I want to give my husband a lap dance but I'm insecure and not sure if he'd want one from me?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my husband for 7 years. We have a good sex life in general but I'm super insecure...
Obviously like every man now a days he likes girls who are curvey (big booty, thick thighs, hour glass shape) I'm not that. Far from it actually. I have a small butt, small thighs, and a ugly pussy. I'm just average. Nothing sexy about me.
I am currently not working and he is, so for Christmas I didn't know what to get him. I really would like to get sexy, nice lapdance, sloppy blowjob and etc.
I'm scared he's gonna laugh at me in his head for trying to be sexy when I'm clearly not. Shaking my small but in his face. I don't want him to wish I was someone else or looked like someone else doing this.
So I'm wondering if I should just forget the whole idea or if it really would be something he'd enhoy...

[dizmuhjam]

I suggest you not to do it. From what I can see in your text you're insecure about it, and after a 7 year relationship you know your husband by now and probably know what reaction to expect. Thats why I think what you said about his reaction can be very accurate.

Also a labdance should only be done if you feel HOT if you dont feel like that "I have a small butt, small thighs, and a ugly pussy. I'm just average. Nothing sexy about me." it will simply end horribly and cringy.

Just give him good head, and have sex as usual.

[truthbeknown]

You can do these things in all separate occasions for test runs. For example, if you two are in the kitchen, you can stand in front of him and back your ass into his crotch and just do a little dance or wiggle it on him. Same thing if you two go to sit down on the couch together. You can do a short little dance. Lots of videos on the internet for ideas. This gives you a bit of practice, testing, build some confidence all while thrilling and teasing him at the same time.

[MadCringey]

Damn you're married to a guy for 7 years and don't feel confident enough to give him a lap dance?

There's a good chance he finds you sexy.

[yunghieionthefreeway]

A married man would never turn down a lap dance from his wife. The fact that you wanna give him one and go through the efforts to do so speaks volumes about you. Believe in yourself.

[thechico79]

he would appreciate your efforts in getting out of your comfort zone.