Guys, if a girl asked you to help her with sex , is it a turn off?

If a girl you know (but are not dating) but assuming you are attracted to her at least a bit, told you she is shy in bed and wants to overcome it and asks you to help her.
Would it turn you on or totally turn off?
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  • I did this a long time ago. Had a friend of a friend who I kinda knew. When she was around we would hang out and talk. Nothing sexual but we talked about a long list of things.

    One day we got on the topic of dating and sex. She eventually confided she was "scared" of sex because she wasn't "any good" at it. Well, the conversation kept going and she asked if I would help her. It felt kind of weird. I really didn't know how I felt about "helping" or really knew what that meant or what was expected.

    We talked some more and I answered a lot of questions. I also asked a lot to try and find out what she was looking to learn. Also, what she already had a good grasp of.

    That went on for a few days. It then came down to actually making it happen. So we set up a "date" and we went through the whole thing. At areas I thought she really needed help I slowed everything down and guided her with tips to help her improve.

    I didn't find it a turn off. It was just a little weird at first because I didn't see her that way. But I saw she really wanted to get better and how much courage it took for her put herself out there and ask for help.

    • And you did find it weird because you were not really attracted to her that much?

    • It wasn't because I wasn't attracted. It was because I considered her a friend and didn't think about her in a sexual way. She wasn't bad looking. It's just our relationship didn't happen that way.

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  • Total turn on. Would be nice if more women would simply ask for sex without them thinking someone or others will think theyre a slut. Sex is a normal act/desire. I think asking may also suggest that she just wants sex with less emotional connection , but in this context of her being shy , she perhaps would like more of a love making session. Who knows, I just find it arrousing that a girl would ask for sex. In an odd way I find that being more responsible as opposed to say,,, dick teasing a man through false signals, etc. Asking for sex to me says she is strong minded, smart, maybe independent in a nice way, (not conceited) . Empowering actually to ask for what she wants. Without being judged.

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  • I would be flattered and if I was single I certainly would love to assist her. I would talk about birth control first and probably get a bunch of condoms.

  • It'd be a turn on and I would gladly offer my services.

  • Is it weird that's actually happened to me before? Lol.

    I did it why not?

  • Yes, it's a turn off.
    Because it's obviously a fake ass excuse, and she is simply a promiscuous chick with a kink.
    A shy woman would never have sex with a stranger.

    If you are sexually attracted to a man, just express it boldly and openly without resorting to some cringe roleplay about shyness.

  • I would feel her anxiety and want to support her through it Making sure all went at her pace and fulfilment

  • I don’t think that’s a turn off. Most guys would gladly help.

  • In my opinion most guys would be more than willing to help. But hopefully not unless they're single and unattached. The idea of two opposite sex friends exploring sex with each other for experience is actually nice. They care about each other and trust each other. But there's always the possibility of one or both of them catching deeper romantic feelings, which depending on the circumstances might be okay.

  • Assuming I were not "taken", which I am.
    Somewhere in between. I would want to explore it more first and I might accept her offer if good could come from it.

  • Depends on who it is. If it was any of my current female friends, it would turn me off because I don't see them that way. They are like sisters to me, I've known them between 8-10 years. But if it was someone I'd met recently and hadn't really gotten a sense of where we stood with each other, that might be different

  • That would turn me on. It honestly sounds like a dream come true, since I love the exploration phase of sex.

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