he seems pretty upset about it. I told him that I wanted to tell him before the relationship was unfixable. I didn't say it to upset him. Now I feel absolutely terrible.

[FakeName123]

You need to make it clear to him that you don't feel satisfied sexually and that passion and sexuality is an important aspect for you for a romantic relationship - and it is kinda what makes the difference between companionship and a romantic relationship. Of course don't hit him in the face with it, but take time, sit down and explain and express yourself. Everything else is up to his reactions. If he sees that as a problem, if he is willing to improve things TOGETHER with you or if he blocks. It certainly is nothing you should feel terrible about though. Criticism in a relationship is important - as long as it's well-intended, respectfully said and constructive

[Anonymous]

Heey, he must pay attention to your needs.. and do foreplay before the contact, you must be all wet before he is inside you
if you were my girl, i would make you cum for a few times in a row every time we had sex :)