I told my girlfriend she was bad in bed now she won’t have sex with me?

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She told me to stick to my porn then what do I do?
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  • What did you expect would happen? If she's so "bad" at sex, as you put it, then in her mind removing sex from the equation altogether would "solve the problem". It can't be that bad if you're suddenly wanting the sex back.

    You could've approached it from an exploratory -- rather than judgmental -- perspective. Instead of saying "you are bad at X", you could say "I'd love it if you tried doing X in the following way", and then provide ongoing feedback when she does something you enjoy. It's classical conditioning essentially, you reward her when she does something you enjoy. And when she does something you DON'T enjoy, you can gently steer her into doing something you DO enjoy, which still results in her getting positive feedback.

  • Welcome to the "I fk'd up" club. Trust me, there are shit tons of members.

    To be frank, there's no BSing around that one. You must come clean and apologize.

    Tell her that you were stupid in thinking that she would find the remark comment. Tell her that you weren't thinking of what you were saying fully" "Kiss her ass profusely" "etc etc etc"

    If she still cares for you and understands that this was a boneheaded "guy" mistake then you just need to put serve some community 'ass kissing' sentence for a small time and all will be done.

    good luck dude

    • Thank you I fucked up bad

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  • hahahahaah

    dude, that was very unwise.

    why should she keep having sex with you when you say she is bad?

    it is like going to a restaurant, getting bad svc and food, then asking her if she wants to go back there to eat again.

    Suggestion: apologize to her; suggest to her that the 2 of you can learn to love and enjoy sex TOGETHER, and then teach her kindly what she needs to do to be better in bed.. and what you like her to do.

  • Is that how you said it? Because I’d feel the same way if I were her. It’s perfectly fine to let her know that she’s not pleasing you, but do it in a constructive way and tell/show her how to do what you like. It would mean a lot to her to receive encouragement and it all boost her confidence when she sees she’s pleasing you.

    • Yes I said it like that called her a statue... now she tells me to stick to porn... we love together and she won’t talk to me

    • That’s pretty harsh, tbh. Hopefully you’re able to come back from that mistake, because it sounds like her confidence got squashed by you and she’s embarrassed. Like going forward now she’s going to constantly scrutinize herself and not feel adequate in bed with you. That’s the last thing you want.

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  • How about either apologize or break up. You're an ass to say something so mean to someone you purport to like.
    If she's so bad in bed, why the hell are you with her anyway?

  • Imagine that!!! You insulted her and now she doesn't want to put herself at risk for a repeat performance. How DUMB are you? A lot of women and some men are really insecure about their sexual looks and performance.

    I suggest you send her some flowers, preferably roses along with a profuse, heartfelt apology. Instead of critiquing her, teach her. Tell her what you like and want and get the same from her.

  • You sound like someone should be left to jerk your own dick!

  • What did you expect? You deserve that for being so tactless.

  • Not exactly clever that, no wonder you EX girlfriend has acted as she has.

    Enjoy single life.

  • She should dump your ass.

  • Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

  • Don't blame her, serves your right for your lack of subtlety ! Sounds like YOU are not a skillful lover because if you were you'd have made sure you guided her and brought out the sexual side of her, and it's quite obvious she doesn't enjoy sex with you

  • Dude, why would you do that? You're now gonna have a lot of cold showers.

  • Do as she says.

  • And you are surprised?

  • And this is surprising to you because...

  • What did you expect tho 😂😂😂

  • You apologize for being an ass, and probably break up if it bothered you enough to say something.
    There is no point to saying someone is bad in bed, because everyone starts out bad in bed, and no one is capable of being good in bed every single time even if they learned how to.
    What you should have done is requested specific acts and waited for her to get good at them.
    Or maybe not, because usually it doesn't take much, so if its that big an issue but porn works just fine, then maybe you aren't attracted to her specifically and thats why it feels like she's bad in bed?

  • I guess that’s it

  • 1. Apologize and give her some tips
    2. Stick to porn
    3. Find a new girlfriend

  • I think you win the dumbass of the day award. Go apologize profusely.

  • Bad move you probably should of kept that comment to your self. If it was the first time it is usually bad.

  • Dude that is the worse thing you can ever say to a woman. I don't blame her for not talking to you. If I was her I'd dump your ass. That was totally disrespectful.

  • Seriously why say that? Saved yourself from having bad sex. But you might lose sex forever.
    Or lose her.

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