I want to give my boyfriend a threesome but I'm not too confident if he'll leave me or not?

Question

Last night during sex I asked him what his greatest fantasy is... and he said I already know. And then I said what? Two women? And he laughs and said yea. So I got into it and said would you like me and her to lick the tip of your dick until you cum. He laughs and said yes. We talked about 3 sums before but basically I said I'd like a mfm first and he disagreed. But then agreed months later if I wanted group sex. What's your thoughts on this? Anyones relationship got screwed over cause of a three sum? I want monogamy but I also have fantasies.. Thanks!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

From experience, only agree to do this if you’re completely sure you can handle sharing him with another woman. You’ve got to be secure in your relationship and not be the jealous type. A few years back, one of my best friends talked me into a threesome with her and her boyfriend. It was a fun experience in the moment but things soured soon after. Apparently she thought he was too into me during the sex and it caused problems between the two of them and she was angry at me because I apparently was trying to lure him away in her mind. She ended up cutting me off completely, even though the entire thing was her idea. So be careful. Be sure it’s what you want and that you can handle it emotionally. Be sure also that you can trust him to stay committed to you after you introduce extracurricular sexual activity to the relationship.

AshleyTaylorDanny · Accepted Answer

Well talk about it some more. If you guys only want a threesome now and then to add some spice then he should be open to your fantasy too. If you are bi sexual then FFM shouldn't be a problem. My husband and I have done a few mmf in the past. While it was ok and fun I much more prefer my girlfriend being with us... but everyone's preferences are different.

JPrez · Accepted Answer

Just my opinion but most dudes don't want another dude involved because (A) they don't want to see another dudes junk and (B) they don't typically want another dudes D in their girl's V and also accidentally touch swords... eww. In regards to another girl, I will tell you that you're possibly playing with fire because if you let your guy feel another girl's V and watch the way she looks at him while he's doing it, you risk your guy being enthralled with her goods and possibly dumping you for her. I'd leave it to fantasies. Just being honest.

summiter · Accepted Answer

I had one but I was probably younger then you. When I was a honey Sophomore in college (19years old) my girlfriend told me that her roommate (who was way hot) wanted to join us for sex. How could I saw no? Anyway the three of us spent an entire afternoon and night naked and had tons of sex. Sure I had to take a few breaks to recharge but the orgasms were great. The next day I was kinda sore but I had a big smile.

It did not happen again and did not mess up our relationship which was kinda a friends with benefits relationship anyway.

AustinMan · Answer

I've always avoided group sex. It just seems like an emotional minefield to me.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Some fantasies are meant to remain as a fantasy. If you have any insecurity at all about your sexual appeal to him as this will make it worse.

wankiam · Answer

you both need to do more talking thats for sure.

EyebrowChewie · Answer

goodluck, he'll consider cheating on you because you allowed it this one time and he won't think you have a problem with it.

Anpu23 · Answer

I've done a bunch of three ways both MFM and FMF and I can tell you that there are sexy, fun and destroy relationships. If you go into this open communications and clear boundries are absolutely necessary and be ready for a little emotional response.

KirstyW · Answer

If you're having doubts like this, then you're not ready. You guys need to talk some more and both be in completely the same place about this.

es20490446e · Answer

Having sex with multiple people is the same as having sex only two. The question is that when you have sex only with a partner it generally feels more fulfilling, as you have real intimacy.

DiegoO · Answer

That's a good way to end a relationship.

Born-for-sex · Answer

You probably shouldn’t get in to it when you both are feeling insecure about each other. You need to be confident that he is doing whatever specifically for you and vise versa. But if you really want to try it then maybe just try bringing another girl around. Just to hang out watch how you both react to stuff. Take your time with it.

Wise4myage · Answer

If you any doubts, and it sounds like you do, than don't get involved in a threesome..

Twalli · Answer

I think it really depends. Some relationships last others don't

Paul09 · Answer

If you'd do FFM for him, he better do MMF for you. But not touching the dude lol. It all depends, you're all adults, You agree to trying it out, why not? Set some rules.

Valnac · Answer

I would never want to see another man’s cock inside my girl.

AFellowWeeb · Answer

you're both disgusting, nice match

abc--123 · Answer

I haven't actually had a 3some but if my girlfriend arranged one and was cool with me fucking another woman it would make me fall more in love with her