I tried anal and hated it?

Tried anal for the first time ever 2 nights ago, I hated it. It wasn't a pain issue it just felt wrong and I felt so dirty and wrong afterwards. My boyfriend loved it, of course. Of course he wants to try it again soon. I'm not sure if I should tell him I hated it or give it another chance? Has anyone ever tried anal once and hated it, but then tried it again and ended up loving it?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • If it is not done right, most recipients of a penis in their anus will hate it.
    Ok, lets set out the rules for good anal sex!
    1, You should plan ahead and have a clean out with an enema, not essential, but best!
    2, You must be well lubricated with something like KY Jelly.
    3. You must be turned on first, really horny, and most important, you have to RELAX.
    4. The relax bit is the most difficult, you have to be relaxed in your mind, and your sphincter muscle will open quite easily, if you are not relaxed, forget it!
    5. Assuming that you have got yourself relaxed enough, your partner should take their time, be gentle, until your sphincter opens.
    6. Once you are open and the head of his penis is in, if you stay relaxed, it should be painless, unless his cock is a thick one!
    7. Once you are comfortable with his penis in your butt, the more you do it, the more your anus will accept it happily, and you will enjoy it every time!
    Enjoy.
    Get him to read this, if he objects, get a cock sized dildo and shove it up him and see if he squeals, then he should appreciate your co-operation!

    • He has plenty of experience, that isn't the issue.

    • No, the issue, quite rightly, is your reluctance and lack of experience, most of what I wrote was for your benefit, not his, but you do have to communicate about your natural fears between you, and ensure that your mind is in the right place. Or just tell him it is not for you.

    • HE said he has plenty of experience, not necessarily true. I approve @uknaked response. And in your case especially the turn on and relax phase.

  • So its more of a mental/emotional dislike for you... not physical. Hey, sometimes that happens...
    ALSO, your boyfriend could be shitty at it. Many guys wanna stick it in there, but unbelievably few know HOW to stick it in there.
    It takes Hella patience to do anal, and the prep is so extensive. some guys just stick "it" in... no no no...
    i dont blame you if you dont wanna try it again... dude's a moron.

    • He has tons of experience with anal, so I don't think that's the problem.

    • again... just because he has stuck it in a lot of butts (or has had his stuck idk)... doesn't mean he's experienced. what works for one doesn't necessarily work for the other. Apparently he can't tell its out of your comfort zone... and yours is mental... i'd find a way to get you out of that zone.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Just tell him you hate it. He probably has no clue you hated it. This one chick online said she told her boyfriend she hated anal, so whenever he put his dick near her ass from then on, his dick would literally start to shrink. Very few people want to hurt their partner or do things they hate.

    • Oh my god.

    • What?

    • The story about the guys dick shrinking. Lol.

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  • If you didn't like it, then don't do it again. Also, don't let your boyfriend pressure you into doing it, especially if you don't like it! Never have, never will try anal - just the thought really grosses me out.

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  • Do you keep hearing your mother telling you that no one should ever see you "back there?" Something like that?

  • It is an acquired taste. Give it more chances. It doesn't hurt so it's not a problem but you just need to time to get used to it and eventually you will like it.

  • You don't have to do it, your ass in not made for that, that's what you have vagina for. Their is even porn stars who refuse to do anal, so I am sure that you can too.

    • I mean there.

  • You hated it cause you don't like dirty haha

  • As long as your boyfriend enjoyed it lol

    • Seriously?

    • Think of it like vaginally sex it gets better with practice and yes it's wrong

  • i've had a few girls that said they'd never do it or they didn't like it the first time that learned to really like it, relaxing is an important part of it I think

  • It never is good for the first time.

  • I don't like anal. Anus is not place than I want to push my penis. Vagina is desirable and exciting for penetration.

  • did you go slow, and use lube?

    • like I said it wasn't painful.

    • I understand that, did you two do anything different the second time?

    • We haven't done it the second time yet...

  • I'll show you how its done 3192412745

  • The rubber snapped as I was cumming in her ass. Nowhere to go. She was on top, hope there isn't something I can catch Ajax won't take off

  • can some one tell me what does this anal means

  • i never tried it but i hate the fact

  • How did he behave after? Does he realize you probably need something emotionally after not just 'that was fun let's watch netflix'

    In some ways I suspect if it was painless with a little more experience it could be very pleasurable but who knows.

    • Just normal I don't know. I never get anything "emotionally" after sex so, I guess I'm used to it.

    • Well that's lame. :D Do you think if he's been really affectionate and protective and praising you after it would have helped?

    • Probably, yeah haha

  • Anal is not something you just try. I'm not surprised you didn't like it. This is how so many women get turned off to anal.

    • I'm confused...

    • Sorry, I can kinda see why. I'll explain where I was coming from. Most women whose first exposure to anal is a penis in their ass will not enjoy it. I like to start them out gently with a well lubed finger while I orally please them. I'll do that many times before trying anything larger. Once she has had 15 or 20 orgasms that way she will really enjoy the feeling and find it enhances her orgasms. We can then slowly work up to larger objects when she feels ready, always while she's masturbating or I'm making her feel good with my tongue. I can't imagine just sticking a cock in there for the first time. I'm sorry you experienced that.

    • It's ok.

  • Mmm did you get poop on his dick?

    • ... no

    • Did you lick it after?

  • Tell him you didn't like it.