I’ve never had sex before and I’m embarrassed about that. How do I get over this?

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  • Hey, I'll be direct. If it hurts, take it with a pinch of salt.

    1) stop telling yourself negative things. You actually believe them now, because you kept repeating them.

    2) instead start telling yourself you're an "average Joe" that girls will date and marry. That physically, you're healthy, and abled. Capable of impregnating girls.

    3) then go out. And meet people.

    A) obviously clubs and bars have plenty of girls. But not all are wifey material.

    B) other community area like chess, sports (swimming, skating, badminton, football, etc), cooking, social dance, all have girls who seek relationship. Go and join these clubs.

    C) learn to empathise. Girls want sex too. And many want to marry and settle down. Don't judge. Will you date them? You decide.

    D) learn to talk. Shyness is an excuse. As long as you're polite, talk sense and be modest, girls will respond. Don't just gossip about people. Read up news and talk about current happenings. And know the latest movies and hits.

    E) be generous. Buy your date drinks. And meals. Girls still like a gentleman.

    Finally, be prepared for many rejections. But hey, you're a man. Traditionally, girls are the gatekeepers. And still is. So keep trying. You'll eventually get a girl who is willing to take your virginity away.

    Have fun and laugh. This makes you attractive to girls.

    • Thanks

Most Helpful Guy

  • I went through the same anxiety and I can only tell you the way I combated it. Of cause this is not a recommendation, just the way I attacked the same issue. Go whore banging for practice. Then by the time you are with a babe you can show off that you are experienced. This is the best option. As a guy, you are lucky, the world is open to you. You can just go down the street to any all-nude bar and feel pussy and tits for tuppence. You can also go for a lapdance and ask her how much for a fuck. As a guy always remember, guys rule this world, and they have set it up so we are always just arm's-length away from pussy services.

    Now if you just can't get to a whore then go to a kind girl who you know very well, so well you can tell her your a virgin and you will not make a fool of yourself if you pre-ejaculate or anything. A girl who is a little older than you is an ideal candidate, if she is kind, she will feel sorry for you and help you. Come what may, don't tell any guys about this, guys are just fucking bastards, they will tell everyone and fuck your happiness, they may even tell all the bitches in your circle, just to humiliate you. So never make that mistake, don't even tell your blood brother type guy friends about this.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I don't find it embarrassing at all. I think it's good that some people are not desperate and wait for the right time. Or sometimes it simply happens, it's okay too.

  • Get “keeping up with everyone else” out of your mind.

    • Easier said than done. Coming from a late bloomer I can tell you nothing could remove that chip on my shoulder until I got laid

    • Well, just make sure you do it with the right girl and when you’re ready. 😊

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  • You're still a young man. Don't sweat it! There is a guy on here that is 31 and still a virgin. He constantly lies about getting pussy but everyone knows he's full of walrus shit! Don't be like him. Don't be a pretender or you might end up crazy like him!

  • Have sex.

    • Love too but how do I find a woman

  • There is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. The right girl will enter your life at the right time. Hang in there and until then use some "self pleasure" often to take care of things.

    • Yeah I’m using a lot of self pleaser.

    • All guys do but most will not admit it!

    • Oh I do it 2or three times a day

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  • Your best bet is to have sex.

    Get yourself a decent tinder profile, use YouTube for tips on how to get it right.

    Meet up with a girl (lower your standards if you have to)

    And once you get a handle on it you'll be a sexually active guy

    Trust me it's not shameful to bloom late.

    I lost mine at 22 and today at 25 have more experience than all of my friends combined

  • Why be embarrased?

    Have you ever asked a woman out?

    • Because if I don’t do it right. Like if she is more experienced than me. I think it would be weird. And no I’ve never asked a women out I’m to shy

    • Well thats the issue you need to ask women out. If you are shy you can do it through text

    • And dont worry just communicate

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  • Either have sex or stop choosing to be embarrassed. Feeling embarrassed is a choice.

    In the meantime, don't tell anyone. No one really cares that much anyway.

  • If you're really serious about losing your virginity, I recommend that you avoid telling anyone that you're a virgin.

    • Why?

    • Because most people are afraid of taking someone's virginity.

    • Yeah I can understand that. But won’t they be able to tell

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  • Is there a quality about yourself or an opinion about something you'd defend adamantly? Treat being a virgin in the same regard.

    I don't mean get defensive to the point you look insecure. Just look at it from the POV of "are you stupid" in a sarcastic way if someone makes fun of it. Anyone that's had sex realizes it isn't all that special, so you treating it like that would make sense.

    Anyway, everyone is on their own pathway in life to figure out who they aren't, so don't rush it. Take care of your fashion, hygiene, looks, take pride in yourself, and go after a girl if one pops up that you like. It's fine it doesn't work out, since at least there won't be any regrets or "what if's"

    • if it doesn't*

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  • It's difficult. What have you done? Any experience at all?

    • No experience at all I’ve never even kissed

  • Dont be embarrassed. Everyone is different. Just be yourself, find somebody that you like, go out on a few dates and see if she will have sex with you.

  • Why are you embarrassed? every needs a first. and some people wisely choose to wait. i think most people had sex to young , to immature , ans certainly not wealthy enough to take financial responsibility if they get knocked up. And of course in the horrid time post R-V-W , it’s
    many times more
    expensive.

  • I didn't have sex until 27.5, it's not a huge deal if you haven't had a relationship develop into sex yet.

  • By stop looking at it as the goal. And more as incidental to the goal of finding someone you like.

  • Is paying for sex or going to an escort or sex worker out of the question for you?

    • Yeah none around here