I wore a thong on a date and he thought that = me wanting sex. Do guys normally think this way?

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On the second date we were making out and he started reaching down to my butt and then paused and said “damn. You’re wearing a thong?”, and aggressively started to make out with me more. Fast forward nearly 4 dates later. We went back to his place and things started to escalate again. I was wearing another thong because I LIKE THE WAY THAT THEY FEEL. We end up having sex for the first time. After sex he was like “woah. I didn’t expect that.” And I was like “what does that mean?” And he was like “Didn’t expect to have sex with you this early. Did you? I mean you’re wearing a thong so...”.

Can someone translate this for me? Is is he just a jerk? This made me upset. Women, have you ever experienced this? Men, what would you think of your date if she wore a thong?

I wore a thong on a date and he thought that = me wanting sex. Do guys normally think this way?

Effably · Accepted Answer

I don't want to offend anyone but come on people. It is a rather commonly shared view that if a girl has some sort of fancy matching lingerie on then you, as a guy, were not the one who had made the decision that you two were sleeping together that night - she was.

This guy is supposedly going by the same form of logic but somehow equates the whole matching lingerie to attractive lingerie.
It really is a pretty simple logic to follow.

But yes. If we, as guys, notice or feel that a girl put thought and effort into her underwear that day (and obviously we somehow get to see it) then that does read as a sign that she had intended to keep sex on the table.

bowenw · Accepted Answer

I'm guessing he would have gone for it regardless of your underwear. Next time you see him try wearing granny panties and see how he reacts. He may say something else made him think you wanted to have sex, such as, "Your nipples were hard so what did you expect."

El_Dorado · Accepted Answer

First of all sis, don't date him anymore. He is definitely a jerk.

AllieOops · Answer

I guess if you wear one and are making out with a guy and he feels it he may think that. But since you did have sex with him it appears he was right.

MrCommodore · Answer

No, although if I'm see her underwear, its usually a good indication of sex being a possibility.

CapnHawk · Answer

Some do and some don't. If my date wears a thong, it's because it is probably the most comfortable for her to wear.

slatyb · Answer

That's pretty stupid. I would assume she wore them because she found them comfortable or she likes the look (no VPL).

Stevepro68 · Answer

NO But it does warrant a thank you. Now if all you are wearing is a thong and nothing else that is a different message entirely

Dargil · Answer

It does suggest that.

ColHathi · Answer

Eh, I could imagine she'd wear it for either reason.

lukeedmonton · Answer

He sounds like he got his sexual education on the playground by other  boys. He may be immature but if you educate him and he is still like this you may want to find a better guy.

tofamous · Answer

Doesn't necessarily get laid It just shows that you take great expense and making sure that the you looking feel sexy it's not always for the other person LA Times for the individual

Jersey2 · Answer

So the next woman to post will be complaining that her boyfriend didn’t pick up on the obvious hints she was dropping so they could have sex... you know, like wearing a thong.

ashish804 · Answer

its kinda u r being prepared if u get stripped off... so u were ready to get fucked if it's kinda matching

Larry30 · Answer

You should always be treated with respect. Thongs are very sexy but self control is important. ll it tells me is you are sensual and sexy))

Wise4myage · Answer

He's being a dumbass, but that's how some men think.

TheFlak38 · Answer

maybe you're the easiest slut he met so far.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

For me, thongs are a turnoff. If my date wore a thong, I'd end things immediately.

MountAverage · Answer

No, he's an idiot. You are dating an absolute idiot.

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

I don't think that he was trying to be a jerk. He misunderstood. He might have thought that you wore special underwear when you intended to be intimate

COMMODOREII · Answer

Unfortunately too many guys especially players read too Michael into what a girl wears thinking this means you want sex or that means you want sex. We need to stop cause too much "subtle" messages and just communicate with each other. There is nothing wrong with a girl asking the guy for sex and there is nothing wrong with a guy not asking for sex. Just let it happen naturally and stop trying to read each other. Talk to each other.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

First of all a thong doesn't mean your into hookups but some guys believe that an usely rushing into sex to quik the relationship doesn't work only very few work out