Your idea may work but I have found that this is a conversation that should happen away from the sex, say over an intimate drink. That way there's no pressure to do it right then. Tell him you love sex with him and that he's too damn big. A guy can't hear that too much and it'll stoke his ego to communicate. Tell him you won't judge or go screaming from the room, that you really need to know what he likes on the kinky side. Make him tell you, by offering him his favorite sex act if you have to. If spanking isn't on his list, tell him you really, desperately need a bright red bottom but you only want him to do it if it truly turns him on. If he's not a spanko, you may want to find a bf who is because we kinksters won't ever be truly happy unless we're getting out kinky sex.
Just try to make it spontaneous like you said, because springing something new on him in the bedroom is always hot. But rather than just asking him, why not try to work round to it, do something a bit mischievous like pinch his ass, twist his nipples, scratch his back, finger his butthole or something, and when he comments on it, be all 'so I'm being bad am I? Whatcha gonna do about it?' or something like that, all the while maneuvering yourself into a spankable position, giving your butt a quick wiggle. He should get the idea, and be turned on as hell to boot. He'll probably be a bit coy at first and only give you a soft pat so you might need to encourage him to be a bit firmer til he's giving you what you want, but I'm sure you can work that out.
Okay u need to tell him
It would be really hot or sexy if u spanked me I did this with my bf and it worked just have a safety word
I'm sure he won't find it weird if you ask him during sex. Tell him it would really turn me on if you spanked me
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Then don't ask, next time he is laying on the bed, stand in front of him, take off your pants, then your underwear (Unless you want them on) and literally just get over his lap. If he has the "spank the girl gene" he will get the idea and it shall commence
If it's your thing. Ask him.
1. If you are nervous to vocalize it (actually I don't see a reason why) then you can probably get going doggy style with him and spank your own butt once or twice and he'll get the drift
2. Alternately, if you guys watch p*rn you can suggestively show him videos where a girl's being spanked
3. Well my gf has been quite conventional before she met me (too conventional I must say, I'm the first person to who she even gave a BJ & she's awesome at it) so spanking and stuff was nowhere in sight or imagination. I just started spanking her while doing it and now she loves it everytime lol
4. So it's best to go with the flow and make things happen. No harm in trying, he may not know himself that something may be pleasurable :-)
Good luck :-)
Set up a roleplay. Hand him a ruler. Never sit down again.
Rather than ask try taking his hand and kinda show him and also show your reaction he will soon get the idea!
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