I was sexually assaulted and now I don’t know what to do or how to move on?

I went out with some friends the other night and got way too drunk, so drunk that I somehow ended up at some guy’s apartment down the street from the bar. I honestly think he guided me to go back with him because he wasn’t attractive and I would never have slept with him. At his place he kept trying to kiss me and touch me even though I didn’t want to, I was scared though so I wasn’t very aggressive when I said no. He pushed me into his bedroom and pushed me
on the bed and got on top of me. I tried pushing him off but he wouldn’t budge. Then he tried kissing my neck and grabbing my boobs. He tried to pull off my shirt but I kept moving his hands away. I started having a panic attack. He kept asking if I was okay and if I was mad at him. I kept saying no I’m not mad but I really want to leave. He kept saying no stay. I somehow got to the door because at this point I’m starting to sober up because I am scared as hell. He then blocked the door and said no stay. This went on for 30 minutes. I don’t know why I wasn’t more aggressive, I guess I was just terrified he would try to hurt me. I finally got out and ran to the elevator. He followed me and blocked the door from closing. I ran down the stairs and told the front desk lady and then he came down and put his arm around me. At this point I called my friend and she came and picked me up and the guy left. I know I could’ve been more rude to the guy but I keep thinking about this incident and feeling so disgusted and I don't know what to do now. I didn’t even know his name.
I just want to forget it happened but I don't know how. I feel ashamed that I wasn’t more aggressive with him. Can you guys tell me how you moved on from your traumatic experiences?
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  • I think you handled the situation exceptionally well considering how scary it must have been. You successfully resisted and got out, that's something you should be incredibly proud of, not ashamed.

    You can press charges against him for sexual assault and attempted rape. Talk to the police even if you don't know much about this guy. But have them create a record of what happened so if he ever tries something like that again they'll have a lead on him. Or maybe you weren't the first victim, and your record is a crucial piece of the puzzle.

    As for how to get over it, I can only compliment you again on how you handled the situation. Be proud of it and tell the story of how you successfully fought off a violent creep who will likely end up in jail for what he did.

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  • Well I would frame it differently.

    Perhaps you should have been more assertive. But you were actually assertive enough. You kept your clothes on didn’t have any sex acts and got out of there. You were concerned about him getting violent. He didn’t. Maybe you handled it perfectly.

    so it was a shitty thing that happened and I’m sorry that it did, but for starters stop beating yourself up when you sort of did okay.

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  • Call the police. have him brought up on charges.

    • I don’t know his name or anything about him

    • Should go out of your way to find. He probably does that nasty shit all the time. You could save other woman

    • @jahaims I know that’s why I feel especially bad... I’ve been trying to find the apartment it was I’m going to drive there tomorrow and see if I can remember

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  • You coud report his behavior, perhaps?

  • You didn’t let him fuck you and you got out of there so you did well. Going out drinking is really dangerous as a girl, you should honestly avoid it until you have a boyfriend who can shitkick potential fuckheads

  • Call the cops that's rape

  • Take a self defense course.

  • Will it feel better to turn him in? If so, you should. Most people would say you should turn him in anyway, but this is about you, not him.