I want to wait maybe 5-7 months of dating until I have sex does this sound like a good idea if I want a long lasting relationship?

[Helppleasemaybe]

We’ve been dating for almost two months, we have a very sweet and loving relationship and I am a virgin but he’s not. I want to have sex after dating for 5 months to 7 months or more because I want to experience things I am not religious but he is. And I’m a bit scared by what my dad told me that if I give myself to him before marriage he’ll lose interest. Also my hormones are driving me crazy I have a very high sex drive but I’ve never given my virginity to no one. According to him sex is something beautiful that requires respect and I agree hopefully me waiting 5 months to 7 months of dating him proves that. I also don’t want to get hurt but to be honest I want sex really bad I don’t know if that’s normal or if it’s wrong but I want it after the time that I’ve been talking about.

[tacobellofficial]

Being someone who got trapped in a relationship I hated after having sex on the first day, I think its an amazing idea to wait. Me and her lasted about a year and a half but we were always arguing, and if we weren't arguing, we were having sex. Just don't give in to the urges, but if he pushes for it, try to let him down easy. Guys can get really hurt if you just blatantly yell no at them, especially if you've been together for a long time. Discuss the idea with him so he knows he's not doing anything wrong, you just want what's best

[Helppleasemaybe]

Should I tell him directly that I want to wait 5 to 7 months? I never yell at him we’re both very sweet

[tacobellofficial]

I wouldn't mention it unless the topic of sex is brought up.

[Helppleasemaybe]

What if he tries to touch me what do I do? Slowly move away without saying anything?

[tacobellofficial]

Avoid it. Then immediately explain why to reassure him. If he gets angry then he's clearly not gonna wait that 5 months. If he stays calm when you explain why you want to wait, he's a keeper

[Johnnyready]

I will say my opinion, what if he is with a erection distinction, or what of he has a tiny cock or what if you married. Then you have sex and then also he can lose interest and leave you, a long relationship is about to share and be a complement each other, and must be done every day, and you have to be sure of what you have and it it will work, of course if he leaves, that means he never loved you, but is good to wait some time, you have the choice

[Jxess]

Why do you want to wait exactly 5 months tho? I think you will know after 2 months if he is serious or not (if he's invested in you or not, intersted in other girls or not etc)

[Helppleasemaybe]

Because I’m a virgin and I’m still not ready I think

[Helppleasemaybe]

Also my parents are always around 😂

[Jxess]

I think you do not have to label it with a time limit. I think you should just wait until you are ready and it feels ok. That can be 1 month or 6 months, its important that you feel ready and you want it

[Helppleasemaybe]

I’m kind of a baby lol I’ve recently learned how to kiss lol he was my first true kiss and I’ve still never kissed with tongue

[Helppleasemaybe]

But I’m often horny and fantasizing about having sex with him wondering if that’s normal I don’t know if that means that I’m ready and I do have a high drive. But another thing is that im insecure about my body very insecure

[Jxess]

Having hormones is normal at this age. Nothing wrong with that! If it feels like having sex is a really big step after kissing, maybe slow things down. But if you think you might be ready I would say give it a go and if it does not feel right then don't go further then kissing. If he really likes you he will respect you and your choice

[Jxess]

Also insecurities are also normal, everyone is insecure about something and being a teenager with so much hormones makes it normal to be insecure too. I think having sex will empower you and maybe love your body more, or get in sync with your body and soul

[Helppleasemaybe]

I’m just always horny it’s crazy lol but I think I will wait for sure for at least 5 months

[Helppleasemaybe]

5 months of dating I mean we’ve been dating for almost two months only

[Jxess]

Alright you should do what feels right! You could always get to know your own body first

[Helppleasemaybe]

How do I do that? Lol

[Jxess]

What do you mean?

[MrTuxedo]

5 months is perfectly long enough.

[Helppleasemaybe]

Is something wrong with me because I want to have sex and I constantly fantasize having sex with him and riding him is that normal? I also masterbate like 5 times a day I don’t know if I’m normal

[MrTuxedo]

Of course it's normal, especially for you, an 18 year old. Kinda surprised you're able to keep it together and not wanting to have sex with him right now.

[Helppleasemaybe]

My parents are always there 😂

[0112358]

Whether you wait or not probably won’t have that big an impact on how long the relationship lasts.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Everything you say is totally right

[genericname85]

That sounds like a good idea if you want a desperate guy that is willing to put up with that long of a wait for sex xD

[Jansetta]

Sounds good to me. Do not overthink please.

[Twalli]

My girlfriend and I waited 6 months before sex.

[Helppleasemaybe]

I could wait 6 months but just in case is 5 months fine? If a guy could wait 5 months that means he’s serious right? Will he think that I’m easy?

[Twalli]

It's up to you. I read that you can't hide crazy for 90 days, so you should wait at least that long. I didn't want to hurt my girlfriend so I wanted to wait longer so she was truly comfortable with me. When you do it, do cowgirl, that's the best position for virgin girls. It lets you control the depth and speed.

[Helppleasemaybe]

I absolutely fantasize about being on top all the time lol I probably will but I will probably let him be on top first

[Twalli]

You should be on top at first. Missionary or doggystyle is best for guys, but for your first time you should control depth and speed so it feels good for you.

[Helppleasemaybe]

Would it be wrong if I initiate the sec by kissing him while I’m on top of him and rubbing myself on his jeans?

[Twalli]

No, but I would still say "I want to have sex" to him when you do, so there is no miscommunication

[Numbnuts89]

3rd date

[bigdmatt]

It works that's what I wait.