Id rather just masturbate than have sex.. is that normal?

So, title pretty much says it all. I dont want to have sex with my boyfriend. Im really not interested at all. But i will gladly go rub myself out quick while he's gone.
Is this normal? I seriously am never aroused by him anymore.
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  • No that definitely isn´t normal and seems to me that you are not attracted enought to him to keep this relationship going, seems you hit the wall were the interest has just vanished, so i would ask, do you find him physically attractive? If not i am almost 100 % sure that is the problem, and if that is indeed the problem the only solutions would be for gim to work out and build the damn muscles or else you should break up with him because it is not going anywhere, if the physical attraction isn´t the problem then i think there is no come back for this and you should already break up because the spark isn´t here anymore.

  • Unfortunately normal. Next time pick a guy you like with a good skill set. There's a world of difference between masturbating and a handjob from a hot girl. Same the other way. And where the gold might come from for you is cunnilingus. Many girls wouldvforego intercourse for it.

    • The thought of his face down there makes me squirm. In a bad way.

    • When you are in love or at least infatuated with someone, that all changes. Regarding your current BF:
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    • As easy as that sounds its way more complicated. We have a family

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  • From your responses sounds like you love him but are no longer sexually attracted to him. Tough position to be in. Sometimes we go through dry spells but yours is clearly not that. You should probably reevaluate your relationship if this is an issue.

    • We have been trying to get back to "normal" but the sexual stuff has not changed.. He is such a great guy though that i dont want to hurt him.. Though this already is hurting us both

    • Yeah I can imagine. As some people like to disbelieve, sexual intimacy plays a large role in relationships. You just have to rekindle that spark and if you can't then it's probably gonna be like this for the rest of your relationship. Most people who can't rekindle end up chetaing or simply have an unsatisfying sexual relationship.

  • Sounds like you dislike sex with your boyfriend, not sex in general. Unless that's just a phase, I'd say you and your boyfriend aren't sexually compatible, it seems.

    • Its been like this for years now.. So im thinking it isn't a phase.. I just couldnt ever bring my self to leave him because of sex.. That sounds awful

    • And he's happy that way?

    • .. no. It hurts his ego understandably

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  • As long as your guy is good with it I don't see the problem.

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  • I'm not too different. I'd rather rub one out. I'm single, but I'm looking for someone to go on adventures with. Travel, learn with, have fun, enjoy the simple things and grow. I'm looking for a friend for life.

  • It's not common but also not weird. Some people just aren't interested in sex sometimes. There's nothing wrong about it.

    Do you still love him?

    • I love him yes. But i am not sexually interested at this point..

    • Maybe there is something in your life that stresses you out. Stress can cause lack of interest in sex.

    • My life is made of stress 😂

  • I think you should break up with him... if you feel that way. If you had any feelings for him... you'd teach him to do what... you do to yourself when alone, so you could share it with him.

  • Sounds like he isn't very good

  • You sound like a guy.

    • Thanks bro

  • You're obviously not in love with him and the spark has gone out of your relationship

  • Since I don't have a girlfriend I prefer to stroke or rub my penis with masturbation.

  • so how does he feel about you not having sex with him? i would feel like I repulsed you physically and it would totally hurt my ego if it was me.

    you and him need to have a serious talk about this at some point

  • It's totally normal, in some cases girls can satisfy themselves by masturbation more than sex

    • Well i mean it is way quicker lol

    • for sure :) :)

  • You said a KEY thing "I seriously am never aroused by him 'anymore' "
    ANYMORE.. Probably an indication that you need to fix what ailing, or move on.

    • I have been trying to work on it but nothing has changed in the sex department

    • Sometimes the spark just dies, If you love him and like being with him. perhaps you need to look for medical causes, or physiological issues. But you do get aroused, and do you yourself.. so I am not thinking any medical reasons.

    • I think our past history plays a part in whats going on

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  • Don't worry I do the same message me we can do it together

  • Deffs know how you feel. I do the same. no one knows better than yourself.

  • Personal preference

  • Sometimes I want chicken instead of beef
    So I just eat chicken.
    All you need to do is eat chicken, can't you see!!

    • Finally, a man who gets it!