I wanna have sex but also I dont?

Hey! I don't know how to explain it in the best way but i'll try. For a really long time, i dont like my breasts appearance. They are not small, they just don't exist at all. I'm actually a person that anybody around me would conside as a confident person but nobody knows that I feel so unconfident with them. My family knows about it and i'll *hopefully* get a boob job in 6-7 months as soon as I turn 19.

Right now i have a relationship with a boy who is one year younger than me and we have been dating for 2 and a half months. I wanna have sex with him but i'm not ready to have sex with him but only because of my boobs. I don't even let him touch them and he is probably not enjoying it.

But he never mentions to have sex, or anything. I know that most guys are thinking about it or wanting it without hesitation but i like the way he is about not complaining about it. I know that sex is a really important part of the relationships, especially nowadays but i hope you understand my insecurity.

However, i wouldn't want to be in a relationship where i have to have sex to keep the relationship going and make him stay. If he could wait for my boob job, and untill that time i'd do other stuff to keep relationship alive and etc. if we'd still be dating of course.

Who knows what'll life bring. Waiting for your answers!!
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  • Ah-tah!
    Loving boobs is instinctive as illustrated by South Park.

    "Yes, Ah-tah" scene in which Randy, Stan's Dad, explains the nature of boobs to Stan. From Season 06 Episode 10, "Bebe's Boobs Destroy Society".
    https://southpark.cc.com/clips/153593/yes-ah-tah

    Kenny's first "cheesing" hallucination scene in which he's about the lather the daughter with the "awesome rocking tits" in the Fountains of Varnoth. From Season 12 Episode 03, "Major Boobage".
    southpark.cc.com/clips/164807/i-was-so-close

    Anyway, you will be fine and loved. Believe me.

    So, let's talk about boobs...

    Big boobs and small boobs all have their plusses and minuses.

    For instance:
    1. Big boobs are great for titty fucking and motor boating but are usually less sensitive and give the woman back problems which she will complain about.
    2. Small boobs are not great for titty fucking or motor boating but are usually more sensitive (so nipple play is better) and the woman will never have back problems from her boobs.

    As far as attractiveness is concerned, yeah, boobs can have an impact, but animal sexuality is much hotter.

    So, let's talk about small boobs more...

    "More than a handful is wasted." - Paul B.

    This is Pat Benatar circa 1980. As you can see, she's not going to win a wet t-shirt contest. However, she is screamingly hot and this is because of her femininity and animalistic sexuality.

    https://youtu.be/IvSbQB6-UdY



    For more evidence, take a look at Joan Jett...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSqp-W1pWoU


    https://www.dailymotion.com/embed/video/xltn4c

    So, girls with small boobs can definitely rock it...

    The hottest woman I know is an A-cup. Besides, for me, in my fantasies, A-cups are more than enough...

    By the way, B-cups are the actual normal. So why is the average around C now? Women getting fat.

    But I want you to think about something: If a man makes boobs a high priority, then he's not marriage material... Why? Women of all breast sizes get double mastectomies (like Angelina Jolie, Ann Jillian, and Christina Applegate). If a man can't appreciate a woman with small boobs, why should he appreciate a woman who has had a double mastectomy? "In sickness and in health" are more than just words. I told my wife (who has a nice rack and I like boobs too) that I'd still love her and stay with her even if "the girls left the party".

    ANYWAY, don't worry about your breast size. Believe it or not, who you are is actually more important to us than how you look. When young, we may be obsessed with looks but we grow out of that fast as we get experience with women's personalities.

    • Thank you so much, your support means too much.

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  • Look, it's your body, and you can do with it as you please, but for myself and a lot of men, we'd find you LESS attractive with implants than with your natural small boobs.

    Look at Keira Knightly or Kate Hudson - they are nearly flat, and there's millions of guys who find them hot and attractive and would sleep with them in a second. And it's not like they don't realize these girls are flat-chested - they know, they just don't care.

    Your boyfriend knows what your body looks like. He didn't start dating you because he thought you were hiding double-Ds under your shirt, and yet he chose you anyway and seems to be happy dating you. Clearly your boobs are not a problem for him - they're only a problem for YOU, because you have it in your head that if your boobs aren't big, they aren't good. That's FALSE - but it's how you think, I understand. But don't project your insecurities onto other people - most people are fine with your boob size and aren't at all put off by it. That's mostly just in YOUR head.

    You probably are going to ignore me, and, again, that's your right, but you really should get on YouTube and watch some videos from all of the women who have had complications from implants - including many who have gotten very, very sick. Even if you go ahead with it anyway, at least you'll have an understanding of what can happen, and you'll be hearing it from the mouths of the women who went through it.

    https://www.youtube.com/embed/LHCbH-atW2Uhttps://www.youtube.com/embed/nWIso8Vm7mMhttps://www.youtube.com/embed/N1M-A3v5NoAhttps://www.youtube.com/embed/YdIYZa50ZZ0

    There are hundreds, maybe thousands of these videos...

    • Thank you so much for your support and beautiful ideas. Thank you for sharing your ideas, it means too much for me.

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  • You're overthinking the boob issue and the sex. Just chill. The boob issue I can assure you is not a problem for the guy. He doesn't care. Most guys love boobs of all shapes and sizes. Also, don't be a rush to have sex because of peer pressure or the guy. Wait until YOU are ready and it's the right time and person. Enjoy life at your age, you're young and all that stuff will sort itself out and happen naturally.

    • Thank you so much

    • You bet. It will all work out.👍

    • Turns out he is not that into my small breasts.. yesterday after i stand back while he was trying to touch my boobs he said that "are you not letting me because you think they're small, i wouldn't be letting you touch my penis if it was small too." That was too mean and unbeliavable

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  • he's not dating your boobs he's dating you. You should have confidence, guys like boobs small or not.

    • THANK YOU!

  • It depends on how long he is willing to wait. I wait up to 2 years.

  • I always prefer natural. Regardless of the size.
    Unless of course, they are huge and causing the woman back pains, then I would support a reduction.
    Besides, if the size of your chest is the only reason that a man will date you, then you can do better!

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  • Getting a tit job is expensive and needs attention when it wears out.
    You are much better with what you are born with. Be proud of them.
    They are part of your femininity and your sexuality.
    As long as you have perky nipples, that’s all you need.

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  • To be frank, you should allow him to feel your natural boobs if he wants to.
    And have you discussed getting boob job with him?

    • Yea i always say that ill get a boob job and he doesn't say anything about it, thanks

    • Okay. You are right about one thing, if you have a guy who really loves you, you wouldn't have to offer sex for him to stay.

    • You're right thanks

  • Wait till you're ready

  • if he cares about you, the size of your boobs is not even a factor to him, just you

    • Thank you

  • A boob job will make you less attractive to most men tbh. I feel sorry for people that wish to mutilate their bodies simply because they aren't happy with their own skin.

    Good luck to you, but it's likely to blow up in your face.. You should talk with him to see if he feels the same way about your breasts..

    • Thank you.

  • I know bsex is the important part of life, i have 2 suggestions for you-
    1. Start finger your pussy and press your boobs harder, and when you get confidence then offer or ask him to have with you..
    2. Massage your boobs with warm coconut oil twice in a day ( but little harder).

    • And please do massage from warm coconut oil, my girlfriend also feels size change in her breasts size.

    • Thanks for the advice, i'll give it a try

    • Thanks for taking this, 2 suggestions, use warm oil, and massage little harder as much as you can, so that blood circulation will improve there

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