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I’ve woken up to my partner masturbating next to me a few times in the last month?

Last night I woke up at like 6am to my partner masturbating next to me, whole bed shaking. We’d had sex the night before. That’s not the first time it’s happened to me recently but I don’t have the nerve to tell him it’s waking me. Last time it happened, I woke up and it turned me on so I ended up going in for it eventually but last night I was tired. I’ve noticed that if I stir at all he stops and just cuddles me and doesn’t try to finish which is sweet.

men, is it a sign he’s comfortable around me if he’s doing that in the bed beside me? He definitely doesn’t appear to want to get caught because when I woke up this morning he quickly stopped and when I asked what was up he was like “nothing I’m fine” but he’d turned me on at that stage but I was too sleepy to do anything but I find it hot but don’t know how to address it with him without embarrassing him? Like how do I tell him I woke up to it but that I found it hot

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  • I would say most men masturbate. usually they do it when ther partner isn't around. I'd much rather have sex than masturbate. I play with myself in the morning when she's lying next to me - it's just playful and feels nice, sometimes I play with her, hopefully we both get arounsed and have sex but if that doesn't happen then I mght masturbate later on to relieve the tension or I might save up the tension for this evening and bang her brains out.
    I think EVERYONE should masturbate from time to time - it releases tension and may prevent an argument and it feels good and you learn about yourself in the process. Many women masturbate too. My partner had never masturbated before in her life (her mum told her not to) but I insisted that she does and bought her a vibrator. Now she uses that most nights we aren't together. It's made her VERRRY horny ALL the time and so when we are together she can't wait to rip my clothes off me.
    Her learning to masturbate has opened up her sexual feelings. When I met her I asked her how often she'd LIKE to have sex - she said a couple of times a week. Now, when I ask her she says EVERY night and EVERY morning - well at least all those times when we are together.

    Anyway, if you wake up next to your partner who is masturbating then say you want to watch and that you want to help if you can. They are already half way there and I find that arousing. Even if you don't feel like sex you can still help with your partner masturbating. Last weekend I couldn't get an erection for some reason. It has never happened to me before and lasted the whole weekend (OK now thank you for asking) but we still had some amazing sex (well SHE did).

Most Helpful Guy

  • Yes. He trusts you and is comfortable with you.

    You should ask him some time to masturbate for you. That'll get him used to the idea you're comfortable with it. He can shed his embarrassment.

    • You see, he’s masturbated beside me loads before but when I’m awake so I feel like he tries to hide it when I’m asleep in case he either wakes me or maybe he is just a bit awkward about me waking up to that!

Most Helpful Girls

  • Gross I'd feel so bad that I'm not enough for him and he does that while looking at me!

    Really talk with him and this is okay when it is not waking you or you don't want him doing it and will sometimes try and help him...

    Might be as simple as he is not happy with just the night or read for more like you were?

    Really only way to fix it is talk with him. For me we broke up!

    • We have a very good sex life, I presume he only did it to help himself sleep so I’m not upset by it!

    • SO your issue is to just not have him shake the bed? Then next time yell earth quake when he wakes you scare him and he probably won't ever wgain

  • If he thinks about you when he does it I think it's the ultimate compliment and it's great!

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  • The one thing I'd suggest it to try to convert it to a Han or blow job. Another is to watch him do what he does and learn from it.

    • We’ve masturbated loads together so I know what I’m doing in that department for sure! But if it’s pitch dark and he wakes me up by accident how do I convert to hand job? Will that not weird him out if he thinks I was asleep

  • He's become very comfortable with you. And if you like it tell him. Let him know it's alright, and that you may often help him.

    • Yeah I’ll say it to him. Because ages ago I mentioned to him that he could if he needed to because I think it’s ruder going to a bathroom to do it or something so I’d rather he do it beside me and I think he’s taken that seriously

    • I think that'll make him feel good.

  • He is not getting enough, a low confident guy.

    • But we are having sex frequently? We’d literally had sex the night before for nearly an hour and went to sleep and then I woke up to that 5 hours later?

  • Have u ever thought about masturbating with him?

    • Yes I have but how do I do that when he thinks I’m asleep? Do I just roll over and show him I’m not? I feel he’ll be embarrassed

    • Just kind of pretend to wake up. And then b into what he’s doing and let him know how hot or wet that’s making u.

  • Next time, just roll over and start going down on him. After he cums in your mouth, whisper in his ear, "Wasn't that much better than your hand?"

    • You took the words right out of my mouth. Thank you.

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